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AIBU?

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to think that this is really inconsiderate?

132 replies

SweetSeraphim · 08/05/2013 21:48

Neighbour one, I'm afraid.... Hmm Grin

So - next door have 3 boys, aged about 7, 5 and 2 ish... They're ok neighbours, we don't chat much or anything but we're polite.

We both work full time, have 4 dc between us, 7, 8, 12 & 15, and we try and get a bit of a lie in on a weekend if we can, I get up at 6 every weekday, and if we're lucky, we get to lie in until about half 8 at the weekend, it's glorious.

However.... as soon as the weather gets warmer, next door neighbours let the dc out to play in the back garden between 7 and half past. They're really noisy and have loads of really loud toys, electric ride-along stuff, you know. I had forgotten this happened last year, and it pissed me off then - I remembered with clarity this weekend Hmm

So what do I do? Do I put a note through the door like a yellow bellied coward? Or do I knock and ask them to be a bit more considerate? Will they look at me like this? Hmm AIBU?

OP posts:
HollyBerryBush · 08/05/2013 21:50

Daylight hours I'm afraid.

You cannot expect children to be inside because you are stacking zz's in bed.

Roshbegosh · 08/05/2013 21:52

Not sure how to handle it but I would be seething. Surely it can't happen often.

cherryade8 · 08/05/2013 21:52

Yab a bit u. I'd suggest you use ear plugs,if tthe noise is really loud and inconsiderate I'd mention it to them though.

LaurieFairyCake · 08/05/2013 21:53

Go to bed earlier or get earplugs

Grin

Seriously, the sooner people realise they can't control what others do the better.

Oh and whine all you want about them being inconsiderate. That's fine.

5madthings · 08/05/2013 21:53

Actually I have five children, 13 to 2 yes and I don't let mine out in the garden at 7:30am, its too early at the weekend, after 9am they can go out but I tell them some neighbpurs may still be sleeping and to keep the noise down.

I don't think yabu op, but tricky to raise it with them, most people have some common sense re noise and being respectful of neighbors.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 08/05/2013 21:56

I dont think yabu.

I would say that anything before 9am on a weekend is a no no really.

However, I wouldnt be brave enough to tell them to stop.

nokidshere · 08/05/2013 21:57

YANBU 7am is too early to be disturbing neighbours. When mine were smaller they were not allowed outside before 9am on a weekend. So yes they are being inconsiderate but not sure what you can do about it other than either talk to them or put a note through the door.

youmeatsix · 08/05/2013 21:58

i cant believe people think its ok for children to be out playing noisily at 7am when they have neighbours in close proximity, we have 3 children, and would never allow them out at that time

5madthings · 08/05/2013 21:58

Posted before I finished.

Was saying most people have some common sense re noise and being considerate to neighbors, some people don't...

Maybe your neighbors haven't realized how noisy the kids are and if you mention it they will keep it down a bit?!!

MrsTomHardy · 08/05/2013 21:59

I feel your pain OP.
This is one of my major gripes in life Grin

I know I'm unreasonable but I don't want anything waking me up at any time of day....neighbours dog barking at 9.30am last weekend really pissed me off Blush

greenformica · 08/05/2013 21:59

I think it's rather selfish of them. We have four kids but would avoid lots of loud outside noise till about 9am.

PlasticLentilWeaver · 08/05/2013 21:59

I don't let mine out until 9am for the sake of my neighbours and definitely think before 8am at a weekend is unreasonable.

FreddieMisaGREATshag · 08/05/2013 22:00

I'll swap you for my neighbour who has all night parties, loud sex at 4am 3 times in the last about 2 weeks and complains that my heating comes on a half an hour too early.

steppemum · 08/05/2013 22:01

I wouldn't regularly let mine out at 7:30, as they would make a noise, and I think that is early.

I don't think yo can impose it on others though. The best you can do is ask nicely if they could try and keep it down/not use the electric toys until 8-8:30. But you may risk the relationship with your neighbours in the process.

I have 3 noisy kids. My neigbours have a very yappy/annoying dog. I see it as tit for tat, I tolerate them, and hope they tolerate me.

Fluffypinkcoat · 08/05/2013 22:01

Swap to a bedroom at the front of the house?

andubelievedthat · 08/05/2013 22:02

That >note thru the door? count to 3 and expect/wait for the roof to blow of house ? like " I'm terribly sorry to bug you but your kids are getting on my tits and please keep them indoors ,p.s. am to much of a woos to actually speak to you,i live on "that" side ,just so you know. if the little sproggs have so much energy ,you think they will be any quieter indoors ?

RainbowsFriend · 08/05/2013 22:04

Let yours out at 6.30 for a few weekends? Grin

OutragedFromLeeds · 08/05/2013 22:05

Of course you can expect kids to be indoors at 7am. Daylight hours is from about 5am in the summer!

OP YANBU. If they seem reasonable I would knock and ask them to keep it down in the morning.

poodletip · 08/05/2013 22:07

YANBU to be annoyed. I wouldn't let my 3 play outside that early. Not sure what the best thing to do is though. I'm guessing they send them outside as it disturbs them less than having them inside.

redwellybluewelly · 08/05/2013 22:07

Cynically wondering if the neighbours are booting their children outside so they themselves can catch up on sleep.

Maybe kick yours out early too and gove them carte blanch to make as much racket as possible?

fengirl1 · 08/05/2013 22:08

My sympathies. I live next to a family of shouters, screechers and wailers. They see no reason to be quiet the minute they're out of bed. They have now kindly added a dog that yaps intermittently from 6am to 10pm into the mix.... Hmm

mumofthemonsters808 · 08/05/2013 22:12

My 2 don't go out until later in the morning, but if they wanted to I would let them. I've experienced living next door to neighbours from hell and children playing noise is nothing compared to what other people have to put up with.

emsyj · 08/05/2013 22:12

YANBU, that is too early. We don't allow DD to play outside until 9am at weekends. That's just basic courtesy IMO.

ChippingInLovesSunshine · 08/05/2013 22:13

I love the early morning, especially in the summer - it's the best part of the day & I wouldn't want to keep the kids inside, but if I knew the neighbours were trying to sleep I'd probably take the kids to the park instead of playing in the garden - at least some of the time.... so I say you should talk to them. There's no way I'd keep kids in until 9am just to suit the neighbours though - I wouldn't expect them to be in at 7pm in the evening to suit us... it's all give & take isn't it when you live on top of each other

larks35 · 08/05/2013 22:15

I don't think YWBU to ask if they keep them indoors til 8.30-9 at the weekend. I never let DS 4yo out before that at the weekend and he isn't that noisy. The thing is he is more noisy inside and as we live in a terrace I'm sure the neighbours wouldn't mind if he was outside, they might actually prefer it seeing as the biggest bedroom is at the front of the house in our block!