What should I do?

[dowhatyouwant]

I hate my MIL more than anything in the world. She recently given my husband a jumper for his birthday present as usual. I felt extremely unpleasant to be toughed by the jumper when he hugged me. He would be very unhappy if I would be honestly - 'I dont want your clothes touches me because it's from your mum.' He's kept a big shiny present box. I dont know how he could leave it like that where I see often. He's not sorry to me? Speaking of the background about this, his mum gives her son-in-laws and daughter-in-law(me) spending half amount she pays for her son(my husband) and daughters.
I think it's very thoughtful as an adult person. So I ever told her how I felt about her treating her son and me differently and she doesnt give me any more birthdays present.

He knows I dont like his family and I dont see his family. It's good I dont need to see her any more but every year on his birthday it upsets me especially when his hugges me wearing clothes from his mum.

Do I need to speak to the counsellor? I may have to see a private counsellor as an appointment time through GP dosent fit me.

As another poster said, this sounds like some sort of cultural difference. It's hard to know whether the low-value presents are the cause of the resentment (which would be a shame) or are just a physical example/reminder of a deeper resentment. Certainly not a good idea for the OP to have severed family relations, she sounds very self-centred.

When you get DH you get his parents, cousins, grandparents, old family friends etc, etc. It is up to you how often you see them but they don't go away because you wish he was a foundling.

If you do go for therapy, please, if you can afford it, go private?! You see, some of us have been waiting for 4 months to see a counsellor and if you were in front of me on the list, I think it would be enough to tip me over the edge.

And no, your DH isn't being selfish, you are, and no I don't believe you do need therapy, you need to either a) accept cultural differences in your family b) realise that your DH can love two people at the same time c) make peace between you and your MIL

But you've made my morning brighter by making me feel more sane

O and you put too much value on material things, there is more to life

OP.....Are you Nancy Dell'Olio? If so don't you think it's time you got out of Sven's house? If not then just ignore me.

snort at wine on wall where is sharon

You are not supposed to bare your shoulders in front of royalty.
Are you royalty?

The queen must not see your shoulders. That's wrong.

Can we see hers?

OP most of the people on MN are lovely, and I'd enjoy being friends with them in RL. You are not. Stop being such a greedy entitled selfish cow, how would you feel if your DH wouldn't accept your love for your mum?

Your dh loves his mother, how would you feel if your son married someone who hated you as much as you despise your MIL, and wanted contact cut and behaved irrationally towards you?

I do think you need help. Hatred like this is eating you up and could cost you your marriage.

Of course Hully, it's in her contract. You can just turn up and ask.

What else has she done that's wrong?

I feel we lack evidence.

Are you for real?

Just checked your other posts in one you say your husband is a Banker (the one where you asked if he peed in his pants does that mean he had sex in a strip club) and in another you say Your Husband is a contractor in Sweden and is having problems with the Bank as his Buisness card was stopped while trying to pay for something.

Some of Your posts ie asking for mortgage advice and asking for property advice your English typing is fine.

I would seriously recommend getting some help with your issues!

Sorry, nothing constructive to add, just wanted to say that I saw the post about pee in her husbands pants too.....:o....almost had pee in my pants after reading it!

Brilliant.

This is what I type like after a bottle glass of wine.

Novack- pissing myself overs Sven's house-

OP-never mind the shoulders at the wedding, what we all want to know is was it child free? And do your family throw acorns at each other at Christmas?

Not literally over Svens house, as in the comment about!

Love the idea of unravelling all the DH's jumpers to knit shoulder covers - occ therapy for the OP?

I felt the need to inform you that I have been with dh for 15 years (9 married) and a few weeks ago got my first birthday present from mil! I love my mil, she comes to stay a lot, helps with kids, but lives abroad and isnt some-one who makes a fuss over birthdays (except for kids). I was taken aback-in a nice way!
Oh and my parents spend same amount on me, brothers, husbands and wifes, I wouldnt ever dream of telling some-one else how to spend their money.

Gosh. And, erm, crikey.