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At comments about young mums = bad mums

124 replies

teenagedirtbag · 15/12/2011 22:17

Had my sacn today. We had a diffrent nurse than usual and as she was looking through my records she said
'oh you had your first child at 16. she read down ah I'm not surprised'
Dp gave her look of death and asked what the comment was for. She said
'well that he passed while you were so young'
(lost him shortly after birth)
I shrugged it off as me being paranoid.
She then said 'Oh well you kept your other kids alive'
She then turned to DD2 who we had to bring with us as we had no child care and she was bored of colouring and was wandering around checking out the room. The nurse turned to her and said Do mummy and Daddy feed you? or is he step daddy number 10?. She turned to Dp and said' Tell your wifes child to stop prancing in my room'
(All the DC's are ours)
She also kept asking if we had a council house? (Does that matter?)
and if we actually worked for a living. (Dp does I've been a SAHM since DD2 was born)
So am I paranoid ?or Can I go back tomorrow and complain?

OP posts:
celticlassie · 15/12/2011 22:19
Shock
AnnaFalactic · 15/12/2011 22:20

Shock definitely complain!! That's outrageous

CailinDana · 15/12/2011 22:20

Are you serious? Did she actually say that? Because if she did I would expect you to complain and for her to be disciplined.

GreenIceAndChristmasHam · 15/12/2011 22:20

I'm sorry I don't believe this

Jennyrosity · 15/12/2011 22:21

You must complain. That is appalling behaviour.

IneedAChristmasNickname · 15/12/2011 22:22

I'd complain! What a fucking bitch!!!!!!!!!!!

TeaandCake · 15/12/2011 22:23

Fucking hell...... I am utterly speechless.

I am livid on your behalf. Yes, you need to make a complaint about this, don't let it pass.

How fucking dare she?

Angry
suzikettles · 15/12/2011 22:23

Are you sure this wasn't some awful dream? Confused

rhondajean · 15/12/2011 22:24

I really would love to think you made this up. You MUST complain.

And for what its worth, some of the best parents i know had their children in their teens.

chocablock · 15/12/2011 22:24

Is this a wind up? I can't believe a nurse actually said that! if she did it is absolutely outrageous!!!!!! COMPLAIN NOW

Popbiscuit · 15/12/2011 22:25

NO way Sad. If you have an ounce of common sense you would have reported this already.

Firawla · 15/12/2011 22:25

if that is true it is totally out of order and you really need to complain, extremely outrageous and shocking comments

keepingupwiththejoneses · 15/12/2011 22:25

That is disgusting. You have to complain. She should be struck off. What a bitch.

thepeoplesprincess · 15/12/2011 22:26

I'm choosing to believe you made it up. Nothing personal, I just find it entirely unbelievable.

LoveInAColdClimate · 15/12/2011 22:27

Fucking hell. You have to complain. That is shocking.

teenagedirtbag · 15/12/2011 22:28

I wish I was making it up.
I'm annoyed not just for me , what if she's said this to others and they haven't got the support that I am very lucky to have had for Dp and his family. They could be gutted.
I shall go and complain tomorrow morning

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Feminine · 15/12/2011 22:28
Hmm
GreenIceAndChristmasHam · 15/12/2011 22:29

Hokey cokey then

LEttletownofBOFlehem · 15/12/2011 22:30

Literally incredible.

Janni · 15/12/2011 22:30

You and your partner need to write a letter of complaint to the practice manager and the GP in charge, at the very least. Absolutely appalling behaviour.

Feminine · 15/12/2011 22:30

It just sounds totally impossible ...

It would be against any training she would have received ...plus you wouldn't be the first.

Surely, if she had made those type of comments previously ...she would have no job!

troisgarcons · 15/12/2011 22:31

Op - are you in the UK???? Coz I'm finding that so difficult to get my head round. One inappropriate remark, maybe - butt a whole catalogue of them?

Are you sure your sonographer wasn't tied up in a cupboard somewhere and this was an imposter??

troisgarcons · 15/12/2011 22:31

Strange ID, too, OP

LordOfTheFlies · 15/12/2011 22:32

Yeah, right.

FreudianSlipper · 15/12/2011 22:32

really i am sure if this happened something would have been said there and then in anger