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What should I do?

183 replies

dowhatyouwant · 01/05/2012 22:34

I hate my MIL more than anything in the world. She recently given my husband a jumper for his birthday present as usual. I felt extremely unpleasant to be toughed by the jumper when he hugged me. He would be very unhappy if I would be honestly - 'I dont want your clothes touches me because it's from your mum.' He's kept a big shiny present box. I dont know how he could leave it like that where I see often. He's not sorry to me? Speaking of the background about this, his mum gives her son-in-laws and daughter-in-law(me) spending half amount she pays for her son(my husband) and daughters.
I think it's very thoughtful as an adult person. So I ever told her how I felt about her treating her son and me differently and she doesnt give me any more birthdays present.

He knows I dont like his family and I dont see his family. It's good I dont need to see her any more but every year on his birthday it upsets me especially when his hugges me wearing clothes from his mum.

Do I need to speak to the counsellor? I may have to see a private counsellor as an appointment time through GP dosent fit me.

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lunamoon · 01/05/2012 23:50

What a great idea doinmummy!!!

doinmummy · 01/05/2012 23:52

I would also cut up the fur scarf and stick the bits onto the birthday card to disguise it

ImperialBlether · 01/05/2012 23:53

I find I can talk like the OP, now!

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doinmummy · 01/05/2012 23:56

What's MN scarf?

TuftyFinch · 01/05/2012 23:57

Can you collect pigeon feathers and make a nice collage to look at? That might help with your angst.

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DimplesOHara · 02/05/2012 00:02

Just wanna try this out then I really need to leave this thread before it starts to make sense to me...

OP, what would you do if your DH didn't like your mother? Would you get rid of everything from her?

doinmummy · 02/05/2012 00:04

Have also read previous posts and they're all a bit odd!

DimplesOHara · 02/05/2012 00:05

....or would you post it all to your MIL saying my mummy loves all of us you spitefull own child affection giving cow?

LapsedPacifist · 02/05/2012 00:06

MILS are BAD!!!

If you have a DS...

Then prepare to be HATED!!!!

Forever..............

DimplesOHara · 02/05/2012 00:07

Damn spilt posts

Sad
doinmummy · 02/05/2012 00:12

Does anyone know when the shoulder showing season starts?

doinmummy · 02/05/2012 00:13

Sorry Dimples

TuftyFinch · 02/05/2012 00:16

July 6th.

DimplesOHara · 02/05/2012 00:18

I blame the phone and my podgy stubby fingers that are to fat for the keyboard

doinmummy · 02/05/2012 00:29

Thanks Tufty..I nearly made a major fashion faux pas as I'm going to a party on Sunday and was going to wear a sleeveless dress.

hurricanewyn · 02/05/2012 06:42

OP - I'm sorry if I'm a bit slow on the uptake, but did you actually, seriously tell your mother not to buy gifts for your DH (the man you are married to) because his mum wasn't buying you any? Really?

DPrince · 02/05/2012 06:50

Surely if the ops mum is no longer buying for the dh, she shouldn't buy for the op now either? Wtf? This has got to be the op taking the piss. I hope.

HaleAndPacemaker · 02/05/2012 07:04

I am sat with my shoulders put whilst reading this thread.

Given that we're now into May I hope this is acceptable.

Also, to quote my 5yo "whaaaaaaaaaaaaat?" Hmm

HaleAndPacemaker · 02/05/2012 07:05

Shoulders out.

i'm also planning to put them into a jumper later

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Shriekable · 02/05/2012 07:09

I really feel for your jumper-wearing, mother-loving husband. YAB soooo U! I hope my DS doesn't marry a woman who values people by what they spend on her. And as for MIL's bare shoulders at your wedding - unless you are a member of the British Royal Family, I really don't think it was a problem.

exoticfruits · 02/05/2012 07:15

I would get to know the woman, see her without DH. I hope that you realise that your attitude will rub off on your DCs and they will see it as normal to cut you out once they are adult and have a partner.

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