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What should I do?

183 replies

dowhatyouwant · 01/05/2012 22:34

I hate my MIL more than anything in the world. She recently given my husband a jumper for his birthday present as usual. I felt extremely unpleasant to be toughed by the jumper when he hugged me. He would be very unhappy if I would be honestly - 'I dont want your clothes touches me because it's from your mum.' He's kept a big shiny present box. I dont know how he could leave it like that where I see often. He's not sorry to me? Speaking of the background about this, his mum gives her son-in-laws and daughter-in-law(me) spending half amount she pays for her son(my husband) and daughters.
I think it's very thoughtful as an adult person. So I ever told her how I felt about her treating her son and me differently and she doesnt give me any more birthdays present.

He knows I dont like his family and I dont see his family. It's good I dont need to see her any more but every year on his birthday it upsets me especially when his hugges me wearing clothes from his mum.

Do I need to speak to the counsellor? I may have to see a private counsellor as an appointment time through GP dosent fit me.

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DaenerysTargaryen · 01/05/2012 23:35

But was there wine thrown on the wall?

Were is Sharon in all of this?

rhinosCantDonateBoneMarrow · 01/05/2012 23:36

Have you looked in tesco to see if they are selling grips? You might want to get one next time you are in for milk, bread etc.

kali110 · 01/05/2012 23:37

Plus maybe he isnt displaying the card to upset you,just because its his birthday and he wants to put his cards up

shaketastic · 01/05/2012 23:37

I have a sister called Sharon and she never throws wine on the wall, she wouldn't be that wastefull

dowhatyouwant · 01/05/2012 23:38

Please dont link a jumper and a shoulder they are nothing to do with each other :)

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DioneTheDiabolist · 01/05/2012 23:39

What else does your MIL do that bothers you?

DaenerysTargaryen · 01/05/2012 23:41

I have a lovely off the shoulder jumper btw its black so quite lowkey

rhinosCantDonateBoneMarrow · 01/05/2012 23:41

Your DH loves his jumper so much he has posted a piccy of himself wearing it the bastard.

curiositykitten · 01/05/2012 23:41

I'm actually LOLing here. In between sitting with my mouth wide open. I imagine it looks fairly amusing, really.

lunamoon · 01/05/2012 23:42

I have bought a sleeveless dress, can I wear it in May?

DaenerysTargaryen · 01/05/2012 23:42

I want one with a seam up the back though, or maybe buttons.. ..

dowhatyouwant · 01/05/2012 23:43

many more I liked her in at first but more I knew how she behaves more I hated her. And my husband is such a good son doesnt help to discuss this issues with him. Apart from MIL my husband and I are so good each other. He treats me like a prince. He spends 100 times more his mum spent on me for my birthday presents.

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doinmummy · 01/05/2012 23:43

Luna - Just make sure you dont wear it with a fur scarf

DaenerysTargaryen · 01/05/2012 23:43

NOOOOO Luna! Think of the children

DaenerysTargaryen · 01/05/2012 23:44
DioneTheDiabolist · 01/05/2012 23:45

Out of interest: how much does she spend on you?

Empusa · 01/05/2012 23:45

If I drink more will this thread make sense?

shaketastic · 01/05/2012 23:45

seems its all about money for you then or what people spend on you

kali110 · 01/05/2012 23:45

I would see your therapist,you need to let go of these issues.your mil hasnt done anything wrong from what you've said,you shouldnt be stressing over these things

dowhatyouwant · 01/05/2012 23:45

haha it was my mistake ; I meant princess

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doinmummy · 01/05/2012 23:46

I've put this thread into google translate

DaenerysTargaryen · 01/05/2012 23:46

Its worth a try Empusa, I'm trying very hard Grin

doinmummy · 01/05/2012 23:46

I think it's Martian

lunamoon · 01/05/2012 23:48

Ok so if I wear the dress without a fur scarf, can I stll display birthday cards from my mother? Or is that a complete no no?

doinmummy · 01/05/2012 23:49

If you unravel all your husbands jumpers , you can re-knit them into sleeves for anyone who makes the mistake of showing their shoulders in May