to not date a Tory?

[bejeezus]

Well...actually I dont care if IABU or not, I just couldnt do it.

What I really want to ask you; if you have Labour/left wing politics could you/would you/are you marry/ have a life partner who has Conservative/right wing politics?

And vice-versa of course?

Yanbu

It would be fundamentally incompatible with who I am

Date one? I bloody married one!
We don't watch Question Time together, it causes arguements...
Seriously though, I'm much more left wing than he is, we just agree to disagree on certain topics. No big deal really, after 15 years together we know what things to just Leave Alone.

YANBU - I couldn't either. Your political persuasion underpins all your values. I would clash massively with a die hard tory.

I find they're all getting more and more mutually interchangeable certainly at the parliamentary level, so YABU.

iwantbrie there would be no talking at all in our house, in order to avoid clashing i reckon!

what do you talk about?

No. I couldn't even consider it. I went on a few dates with one once. He was very well off and my friends were all for it but I just couldn't.

yes i agree fuckbucket but a left wing person and a right wing voter have different and incompatible ideologies IMO

I dont think I even have any Tory friends...

bejeezus anything but politics unless we've got a bottle of wine open!
He does occasionally get into ranty Tory mode, I have perfected the 'nod and smile' technique along with a couple of 'yes dear's'... Winds him up no end

YANBU. Political beliefs are a big deal and show a lot about a person.

sorry...that should read a left wing voter and a right wing voter

I find you get pompous pricks on the extremes of all the political movements, I detested the permanently bleeding hearts and Back-To-Marxists just as much as Tory Boys.

The saving grace of Tories is they are more likely to wash and less likely to have beards :o

Thing is I don't have a huge interest in politics anyway and have a pretty low opinion of most of the people involved in it so I'm not generally inclined to start a discussion about it.
We do disagree on alot of current affairs but we both respect each others opinion (even if we think it's load of old cobblers...)

YANBU

I might be able to date but I couldn't live with and marry someone I fundamentally opposed politically.

no I couldn't do it

aswell as another poster, I don't think any of my close friends are tory either

YABU.

Its that 'forbiden fruit' thing. All the leftie girls at college went out with a Tory boy in the end.

Besides, everyone knows socialists and champagne go well together.

I married one!
The issues that would have been a deal-breaker were if he was racist, sexist or homophobic, or didn't believe in global warming/care about environmental issues.

Luckily he did not tick any of those boxes and we just tend not to discuss the economic issues where we do differ also because I don't understand economics full stop.

He definitely falls into the category of Nice Tory. Plus, as I am more liberal/green leaning than socialist and loathe New Labour/Blair/Mandelson/Campbell we are united by our hatred of Labour although coming at it from different directions!

I couldn't date someone who had a different moral compass to me. So that may be an issue.
But I think excluding someone purely because of how they vote is odd. Not least because lots of people shift their political views over time.
Only dating people who feel exactly as you do on every issue smacks of something a bit odd - i don't know, arrogance or immaturity or something.

I wouldn't want to date 'me' in male form. How fucking dull would that be.
My personal views are robust enough that I can tolerate different ones around me.

would need more information ... kind of a difference between someone who vaguely identifies with a political party because of their upbringing vs. someone who aspires to be, say, an MP!

You'd also have to keep in mind that people's politics often evolve over time. The question is too black and white - most people aren't that politically definable anyway.

... if he was rich haha ... thinking alimony if it all goes wrong ...

Ooo what Pagwatch says. The moral compass bit and the rest. p.s. I dated someone with great genuine political morals (much more than me) who behaved like a complete jerk to me, urgh, so go figure ...

Now that would be an interesting question... "would you date an MP of any political party"
No bloody way...

Depends how left wing you are. If you have fundamentally different ideologies (in everything from use of private education to how tax should work) then I think it would be very difficult to ever see it as a long term relationship. So its a waste of time to date someone that different.

If you are both fairly central and just slightly different sides of the spectrum then its silly to write it off just based on the label you vote for.

YANBU.

But then, I have never been tempted by one myself. I imagine it would be the same vice-versa.

Again, married to one (not die hard though). We occasionally have discussions about politics and just learn to disagree although I am right . We vote differently but then we are individuals. We agree on other things and share interests so its not a big deal.

I don't know how any of my friends vote (although they all do) and again even if they were a die hard Tory it wouldn't stop them being a nice person.

Whatme this is less of a problem in historically labour areas. The labour party did arise from the unions, not London champagne socialists afterall...