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30 days from now.

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Amdone123 · 12/07/2021 20:14

Evening all.
If anyone is interested in quitting alcohol for 30 days ( in the first instance), please join us.
I've had a busy month ; Wimbledon, Football, birthday, anniversary and have drank way too much.
I've given up before and felt great so am trying again.

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CH79 · 01/08/2021 15:31

@Buntyforgirls

Hello All- please can I join in? Currently on day 3 and hoping to get to 13th Aug and have my first glass by the sea! I have cut down lots from regular, habit drinking but when I do drink now I scarily binge. Absolutely HATE the anxiety after- what did I say, who did I offend... Like esmeralda’stambourine Iwant to use the next weeks to eat healthily, exercise and NOT drink. Day 2 of gym too, so a positive start, just need to keep it up and hoping the accountability will help. Good luck!

@Buntyforgirls I could have written this! The anxiety is crippling.
I also need to lose weight & generally just try be a bit healthier.
Fingers crossed for us all eh! X

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Amdone123 · 01/08/2021 15:48

@CH79, I just ate! Thanks. Feeling a bit better, more control.

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CH79 · 01/08/2021 15:52

[quote Amdone123]@CH79, I just ate! Thanks. Feeling a bit better, more control.[/quote]

Fab! Now get a pint of water down you & see how you feel. X

EsmeraldasTambourine · 01/08/2021 16:01

Hello back to everyone 👋
@Amdone123 you give such good advice to others so you know this is just a blip and you will be back determined as ever tomorrow.
Enjoy your night with your granddaughter, I'm pleased you've had some food.

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Amdone123 · 01/08/2021 16:17

Thanks! I did eat and have also drank lots of water.

Am not feeling great but I think it's my cold. Am tired.
But yeah tomorrow is another day .

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Amdone123 · 01/08/2021 16:18

@CH79 and @EsmeraldasTambourine, thanks x

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CH79 · 01/08/2021 19:17

[quote Amdone123]**@CH79* and @EsmeraldasTambourine*, thanks x[/quote]

No problem! How are you now? X

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Amdone123 · 01/08/2021 19:53

@CH79, am ok ta. I had a few cigarettes (about 3 I think), then went to bed. I haven't been sleeping well over past few nights because of this cold. I woke up about half n hour ago, feeling pretty refreshed, but stupid for drinking. Though I did enjoy it. At least didn't carry on and go to my friend's for more and dancing etc. That's how it usually goes.
New day tomorrow. I'm back on my af stance. Obviously, buying it is a problem for me. I will have to try and buy other things in the supermarket because having it in the fridge will not work for me. Strangely if it's not there and I want a drink, I rarely go n buy it.
My sisters wonder how I can have chocolate in the house and not eat it. I wonder how they can do the same with alcohol.

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CH79 · 01/08/2021 20:27

[quote Amdone123]@CH79, am ok ta. I had a few cigarettes (about 3 I think), then went to bed. I haven't been sleeping well over past few nights because of this cold. I woke up about half n hour ago, feeling pretty refreshed, but stupid for drinking. Though I did enjoy it. At least didn't carry on and go to my friend's for more and dancing etc. That's how it usually goes.
New day tomorrow. I'm back on my af stance. Obviously, buying it is a problem for me. I will have to try and buy other things in the supermarket because having it in the fridge will not work for me. Strangely if it's not there and I want a drink, I rarely go n buy it.
My sisters wonder how I can have chocolate in the house and not eat it. I wonder how they can do the same with alcohol.[/quote]

Ah well I'm glad you're feeling OK!
Tomorrow is another day! And by the sounds you won't have a hangover, so bonus!

X

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Amdone123 · 02/08/2021 07:35

Morning all ! I'm up early again, nothing new there. I'm not feeling too bad thank god. Just tired and still got a cold but am ignoring it and getting on with things.

I've got to walk the dog, go shopping and tonight I have my brilliant Zumba class. After 4 days in bed or on the couch, I'm really looking forward to it. No plans to drink til hopefully the 13th Aug and even then I need a plan!
Have a good day everyone. Whilst I did enjoy the wine yesterday, I have no desire to do it again any time soon.
Oh, I was looking at my diary and over the past 21 days, I've had 3 bottles of wine and 6 cigarettes. I was a bit disappointed at first but then put it in to perspective. Compared to what I was doing ( at least 4 bottles and say 12 cigarettes a week), it's not bad going !
I am a work in progress Smile.

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CH79 · 02/08/2021 07:46

@Amdone123

Morning all ! I'm up early again, nothing new there. I'm not feeling too bad thank god. Just tired and still got a cold but am ignoring it and getting on with things. I've got to walk the dog, go shopping and tonight I have my brilliant Zumba class. After 4 days in bed or on the couch, I'm really looking forward to it. No plans to drink til hopefully the 13th Aug and even then I need a plan! Have a good day everyone. Whilst I did enjoy the wine yesterday, I have no desire to do it again any time soon. Oh, I was looking at my diary and over the past 21 days, I've had 3 bottles of wine and 6 cigarettes. I was a bit disappointed at first but then put it in to perspective. Compared to what I was doing ( at least 4 bottles and say 12 cigarettes a week), it's not bad going ! I am a work in progress Smile.

