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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To not help my son look after his baby?

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 10:33

This is my first AIBU thread so go easy.

He has a baby and I refuse to help him out. He decided to have this baby so all responsibility is his in my eyes.

The baby is currently naked with only a hat on and he feeds her every 10 minutes but she drinks the whole bottle! All she does is cry and laugh.

He has asked me to look after her but I wont. He seems to think this isn't fair and shouts 'oh why?' The mother isn't on the scene either and the baby has only been with him a couple of months.

She is currently wrapped up in a car mat as he thinks this is an acceptable bed. Should I intervene now or leave baby where she is?

My son is young but he wanted the baby so I think he should look after her. He has named her Baby which I'm not sure goes down well on MN.

So AIBU or should I help out a little?

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msrisotto · 23/04/2013 10:35

Um...baby is naked and wrapped in a car mat? I think he needs help.

Bunraku · 23/04/2013 10:36

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Beehatch · 23/04/2013 10:37
Grin

You're a very young granny ...

ShadowStorm · 23/04/2013 10:37

Is this for real?

If this is all true, then yes, help is needed.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 23/04/2013 10:38

YANBU

He made his choices! Let him get on with it I say!

SirBoobAlot · 23/04/2013 10:38

Swaddle her in the car mat, she'll be fine.

My DS is always so irresponsible with his DCs too. He left one of them in the garden last night because she asked to sleep in his play house. Shocking parenting.

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 10:39

Hes now saying the baby is doing his head in.

Should I gave him a break?

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OnTheNingNangNong · 23/04/2013 10:39

YANBU!

Parents keep getting younger nowadays Wink

YoniMaroney · 23/04/2013 10:39

Very amusing

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EnglishGirlApproximately · 23/04/2013 10:40

Naughty sp Grin

Oopla · 23/04/2013 10:41
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bonzo77 · 23/04/2013 10:41

YANBU. Tbh I'd contact the HV.

Does the baby cry lots or is it rather quiet, like a doll?

SirBoobAlot · 23/04/2013 10:42

Tell him he made his cot bed, he needs to lie in it!

Does your grandchild have a name, SP? Mine tend to be called ''Eyes'' Hmm

McPheelingTheSpring · 23/04/2013 10:43
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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 10:43

The car mat is rather large by the way. Baby is swaddled and has plenty of room. Looks like a sausage roll.

He really wanted this baby and I think hes realising its not easy. There is a pram for her but he forgets to fasten it so she falls out often

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GoblinGranny · 23/04/2013 10:44
Grin

Having been given a spare baby by his feminist auntie, my DS left it on the train.
When challenged later, he declared himself to be too young to be a father.

SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 10:44

Sir He named her Baby. Still hasn't been registered so if I take custody of her I can change it.

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OnTheNingNangNong · 23/04/2013 10:44

My youngest son drags his baby round by it's leg, Sad

madamecake · 23/04/2013 10:44

I'm crying with laughter! My dd's baby is only a newborn, but has already had weetabix pushed in her mouth and ears, and dd has taken to crying whenever her baby cries. But at least baby is still partially dressed.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 23/04/2013 10:45

Baby is a good name for a baby imo. My daughter has called our baby "Mousse" after her fave dessert. Perhaps they could have a playdate? Share a car mat?

SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 10:45

Bonzo If you press her stomach she will either laugh or cry. We have no idea what mood she is in til we so that

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IcingTheCake · 23/04/2013 10:48

A baby that drinks a whole bottle every hour? Hmm I get you want him to learn but not at the expense of the baby.