to feel let down by mumsnet

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A friend has been raving about mumsnet and said that i should join as it is "like talking to friends who are supportive, friendly and who give sound advice." I have been lurking on mn and have been reading lots of threads and have been put off from starting a thread myself because i found some of the replies really quite un friendly (to say the least) and some sound quite rude. I realize that mn prides its self on being a 'no nonsense' type of forum and life isnt all flowers and fluffy clouds, and that sometimes the truth isnt always 'nice' but i was quite shocked at some of the 'un sisterly' comments.

AIBU can be a little blunt. Some people are wankers. OTOH, lots of people are nice, there is a massive amount of kindness and compassion around. Just lurk on the relationships board for a bit to see that.
I'm on an antenatal thread full of lovely supportive women too.

We haven't had one of these threads for,oh, at least a week.

To be honest most forums have a bitchy side to them.

I'm nice, you may hang around with me.

What did you want to start a thread about? Why not ask us now, as we are here, problem shared/halved yadda yadda. Go on. We might be able to help/suggest solutions/signpost a way forward.

If you start a thread being rude about the people who use a forum, you are likely to get a lot of replies from people who feel a bit cross with you.

If you start a thread about a genuine issue, in the appropriate topic, you are likely to get a lot of helpful, supportive replies.

HTH.

got to classics to see the best of mumsnet.

It might change your mind. if it does, I'd advise name changing

Usual, has it been that long?

Ach..., MN can be the kindest and most supportive place in the world. It can also be rude, judgemental and bitchy. It's an internet forum after all. I've never yet found a website that doesn't sometimes descend into bad-temperedness when people want to let off steam.

If you really don't want to read the 'unsisterly' stuff, then stay away from the AIBU forum - the whole point of is it to provoke debate so yes there will be arguments! There are other forums such as relationships, antenatal clubs, conception, etc, which are far more about hand-holding and supportiveness if that is your reason for joining.

Baha, happy Friday OP.

It can be quite blunt here but its all words on a screen.

It can also be the most supportive, compassionate place going. I think the majority just don't tend to suffer fools gladly and won't beat about the bush calling someone a twat if they think its called for.

But yes, some people can be nasty bitches for the hell of it. Most aren't like this but on a site this big there will always be some.

Don't hang around with Honeydragon, she gives all the new girls Chinese burns.

Ahem.

There are parts of MN that are squidgier and fluffier than others, parts that are phenomenally supportive in the right sense rather than ineffectual pat on the back and nothing else sense, and areas that are challenging and occasionally somewhat rambunctious.
If you've tried AIBU, Chicken keepers, Style and Beauty, Relationships, In the News and the cookery threads and still found nothing that suits you, it's time to try elsewhere.

runningonwillpower - LOL at "all tofu and preciousness" I wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes

I always wonder where all the bitching is. I've only ever been on one thread where I thought people were saying seriously unacceptable things (and it wasn't in AIBU.)

Why is it on these types of threads the first response is ALWAYS someone giving their 'first ever' biscuit?! There must be a team of posters out there who've never posted a picture of a biscuit, just dying to proclaim it when it happens. Weird.

Anyway op, you're right, we're all horrible and the best thing you could possibly do about it is to start a thread pointing it out. Now everyone will want to be your friend

Oh sorry, Helen.

Didn't see you there

Have you only been looking in AIBU? To be honest its like using a tank of sharks to judge how nice fish are.

Bloody hell,that was fastest deletion I've ever had

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