Tryers to be dryers spring into spring, not as much wine, beer or gin. We sow our seeds of hope for a dryer season, but if we drink, it's for a reason.

[Frouby]

Thread 5 for Tryers to be Dryers. A thread for those who want support for moderating or reducing alcohol. Whatever you hope to do, whether it's to have more dry days, or be less wet when you do drink, come and join us for support.

Absolutely no judgement here, just friendly support and chat, the odd swear (lots of swears to be honest). All welcome, new and old tryers to dryers.

Hugs Dion, I do like your gin health story. Sadly I don't really like gin. Or maybe it's the tonic. If you find any "drink wine and live forever" stories I will love you even more than I do already.

Game of Thrones was slightly disappointing imo. One massive battle scene really.

Yeah BIL is a wankerbastard of the highest order. I had a massive dilemma last year about my wedding and him coming. But he couldn't make it in the end as his father was seriously ill. Not sure how the shed sex worked but it's not the first time he had done shit like that. Just the first time it was literally on the doorstep. My sister is obsessive about cleaning though, so I imagine the shed was neatly organised. I offer to help her with paperwork occasionally as while I am doing that she starts cleaning.

She had a drama a few years ago, all her own fault but ended up at mine for a few hours and my house was gleaming by the end of it all.

My family is massively dysfunctional to be fair. I have 4 sisters and a brother. Only 1 sister is wired up right and my brother is no bother. The other 3 sisters are puddled. I keep a low profile but we are all close I suppose. Me and normal sister sometimes sneak off together for days out with the dcs and it's lovely. Am very close to my lovely cousin as well.

Need to read the gin health story, missed it last night, but at 4 syns for 35ml with diet tonic it's already practically a health food here 😂.

Wrote a stonkingly long message last night, only for my phone to glitch and I lost the lot!!
So will catch up later properly.

Frouby, I so love the word wankerbastard, thanks for giving it to us!

I am on day 4 AF and of the BSD and I feel thinner, ha ha, probably am though but won't weigh until next weekend.

Have you all seen Tony Slattery? He was drinking 2 bottles of vodka a day and spending £4k a WEEK on cocaine, that's going some! Makes us all look like saints...poor bloke though.

I too now use the word wankerbastard!! Equally love it!! It’s ace!!

Well done water on the BSD. That’s great. Do you feel cleansed?? I’m trying to eat healthier and unprocessed (apart from wine fml!). Feeling brighter. 😊

Omg yes..tony slattery..remember seeing him perform in a couple of plays while I was studying A level theatre studies. He was fabulous. Poor chap. I wonder what his story is that led him to the place he is in now.

Crikey. Just read that tony slattery, on asked what he plans for his 60th year, he replied “survive”.

I feel like Tony Slattery now.

I can cope with bumsex, but not with shed sex.

I am a hopeless case today because I had lunch with a friend who likes wine. So it has been one of those days. I am immensely unhappy about DP, so the very last thing I should have had is wine for lunch. Plus there's the health anxiety. FML.

In MN parlance, I think I haven't got an alcohol problem: I have got a DP problem. Sad but true. He is the root of this (and, yes, I know I can't 'blame' him because I'm an adult who can control her own destiny, etc, but loving someone makes you go loopy. Especially after an abusive relationship. Though I am starting to think this relationship is abusive in its own, different, way).

Water, Day 4. Wow.

Frouby, I love wankerbastard too. I am not unfamiliar with these creatures, but have never had a word for them (ditto twatting quiche).

I am glad I am expanding everyones vocabulary. I aim to please.

Dion shed sex wouldn't be for me either. My shed at home is a fucking tip. Me and dh are due our Annual Shed Fight anytime soon. What happens is I go and start pulling everything out to tidy it. DH gets twitchy that I might throw some of his shite away. So comes out to 'help'. I spend 2 hours pulling stuff out, sweeping it out, organising it all, then he quickly tries to shove everything back in before I have chance to throw anything away. I say stop, he sneaks stuff in, I say stop again, call him a wankerbastard, he argues that he needs as this shite, I point out he can fucking keep it, but shed is shared space, not his space and if he stacked it all neatly he could fit everything and more in.

So yeah. ShedFight season is approaching.

Done OK on my diet today so far. 2 weetabix and a banana, and a plum. Dinner is omelette, airfryer chips and beans. No speed on there but I really cba to chop more salad. Might lob a few mushrooms, onions and tomatoes in my omelette though just to make me feel better.

Least Twatting Quiche is off the menu on slimming world. Can make fatclun quiche though which uses fatfree cottage cheese instead of cream and is crustless, so no faffing with pastry.

It's quite nice actually but a fucker to get out of the tin.

No speed on there but I really cba to chop more salad.
Bloody hell Frouby, they let you have speed on SW? No wonder it works.

Dion you are right, I think. It is indeed a headfuck, but you deserve to be loved and cherished.

I’d take shed sex over bum sex any day, although it’s making me think of Freddie Boswell and Lilo Lil. Showing my age there.

Today I’ve followed WW and been to the gym. I feel good. I haven’t lost any weight yet though and it’s nearly weekend so I need to be careful. I’ve been AF Sun, Mon, Wed and tonight, and just half a bottle of wine on Tuesday.
WHY AM I NOT A SIZE 10 YET??????

Dionysa 💐💐💐 on the dp front. How long have you been together? I hope lunch was fun.

Pmsl at ‘they let you have speed?’ Hahahahaha NC4

Thats good moderating NC4 🙂

Flossie, I do feel better, like some of the blubber is slowly melting. Urgh!

