to not date a Tory?

[bejeezus]

Well...actually I dont care if IABU or not, I just couldnt do it.

What I really want to ask you; if you have Labour/left wing politics could you/would you/are you marry/ have a life partner who has Conservative/right wing politics?

And vice-versa of course?

No. I absolutely could not date a Tory.

I would just shout CUNT at them all day and we'd both get fed up.

Marshmallowpies summed it up better than me:

'The issues that would have been a deal-breaker were if he was racist, sexist or homophobic, or didn't believe in global warming/care about environmental issues.'

YANBU date who you want!

Would I date a Tory? Nope, it would be a disaster.
Would a Tory date me? er nope!

but when it is dating you choose who you want.

I am a socialist to my core. My parents and all their families, going back many generations, have been socialists.

DH's family are all Tories and so is he. Margaret Thatcher is his idol.

I paid for my Labour Party membership last year on his debit card so it would show up on his statement. Great fun.

In general, we know the areas that we don't agree on, and only occasionally have flare ups. I enjoy running rings round some of his dimwit Tory mates when I've had a few though.

Nope, no way. I even have to turn the radio off when the moral maze comes on, I get so het up. Having that in the house full time? I'd implode.

It ends up being a moral difference, so no.

Although among a set of my ex's friends, who were a very 'political' bunch (however - for that, read up themselves public schoolboys, basically) there was one full-on Tory who was the nicest of the (cliquey, irritating) lot. The 'full-on Labour' character was a shit of the highest order. This was back in the early 90s. It made me think twice about judging people by their politics... and then 'New Labour' got in, and I realised that he wasn't 'full-on Labour', he was an opportunist little shit intending to catch a wave, and opportunist little shits come in all colours :)

Ha! What Hully said.

I would literally wallop him everytime he opened his mouth. And then you'd all have to advise him to Leave Me

What a depressing thread. I find a lot of left-wingers rather naive (and they often reduce arguments to just shouting swear words around) but I have lots of friends from across all parties. Because, you know, we are all humans, with interests in people and the way society works. We may have different ways of wanting to fix things but that doesn't mean we have to hiss at one another across some unnecessary divide.

And yes, I have enough self-confidence to listen to other people and possibly adapt what I believe politically.

hully

dh insanely voted lib dem last time, so at least he only gets shouted at with:

lily-livered weaselly turncoat bastard suck-up desperate arse.

yeah Abra i just like a bit of peace and harmony at home

That's funny Aba1d, I find the exact same thing, but much more so with Tories. Because they are:

1. Greedy
2. Thick
3. Greedy and thick.

But at least they swear with nicer accents.

are you Peter Hitchens Abra?

I married one too, and after many years of arguing, and watching the last Government piss our children's future up a wall I realised he was right. Bugger.
He also believes in God though, and I am an atheist with a low opinion of all forms of organised religion - and on that, I will not be moved. He can take the kids to sunday school and give me some time off, and we're both happy.

I married one too! But as Marshmallowpies said, he's not racist, sexist, homophobic or otherwise a cnut. We have fundamentally different views on economic policy and how wealth should be created and distributed in society, but we're both have very similar views on how things should work - e.g. we both agree on a lot of how schools and education should work because we see where it doesn't work for DS, (but we don't agree on how the changes should be funded, of course!)

That said, I think it's easier in Scotland because neither of us are Nationalists - so laughing at the Great Feeder (Alex Salmond) helps to keep things on an even keel.

wow toni Im impressed

I suppose it depends what you look for in a partner? What you find attractive in a person?

Well so do I Abra1d, in my time I have been member of a few different parties in fact because I HAVE evolved in my beliefs.

But what I want sharing my pillow is someone with the same fundamental ethos in life as myself- I have Tory friends, I have more friends mind whom could vote for the Raving Loony Party as far as I know, that's normal I think.

But my life is based on a set of Quaker ideals, and I don;t think they are at all Tory, I don't want to go to bed with someone who thinks I shouldn't be demonstrating for X set of rights or Y bill; I have a good marriage and that seems to me to be based on compatibility on key basics- and whilst we've not always voted the same way it HAS been to achieve similar ideals, and they are not Tory ones.

Mind even our nearest Tory MP (Mr Davies) is coming over to may way of thinking LMAO.

I agree with Abra1d, this is depressing. Although it's a good way for the world to see how vile lefties can be. I can't, for a minute, imagine a 'Tory' (for want of a better word) running a thread like this anywhere.

Oh and because both Tories I have day to day contact with have in the past few months referred to my disabled kids as drains on society.

Yes, that too.

Sis is having MASSIVE issues with her Tory DH over beliefs- he thinks I am a witch and my kids a burden, is homphobic, and quite unpleasantand quite merrily posts comments about that on Facebook (I defriended him but it gets back to me)-

I don;t know who she votes for but she is nice and he is a Twat and thheir differences are splitting them up slowly.

flatpack read my post below LOL, X posts.

Not all Tories are nice.

I'm the same as Marshmallowpies and Wilson Frickett. Having been a card carrying member of a union of one sort or another, I have been married for nearly 10 years to one of the handful of people who actually requested that their local authority not pay their union subscription when they were at university... We often joke that no Match.com type site would ever put us together, but actually, scratch below the political surface, and the sort of things that we fundamentally believe in (the moral compass that Pagwatch mentioned) make us pretty similar.

YWBVU to refuse a date with someone just because they're a Tory. Doesn't mean you have to agree with everything they say!

What specifically would put you off?

Goodness what a sheltered life you lead flatpack

You've not met many tories then?

How depressing

YANBU

I would be terrified that my dad would come back and haunt me forever.

My political views make up so much of who I am I don't think I could date someone who wasn't at least in the same 'wing' as me.

I suspect what the OP is saying is that she wouldn't date a rich posh boy, which from what I can gather would count out most of the labour party as well.

I would feel utterly soiled.