DH just came home and...

[SpareRoomSleeper]

I had opened the blinds fully (as I do when its nice and sunny), and we had a conversation which followed thus:
Him:
what have you guys been upto (me and DD who is 2)
Me: "the usual",
Him: "whats the usual"
Me: "the usual cleaning, bathing, feeding, more cleaning up, playing etc".

Him: "these windows are abit dirty arnt they.
Me: Yes they are.
Him: Why dont you clean them?

Cue me feeling immediately mad and irritated, and said some stuff along the lines of : I dont need instructions from YOU, I can bloody well arrange my own chores for my own self thanks very much.

I still feel really pissed off now though.

Why didn't he clean them?

my reply would have been "why dont you"

I bet you do! Looking after a toddler of two is more than a full time job. If you have clean clothes and meals and a house that is just about hygienic, you are doing well!

why didnt you hand him the cleaning materials??

actually no, my reply would have been "shove it up your arse" but i understand thats not how everyone talks to their husbands (as in banter, not abuse btw)

He said: "God, I cant even make a comment in my own house. "

I would be very at that. Getting window-cleaning instructions would not be the first thing I wanted to hear when my OH got home! (or at any other time for that matter). Hope he apologised.

Cleaning windows is a waste of time. Any sane person knows that. Clearly your DH is insane. Call the men in white coats.

I always get accused of being angry and aggressive so hes just sulking in the other room now, while Im ion the dining room still fuming.

I'd have shoved the squeegee up his fucking arse for that comment. Prick.

He's going back to work at 5, till half 8. Hes come home for lunch. And Im not the one whos going to be making it now.

lady, there is , or was more to it. Lets just say hes a recovering clean freak, who thought his wife should be constantly cleaning every minute of her life if she is going to be at home all day (probably due to the fact that his mother is an obsessive compulsive cleaner). His attitude from those days has hugely improved but the random, twatty comment still leaks through and it really annoys the hell out of me.

My fave saying in situations such as these is 'Yes and why don't I shove a broom up my arse whilst I'm doing it so I can multi-task'

Leave the bastard no don't leave him,

however what I would do is clean the windows and make them all sparkly and then when he doesn't notice make a huge deal of it.

i can just imagine my mum's face if my dad had come home and said that to her!! or his if she had come home and said it to him for that matter.

why do some people think they have overall say over what happens in a shared home, and particularly over someone else's time? does he think you dont have the brain capacity to form that thought yourself, and follow through on it if you thought it necessary? surelt if he thinks they need doing, the most logical next step is to get the squeegee out and do them, not tell someone else to do it. i dont understand some people, i really dont.

That made me grin sparkletastic...would love to see his face if I said that. He's lying down on the sofa in the other room watching tv, in a blanket.

FFS.

What sparkle said, with chilli on the end of the squeegee. Show him this thread and he will get the... erm objective view

booyhoo....some men think they might have overall say because, well, they have a willy. I dont see any other difference

No way, I'll push you through the door though

I would clean them - by sending him headfirst through them!

Hello husband if you are looking.....very stoooooopid thing to say to your lovely OH.....

Why is he in a blanket? Is that the one with itching powder?

Say 'I was saving my energy for tonight, but you're right I will clean the glass instead'