Was the thinnest I have ever been when I used to go clubbing and have speed. A lovely, boney, size 10 with big boobs still. Now each boob is probably a size 10 on its own 😂😂😂.

If I could cope with the anxiety and palpitations I would buy a little bag of whizz and stir a tiny bit in my coffee every morning. That definetly works and your house is always immaculate but you cry through Eastenders and everyone is out to get you.

Dion you deserve so much more. . Hes a wankerbastard as well.

Had 2 g and ts tonight. 8 syns. A couple in my omelette for the oil. Could in theory have another but am bloody knackered. After running around all day, and working ds decided he wanted to go for a long walk after school with the dog.

We went about 2 miles. Dog had a blast and also rolled in something dead so had to have a shower when we got home. But I think I am weak from lack of carling calories and it just about finished me off so going to bed to read then having an early night.

Dion you deserve so much more my lovely, but when you are in love it is hard to see reason. Especially with the charming bastards. If they are wonderful 20% of the time that is enough to keep you hanging on whereas 80% for non charmers is not enough.
Frouby is twatting quiche really that bad? I eat it most nights. With salad and a lot of dressing.
Nc4 you are doing really well
water you too, I'm sure you will have lost weight
I hate gin, my poison is red wine, but tha has heath benefits too.
Longest my dad will be 85 this year, he has drunk nearly every night since I was born (a reflection on my not so easy character?) and I'm 52 so he is a good example of someone I. Good health, still working and active. He never drank to excess but can still polish of half a bottle of wi e a night with no problem.
DH is staying with a friend tonight (yes really) so I've been able to catch up with episodes 2&3 of Line of Duty with DD who is still a little British unlike DS.
UK TV, red wine, crisps and chocolate from the Easter sales. Lovely.

I'd join you Frouby. I also had a tiny waist, big boobs and a sparkling house. Not sure my responsibilities could hack it these days sadly.

I need to find a way of entertaining myself in the evenings when I don't drink. It's very boring. But it's Friday tomorrow, so I am allowed.

I was 8 stone 12 when I first got pregnant, 22 years ago, sob!

Mdmeforest, I’m finding line of duty a bit gruesome. Good but gruesome. That sounds like a lovely evening.

NC4 is sport out of the question? I like Quiz Planet at the moment, a stupid FB game but quite fun. I've never had big boobs, or a bum, just straight up and down. Although my bum area has now started to sag even if I don't really have one which is a bit annoying.

Oh I need that diet. I lost loads of weight when I had gestational diabetes and had to do low GI. I like the idea of being thin after 4 days. I will check it out.

Meeting Paris friend for lunch tomorrow though so that won't be the healthiest of days as likely to involve wine, and in the evening too.

Dion love, well done for calling it out. I hope your friend took care of you. Do you have a plan? Or a plan B?

Have been Frouby-level productive today. Last day of new job. Got home at 6:30. Collected dd1 from after school club and delivered her to brownies. Made and ate dinner for DH and me, packed lunch for dd2, did her bath and stories, made cakes for sodding class cake sale, cleaned kitchen fetched dd1, let her decorate cakes, cleaned kitchen again, listened to her violin practice (her suggestion, obviously abducted by aliens), did her bath and stories, had own bath and got in early bed.

I need a blubber melting blood sugar diet! I lost loads of weight on gestational diabetes diet. Am meeting Paris friend for boozy lunch tomorrow though so will have to start after that.

Dion, well done on calling it out. Do you have a plan? Or a plan B? Is your friend looking out for you?

Have been Frouby level productive today, given I did not get home till 7, but am crashed out in bed now.

Gah, ignore me, post vanished then reappeared, along with all your posts about speed. I have never tried speed. Probably why my house has never sparkled and my boobs have never been big.

longest if you learnt how to eat with GD then you know how to eat for BSD already. I’ve had a terrible unhealthy April so am gearing up for health kick as the holy month is nearly upon us which I have used as excuse this year to boss DH into BSD lite (800 kcal AF twice a week only and BSD with moderate wine on other days). Being bossy should help me rein it in myself
Loving the tea-with-touch-speed frouby

longest it's horrible stuff, you haven't missed anything. But a really, really good appetite suppressant 😂. I used to eat lunch at work on a Friday, be out all weekend and then struggle to force a salad down at work on a monday. Had a lovely firgure, but it was wasted on me as I still thought I was fat due to the paranoia speed gives you.

It also gives you the massive horn. Which is fine if you had a dp at the time. Or even a fwb. Otherwise you laid around all day sunday, feeling your own hip bones and wanking, while feeling sad and paranoid 😂😂😂.

Blacksmith for ponies this morning, then I don't know whether to work later or do some stuff on the allotment. It's due to be cold this weekend so will probably work for a couple of hours.

Madame quiche is not bad at all. But it's pretty calorific if you are dieting and make it with double cream and a thick pastry crust. Can swap the cream for cottage cheese and leave the pastry off though. It's not as nice but not as calorific.

Omg, I am still fat, very, but I’ve lost 12lbs in 4 days! And my visceral fat has reduced as has my BMI! No idea what I weigh as DH weighed me on fancy scales and I deliberately didn't look but woo hoo! What an incentive to keep going 🙂

Today is day 5 of BSD and day 5 AF. Feel happy!

Dammit typed long message and lost it

Im going to do that leaving once the 8 weeks of this BSD is over, 5:2 basically. At 1000 cals a bottle wine cannot be part of it! Most of that is sugar too. Feeling motivated today and happy.

Hmm speed, I liked it too, back in the day, but luckily stopped in my twenties and it was only ever an occasional party thing.