Good Morning! Glad you're not feeling too bad.
I'd consider it a win that you stopped when you did, it could have been worse!
We can only try! X

EsmeraldasTambourine · 02/08/2021 08:57

Morning, It sounds like you have a good day planned ahead!
You have done so well to only have that amount in the last 21 days,
@CH79 is right, we can only try 🙂

Mj20 · 02/08/2021 09:41

Hi @Amdone123 and everyone else!
Hope your all doing ok….?
@Amdone123 I think I’m 21 days that’s actually a success!!!! We are all doing the best we can and it’s important we celebrate the wins!!! It’s day 9 for me!!!
Here’s to a happy and healthy week everyone xxx

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Amdone123 · 02/08/2021 09:55

@Mj20, your af time is flying by ! Well done on Day 9. Yes, I'm pleased with it so far. I'm just a bit of a perfectionist. I'm all or nothing and if I do something I like to do it properly or not at all. Come to think of it, that's maybe why I 'failed in the past. Of course, addiction is a completely different ballgame to say, decorating the bedroom, so I'll think a bit more about that. Does that make sense? I suppose I mean that when I've 'failed ' before, ot wasn't entirely my fault. Not passing the buck or anything but I have thought in the past that I probably do need medical intervention. I considered a life coach once. Someone I can harass on a daily basis.
You lot will do for now Grin
@CH79 and @EsmeraldasTambourine, you're right ; it is a win. I'm going to keep trying. Thanks.

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Soberanne · 02/08/2021 10:32

@Amdone123 i think your doung great. If someone said 21 days ago you will only have 3 bottles in the next 21 days you would never have believed it. Stop being so hard on yourself. Moderation is what you were hoping for and your proving to yourself you can moderate

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Amdone123 · 02/08/2021 10:43

@Soberanne, thank you.

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Mj20 · 02/08/2021 11:54

@Amdone123 I completely get what your saying!!! And @soberanne is right… you’ve massively cut down! Far from failing! Xx

Mj20 · 02/08/2021 11:55

Ps harass away! All in together xx

Soberanne · 02/08/2021 21:15

Another day over everyone.i stayed sober. I never even thought about alcohol which was good. Took mydogs a lovely walk and am now going to read my book. Tbh i am still finding life quite boring but i know that willimprove as i get more energy to do more

Buntyforgirls · 02/08/2021 21:25

To not have thought about alcohol is fab@Soberanne ! And @Amdone123 you are moderating so well, like you said- we are all a work in progress.
My trigger this week will be that when the sun comes out, I associate it ,with drinking a cold wine. So... going to buy some cream soda/ ginger beer which is full of nasties but not the same nasties as wine!

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Amdone123 · 02/08/2021 21:47

@Buntyforgirls, thanks. I am doing well , I just need to recognise it more. You must be a mind reader as I was thinking about the sun and drinks before. I have always associated nice weather with a wine or two, but during the last heatwave, I barely drank. And if I did, it certainly wasn't enough to get me drunk or hungover. Honestly, the thought of a hot, sleepless night, having to drink diet coke every 30 minutes and having my mouth feel like the bottom of an ashtray, just put me off. This sounds a bit mad too but I have a little dog and I worried about him during the last heatwave. During the day, he would find somewhere cool but at night ( he sleeps in my bed with me), I just couldn't bear the thought of me burning up through alcohol and it affecting him. I know it sounds daft but I'm so protective of him. Anyway, it worked. And before I was thinking when the next heatwave comes, I'm stocking up on sparkling water, diet drinks and lots of lollies and treats. @Soberanne, hey that's good not thinking about it. I find the longer I stay off it, the less I think about it. That's what fascinates me about people who are teetotal - they say they rarely think about it.
And yes I agree, sometimes life is quite boring ( especially atm), but I'm finding myself thinking ( more and more) that I'd rather be sober and bored than hungover and lay in bed feeling crap.

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Soberanne · 03/08/2021 09:47

Heres to another lovely day. No good weather or sun here so i dont need to wory but yes i do agree a wine in the garden on a hot day is always a serious temptation. Maybe soon the moderators will be able to do just that.

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Amdone123 · 03/08/2021 10:53

Morning all. It's lovely here. Jumped up at 6am to put my washing out. Love not having hangover, I get so much done. Work for a couple of hours then Zumba. No plans to drink. Smile

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youboozeyoulose · 03/08/2021 11:39

Morning everyone. Looking forward to a drink free evening with a good book tonight.

Soberanne · 04/08/2021 11:02

Morning all, pouring with rain today which would normal,y be another excuse to drink but today i am going to embrace it, wellies on and out the door