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Original poster

to show my support for the Armed Forces

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CuntPuffin · 23/05/2013 11:52

Following yesterday's atrocious incident, I chose to wear a Help for Heroes shirt today. I have just been told off by a colleague, saying it was insensitive and inappropriate.

Bearing in mind I am ex-force as is my husband, I disagree and am proud to show my support for our Armed Forces. And told him this in fairly clear words.

Have I got this really wrong, or has he?

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NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 23/05/2013 11:53

YANBU if I had one I would wear it.

tomorowisanotherday · 23/05/2013 11:54

it depends what attitude you are wearing with it

getyourheadout · 23/05/2013 11:55

wear it and wear it with pride . he is so so wrong .

seeker · 23/05/2013 11:57

"Following yesterday's atrocious incident, I chose to wear a Help for Heroes shirt today. I have just been told off by a colleague, saying it was insensitive and inappropriate."

It depends. Where do you work?

AuntieStella · 23/05/2013 11:58

If you'd have worn it yesterday (ie before news broke), then keep wearing it.

Which I suspect is probably the case if you had one in the wardrobe.

But if it's not something you typically wear on a weekday, then I can see why it might provoke comment.

spacefrogg1 · 23/05/2013 11:58

"it depends what attitude you are wearing with it" !!!!! what does this mean?

Birdsgottafly · 23/05/2013 12:00

I think that we should all support peace. The rioting and throwing bottles at the police trying to keep peace at the demonstration by the EDL, beggers believe, tbh and i am not a fan of the police.

There was a soldier recently killed in similar circumstances in Cyprus, by a Muslim Man from London, but originally from Somalia. From what i understand this is a small minority, who hope to become bigger, that are following an agenda. It does need addressing, but in the right way.

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CuntPuffin · 23/05/2013 12:01

tomorrow I didn't say anything. I put it on, I had a coat over the top coming to work as I was cold. I have been on phone calls most of the morning at my desk. He just said it as a conversation starter.

My 'attitude' is one of immense sadness for a young man's family and friends. Horror at the media handling of it. I assume your implication is that I am some kind of BNP thug. I am not.

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Fookinell · 23/05/2013 12:01

Wear your t shirt and BE PROUD to, don`t be dictated to by twats.

Birdsgottafly · 23/05/2013 12:03

""it depends what attitude you are wearing with it" !!!!! what does this mean?"

Do you support the anti-social behaviour that is now happening? Do you support the racist crap that is being spouted? I would imagine that there are Muslim people who have left their houses this morning womdering if they are going to be abused in the street.

Raaraathenoisybaby · 23/05/2013 12:03

Insensitive to whom though?

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CuntPuffin · 23/05/2013 12:04

I have done a lot of fundraising for H4H and have several tops/t-shirts. I work in an office with a casual dress code. I am nowhere near Woolwich.

Everyone here knows my background. In fact many of them have sponsored me for events for H4H.

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Omnishambolic · 23/05/2013 12:04

I don?t think there is anything wrong with wearing it today, whether or not you would usually. Yes it's attention catching, but so what. So many people are donating to Help for Heroes today their website has crashed. Help for Heroes has become a way of expressing revulsion at yesterday and support for the Armed Forces, the victim and his family. Good for you.

spacefrogg1 · 23/05/2013 12:05

HFH is an amazing charity, by wearing the T-Shirt, irrelevant of if you have ever worn it before, just shows your support, a silent protest to say "we will not be broken". i am also ex forces and would wear mine with Pride.

spacefrogg1 · 23/05/2013 12:08

"Birdsgottafly

Do you support the anti-social behaviour that is now happening? Do you support the racist crap that is being spouted? I would imagine that there are Muslim people who have left their houses this morning womdering if they are going to be abused in the street."

Not at all, are you saying that if i were to wear my HFH T-Shirt that i am some sort of thug! what a very weird view of the world.

anklebitersmum · 23/05/2013 12:12

Wear it with pride. As you should.

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CuntPuffin · 23/05/2013 12:12

spacefrogg I think birdsgottafly was referring back to the person who originally started talking about 'attitude' further up there ^^

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spacefrogg1 · 23/05/2013 12:14

Arg right sorry birdsgottafly

tomorowisanotherday · 23/05/2013 12:14

I'm really quite concerned by some of the comments I'm reading here and on FB following the Woolwich atrocity. Here's a few of our home grown, respectable white serial killers:

Mick Philpott, Ian Huntley, the Moors Murderers, Harold Shipman, Fred & Rose West, Dennis Nilsen, the Yorkshire Ripper, Beverley Allitt. White people killing white people, and in some cases, not just cutting off their heads, but completely butchering them. There are dozens more I could have listed.

The aim of atrocities like this is to create hostility between communities, and judging by some of the comments I'm reading, it's beginning to work

SkylerWhite · 23/05/2013 12:14

Yesterday's events were terrible, no question. But the increasing fetishisation of the military makes me uncomfortable. Besides, there is an argument to be made that if proper statutory provision were put in place for wounded servicemen, then there would be no need for charities like Help The Heroes.

Apart from all that, wearing slogan t-shirts/tops to work is never ok, in my book.

tomorowisanotherday · 23/05/2013 12:15

I don't mean on this particular thread......

but I support peace... for all

Birdsgottafly · 23/05/2013 12:16

Space, it isn't my view of the world, there have been attacks on the police, the other public body who protect us from terrorism, by people wearing these t-shirts.

The racisim that is being whipped up, needs to be quelled by everyone and is being addressed by the charity. I think that any actions, as well placed as they are, that can add any fuel to the fire, should be thought out carefully and possibly decided against.

spacefrogg1 · 23/05/2013 12:19

I am not sure how due to the horrible situation yesterday, wearing a H4H T-Shirt has become a taboo!!

Also what does this mean "fetishisation of the military" - does it mean your concerned by the gorwing support for our Armed Forces of have i got it wrong SkylerWhite.

MadBusLady · 23/05/2013 12:20

I am a complete woolly liberal and there is nothing wrong with a H4H shirt. Your colleague isn't thinking this through properly. It's good that people are expressing their sorrow through a legitimate, peaceable charity with no political agenda.

If you'd gone in wearing a t-shirt with just a Union Jack or England flag on it they would have a point, because it is clearly a pointed political statement.

NeedSomeSun142 · 23/05/2013 12:21

YANBU!

I'm sure there will be many more people wearing there H4H shirts today. To be honest what's it got to do with any one else what you decide to wear, don't tell me it's racist or 'insensitive' to wear a H4H shirt now?!

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