30 days from now.

[Amdone123]

Evening all.
If anyone is interested in quitting alcohol for 30 days ( in the first instance), please join us.
I've had a busy month ; Wimbledon, Football, birthday, anniversary and have drank way too much.
I've given up before and felt great so am trying again.

@Soberanne, awh thanks. That means so much as I didn't think I had any willpower. I guess I must have ! I think I'm just the type that when I put my mind to something I'll do it. You're right though it's not easy. It's like losing weight. I'm a star for the first 6 weeks then I can't be bothered. @Mj20, yes, I think we're similar. I chat on the phone too when drinking !! I hate it sober. Yeah, you're doing so well ( day 13?), so just pace yourself if you can. If not, it's not the end of the world. @Starling12, welcome and well done on Day 2, it's a great start. Hope you have a good night's sleep.

Everyone is doing so well!
My eve was cancelled due to rain and covid(not me), so left the fridge full of Prosecco and stuck to nosecco. I like the occasion of opening a bottle and using a wine glass, even if it’s not alcohol.
@Amdone123, I was thinking today how happy and positive I am feeling, eating well, exercising, beginning to sleep better, and better skin too!
Maybe it’s the satisfaction of self control as well as lack of alcohol...

@Buntyforgirls, I'm sure it's both ! It is good to feel in control. Well done for just having the Nosecco. I don't think I could do that ( ignore the Prosecco), but if I had a long term aim, that would certainly be it.
Well, after just 2 ( albeit) large glasses, I'm now wide awake and this is the first pretty bad night's sleep I've had for at least a week. It's obviously not a coincidence. Also, a slight headache. I've had to get up properly and make a cup of tea.
I wonder now if I should drop the wine altogether. I said I was craving a glass but I know when I got to the pub, I didn't really want it. I just had it for the sake of it. The 2nd glass I had at home I did enjoy but not enough to make me feel whole or anything. I think it's time to switch to spirits. Gin n tonic I think. I don't want to exchange one bad habit for another but I know from experience, that I'm better on spirits.

Hi girls @Amdone123 @Buntyforgirls!! Update on my Friday night…. Have drank 2 x Prosecco and half a rose between two and feeling pretty controlled and fine! I was mindful throughout… drinking lots of water etc so feeling hopeful tomorrow will be hangover free etc!!!! Pretty happy I managed a girls night without feeling abso hammered! In bed eating for DH to bring me a cuppa 🐒 @Buntyforgirls no Prosecco look at you! That’s amazing and @Amdone123 well done for stopping at 2 glasses! That’s a wine! A happy Friday night all round I’d say xxx

@Amdone123 I’ve put that’s a wine… 🤣 meant that’s a WIN!!! Bloody predictive text 🤣 xxx

@Mj20, , that's great! Can't see you having a hangover tomorrow.

Morning everyone! How are you all?
So good news is… I’m hangover free!!!! I’m tired and not chirpy but don’t feel ill or have anxiety! Thank goodness!
I feel like last night was well controlled 🥰 long may it last xxx

Yay ! You are smashing it @Mj20. I'm similar, don't feel great but at least I'm not hungover.

Thanks @Amdone123
Think that’s the biggest night I want to have really!!! Your doing great too!!!!! Xx

You're all doing brilliant to be able to just have a few and stop there, and @soberanne you too for abstaining completely!
I've got to say I am sleeping like a log and also not eating as much so that's a bonus 😁
Totally relate to the texting shite in the kitchen 🤣

Maybe our next thread should be… mindful, moderate and not texting shit in the kitchen 🤣

@Mj20 well done for keeping in control and moderating. Thats fantastic.

I have woke this mornjng and although still feeling exhausted i am definitely less anxious and am sleeping better. I am loving this thread and how supportive everyone is being .

@Soberanne ty! So pleased your sleeping better and your anxiety is improving! Keep up the great work- your doing amazing xx I actually felt anxious last night about would I feel anxious today from drinking 🙄 what a spiral we find ourselves in xxx

Afternoon everyone! So glad it's not just me who stands in the kitchen texting crap. @Mj20, am loving that title! @Soberanne, glad to hear you're sleeping better. I think it can take a while sometimes.
I've been busy today, with my granddaughter mainly. I've felt a bit bored when she went to her class, but not bored enough to drink. I don't want to drink at all today. I was actually complaining to my ds that there was no sparkling water in tesco ! That's a first.
My friend is at a pub event tomorrow and I know she's going to ask me to go. I know if I go I'll drink for the sake of it so I'm going to decline. My dh has just said he's not working tomorrow so I'm going to cook a roast dinner. I would rather do that than go out.
I'm having an early night tonight.
Have a good evening folks !

