What should I do?

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I hate my MIL more than anything in the world. She recently given my husband a jumper for his birthday present as usual. I felt extremely unpleasant to be toughed by the jumper when he hugged me. He would be very unhappy if I would be honestly - 'I dont want your clothes touches me because it's from your mum.' He's kept a big shiny present box. I dont know how he could leave it like that where I see often. He's not sorry to me? Speaking of the background about this, his mum gives her son-in-laws and daughter-in-law(me) spending half amount she pays for her son(my husband) and daughters.
I think it's very thoughtful as an adult person. So I ever told her how I felt about her treating her son and me differently and she doesnt give me any more birthdays present.

He knows I dont like his family and I dont see his family. It's good I dont need to see her any more but every year on his birthday it upsets me especially when his hugges me wearing clothes from his mum.

Do I need to speak to the counsellor? I may have to see a private counsellor as an appointment time through GP dosent fit me.

BEST THREAD EVER

I really don't get it.

Is this for real??

Op - I hope to god that if I had a DS he doesn't end up marrying somebody like you.

At the moment I just have the one DD and can confirm that when (if) she ever gets married i will spend much more on her than anyone she chooses to marry. I didn't realise that would make me the mil from hell

I rarely get through six pages of posts, but this one has me pissing myself! Thanks. After a crap day, I needed it!

Oh yeah, I think you need therapy OP.

I heard the dear old Queen really wanted to wear a strapless cocktail number for the wedding too but she overheard the stupid commentator saying she couldn't. Poor Queen :(

Actually OP, I think you are perfectly rational and reasonable

Keep up the good work :o

How old is the MIL? I feel this is important in establishing whether or not shoulders being bared was appropriate or not?

Op- Are you the same poster who told your in-laws not to bother buying you anything for Christmas/birthday and then slagged them off when they bought you a token gift?
Forgive me if it isn't you but on that thread you said they were awful because you had spent so much time and money on their presents and then they had bought you something from the pound shop. You then moaned because they had spent more on your dh then too, but that is because you told them not to bother with a gift for you, as gifts were meaningless to you.

This thread has potential to be a classic.

So let me get this right OP:

You hate your MIL because:
1.she exposed shoulder at your wedding

1. She does not spend as much on you as she does her own children

You are annoyed with your DH because:

1. He wore a jumper you were angry about as it came from his mother
2. he brazenly and knowingly displayed a birthday card from his parents where you could see it.

Yes, go for the counselling. This is not reasonable or rational behaviour and your marriage will go down the pan if you expect your DH to hide evidence of a relationships with HIS OWN PARENTS. You sound angry, vengeful and controlling and you need help. Otherwise, you will be angry, vengeful, controlling and ALONE.

According to another one of the ops threads, her mil loves her. But she was upset that her mil had tried to set her dh up with someone, which is fair enough. Until it turned out that it was when they were had just started dating and the mil didn't know he was seeing anyone. Apparently the mil should have just known

YouOldSlag is very wise.

If this is for real and thats the worst your mil has done, then you sound like an awful person.

I agree with youoldslag. Get some help and some perspective.

Exposed shoulders, the hussy. Next she'll be showing her ankles to the chimney sweep, and where could it end? No gloves on Michaelmas?

you told your family not to give him presents because you don't get any?

What are you a child? How pathetic. Your husband has a right to put his cards where ever he wants and you getting upset about that is a damn joke, don't you think your husbands feelings might be hurt that he can't put his birthday card out from his MOTHER because you'll get upset when you've got no reason to not like the women?

You defiantly need some kind of profession help

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you told your family not to buy him presents because you don't get one

How pathetic! You need to grow up and stop acting like a child

Also your husband has a right to put his birthday card from his MOTHER where ever he wants an don't you think you getting all upset about it is unfair on him? And unfair that he has to worry about where he can put a bloody card in his home?

You defiantly need some kind of professional help and need to grow up, you actually have no reason to hate this women

Oops didn't think the first one posted

Op if you are serious I agree you should seek some help. Have you considered consulting a psychiatrist rather than a counsellor?

So apart from exposed shoulders and buying her own children more expensive presents than other people has she ever done anything to cause offence? I think your MIL sounds quite nice really and you sound a bit odd.

Counselling would probably be a good start for you.

Seriously - you are quite weird.

I feel very sorry for your husband, his mother, rest of his family etc. I think you need some heavy duty help for some kind of professional, although fuck knows who could even begin to unravel your thoughts.

Aww didumz! Having a tantrum are we op? Over a card, money, jumper & presents. Grow up.