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Original poster

To not help my son look after his baby?

231 replies

SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 10:33

This is my first AIBU thread so go easy.

He has a baby and I refuse to help him out. He decided to have this baby so all responsibility is his in my eyes.

The baby is currently naked with only a hat on and he feeds her every 10 minutes but she drinks the whole bottle! All she does is cry and laugh.

He has asked me to look after her but I wont. He seems to think this isn't fair and shouts 'oh why?' The mother isn't on the scene either and the baby has only been with him a couple of months.

She is currently wrapped up in a car mat as he thinks this is an acceptable bed. Should I intervene now or leave baby where she is?

My son is young but he wanted the baby so I think he should look after her. He has named her Baby which I'm not sure goes down well on MN.

So AIBU or should I help out a little?

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Blatherskite · 23/04/2013 11:28

I am a bad --dolly- Grandma too. I got bored of waiting for DD's baby to dry so I stuck her in the tumble dryer.

Poor little baby Annabelle's face went all soft and distorted! No bruising but the whole side of her face caved in. It was gruesome!

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 11:28

I have been left feeding the baby while he plays candy crush on my old phone! Telling me I'm not feeding her right and he will show me!

Fuck that, I'm not helping anymore with his PFB

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RunRabbit · 23/04/2013 11:30

I just got the OP

Brava SP Brava Wink

SirBoobAlot · 23/04/2013 11:31

Tee, I always have to be Tunip. There is some rejection going on when a stuffed dinosaur is allowed to be Kwazii instead of you.

cuteboots · 23/04/2013 11:32

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie-Phew thanks for clarifying that. I only read the first bit and thought id entered some strange Jeremy Kyle world where kids have kids and then treat them like crap. Note to self read a bit more of the thread before replying ; 0 )

Whatsthatnoise · 23/04/2013 11:32

My dd has too many babies, they all share beds and are currently in various states of undress. Her PFB is hanging from the washing line by her pigtails after an unfortunate run in with half a tube of toothpaste. The boy has been relegated to under the bed after it pee'd all over my dress on christmas day.

She also has a pet furby that has been locked in the shoe cupboard because it has turned evil Grin

comedycentral · 23/04/2013 11:33

My son hid his baby in the laundry for days....

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 11:34

Furby?! I will never get my son one of those. When I had one it used to turn on by its self on a night. Creepy little fuckers.

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drwitch · 23/04/2013 11:34

my dd has many many children, she has now rejected the ones that are not "very beautiful" and spent much of this weekend throwing the rest out of our bedroom window for her big brother to catch

Lucyellensmum95 · 23/04/2013 11:35

Um, could you ask him to help me with candy crush please, im useless at it - i'll even babysit - i havea spare shoe box

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 11:35

Lucy He isn't the best either but he will help in return for babysitting duties. It is his PFB though so expect to be told what to do.

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 11:39

cute He isn't the greatest father and I dont think Jezza could fix his issues. Anyway hes too young to go on stage Grin

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dawntigga · 23/04/2013 11:40

The Cub has a baby who he has called Giggly Brown Baby, he's not very good with names. I decided that he wanted her and he should look after her. I worry when they bathe together as he has a very short attention span sometimes.

LoveThisThreadTiggaxx

tabulahrasa · 23/04/2013 11:41

Just from the OP I wasn't sure if it was a young child with a doll or an older one with one of those fake babies they have to look after - but it was pretty obvious it wasn't in fact a real baby.

spiderlight · 23/04/2013 11:42

Hmm....OK, I will refrain from contacting SS, but only if I can have one of those cakes.

Lollyheart · 23/04/2013 11:43

Bloody hell op. at least the baby is being fed. My dd has left her baby strapped into its buggy and buggered off to school.
Poor thing will be starving when she gets home Grin

JakeBullet · 23/04/2013 11:44
Grin

Took me a few moments lol'

currentbuns · 23/04/2013 11:45

DD left one of her babies in garden on Saturday afternoon. One of its little feet can be seen just poking out from underneath a small shrub.

Tee2072 · 23/04/2013 11:46

SirBoob I get called Captain Mummy, so I guess that's better than being a tunip. Or turnip. Or whatever the hell they are!

sherazade · 23/04/2013 11:49

I think baby and father will be fine for now; only intervene when he starts to lift up his top and latch baby onto his chest for a feed.

IcingTheCake · 23/04/2013 11:50

Ahh pregnancy brain Sad i got it now haha xx

wannabedomesticgoddess · 23/04/2013 11:51

Yes, I shall be phoning RSPCA. And the local zoo.

DD1 stripped all her babies when she was younger and lost all the clothes. But they have blankets now so its not too bad!

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 11:51

I'm just too young at 22 to be a nanna. I think that's the real reason I wont help. He doesn't help with rent or food either then expects free childcare!

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StitchAteMySleep · 23/04/2013 11:56

My grandchild is safely tucked up in her pram. She hasn't been fed for over a week and only gurgles when you pick her up due to an unfortunate battery acid incident, but she is fully dressed at least.

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SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 23/04/2013 11:59

I cant get to my granddaughters batteries. Shes on of those Sainsburys little nursery ones where the body is soft and cant break into it with out cutting her open

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