Good result @Mj20, hopefully the first of mindful and moderate socialising with friends.
Tonight I was tempted , but kept reminding myself how good the feeling of smugness will be tomorrow morning by abstaining ! Feeling a bit flat though...
Well done to all. And thanks so much for the support and positive chat.

Not smug in judging others, just smug as in “Oh yes, I did it!”
I am certainly in no position to judge others for drinking/ not drinking decisions.
Oh dear, anxiety and I haven’t even had a drink, hee!

@Buntyforgirls, I understand what you mean ! I feel a bit flat today. Instead of taking the bull by the horns I am waiting for the text to invite me tomorrow and am ready to decline. It's not happening naturally for me (the declining) and is making me antsy !! I often make a mountain out of a molehill. Got to stop thinking the world revolves around me! Actually one thing I will say is that out of my circle of friends, if I don't go out out, people are usually disappointed. Probably because I'm the performing monkey.
Sorry for going off on a tangent there. I was thinking that tomorrow friends will be texting me saying they're dying and I'll be feeling smug !
I'm having a good day really. I'm not missing the drinking, I'm really not. I know had I started drinking when my granddaughter went home, I'd be in the kitchen smoking, texting and wondering how I can get more alcohol. Not a pretty sight.

@Buntyforgirlstitally knew what you meant!!! I’m feeling flat- but that’s from drinking last night! Although I’m not hungover I’m feeling it! Defo notice the difference!
@Amdone123 your doing so well!!!!!! I get your friends are disappointed because your articulate and good fun- a real people person! I think us girls with anxiety sell ourselves short and are too hard on ourselves!!!

So I’m actually out tomorrow… with the husband! Wedding anniversary! I’m going to drink…. But…. Mindfully and not as much as last night!!!! Then I’m going to have a break just to reset! Xx

@Mj20, awh thanks. That made me smile. I am too hard on myself sometimes. I'm a people pleaser - a good Catholic girl at heart ❤
Yes, you can still have a good time for your anniversary. It will be lovely am sure.

Morning all, and glad you understood what I meant!
On reflection, I think I was feeling flat, not from not drinking, but from a little bit of cabin fever- wet day, and thought the alcohol would help add a buzz to the evening-which it would temporarily but at what cost? And also would reinforce the pattern of turning to alcohol to change mood- which is a pattern I wish to end.
Anyway... I had a deep refreshing sleep- best in ages- result , and am off to the gym again this morning.
@Soberanne- I hope you are sleeping better too

Also@Mj20 happy anniversary- these are exactly the occasions I want to save enjoying a drink for, without guilt, not the over drinking, over sharing oh no what did I say, who did I upset occasions!
Enjoy!

@Buntyforgirls, that's great and good for you going to the gym ! It's so miserable here. Going to be a longggg day, but I'm going to do something. I think ! @Mj20, happy anniversary. Have a lovely day.

Well, I was thinking last night that the 30 days is nearly up. I believe, thanks to everyone here ( you've all made me accountable and I've loved the support and motivation), that we've been successful! Yay ! Gold medals 🏅🥇 to us. I've learnt so much from doing this but the biggest difference to the other times I've tried is that I'm not thinking that now it's coming to an end ( the thread), I'm not planning on getting drunk ! I don't want to. A close friend of mine ( I met her on another af forum and we support each other) has said that my mindset appears to have changed. And that's the key for me. I'm no longer seeing wine and thinking it will make my life better - at least not in the quantities I was drinking it. I see wine and it equates to so many negatives. And yet I'm pleased that I can still enjoy a glass or 2. I'm not going to be one of those people who tut tut at it. Or indeed at other people who like to get drunk. This is about me.
Today I'm going to write down what I want my relationship with alcohol to be like, going forward. Top of the list is No More Hangovers!!! I am never inflicting that shite on myself ever again.
Have a great day, everyone! Thanks again for all your support and for letting me into your lives so I can get a better insight into mine 💕

Thank you @Amdone123 for starting this thread and you all for being so supportive.
Happy anniversary @Mj20, I hope you enjoy your celebrations!
It's only been just over a week for me and I could murder some red today but I'll continue on until next Friday then hopefully be in the same mind set as most of you ' mindful, moderate and definitely not texting shite in the kitchen' 🤣 thanks again 🙂

@EsmeraldasTambourine, you're welcome. I fancy a glass of something today too but am batting the thought away.
Well done on just over a week. That's brilliant.

Afternoon everyone. Its lovely weather here so been out gardening. Usually i would now have a wine reward so am on here instead. Its a scary thought to think I may have to battle the temptations for ever, i am hoping it will become easier sooner rather than later.