Does anyone else like a shorter man?

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I’m watching a Stacey Dooley programme about men having operations to lengthen their legs and increase their height, and it’s such a brutal operation that it seems completely mad to me that anyone would put themselves through it.
It got me thinking about how much height actually matters when it comes to attraction. I’ve always preferred men who are on the shorter side. I’ve never dated anyone over 6ft, and I can’t really think of a man I’ve fancied who was even approaching 6ft. Most of my boyfriends have been within a couple of inches of my height (I’m 5'6"), and I genuinely wouldn’t mind dating someone the same height as me or even shorter.
Tall men actually make me feel slightly uncomfortable in a physical sense, they seem to loom over me a bit, and there’s something about the height difference that makes them feel almost quite far away.
Am I an outlier here, or is height really as important to women as men seem to think it is? I do remember a few female friends, and actually some gay male friends, having a minimum height they would go for, and being genuinely annoyed when people exaggerated their height on dating profiles. So clearly it matters to some people.
I’m just wondering how widespread the preference for taller men actually is, versus how much men think women care about it.

Exactly. Having a preference for taller men is one thing but what an odd thing to say about someone’s daughters boyfriend 🙄

Like my son, it’s not like he has much choice in the matter

I actually tend to go for not-tall men. I think the less height they have, the more pretty their faces.

If my now dh was shorter than me we wouldn't have been more than casual acquaintances.

I do like a taller man. I'm off only 5'2" and would say 6ft is ideal.

Dated someone who was 6'4" which looked a bit ridiculous but didn't put me off. Likewise dh is 5'9" and that's fine too.

I have sons and it does annoy me how much height is valued and the messages they get about this. Other mum's are always going on about how tall their sons are/ what big feet they have/ how they're taller than themselves now etc. There's a real cultural message that tall is good and short is less than.

😂😂

My partner is the same height as me 5 foot 6 and it honestly doesn’t bother me. He is Asian though so pretty common. In comparison I’ve had dv relationships with taller men who were not kind people so I don’t know if I kind of have an association really that I feel safer that some man isn’t going to tower over me and threaten me. I know that isn’t necessarily the case regardless of height but I guess it’s how I feel

See I’m the other way.

male violence usually comes from a domestic partner. We also never think it will be us, but it’s not an unusual MO for seemingly decent men not to show their abusive tendencies until after an even such as marriage, or pregnancy…

Your tall and “brick shithouse” man would be less attractive to me- i don’t generally need someone to step in on the street- lets face it, any man threatening me will usually back off out of respect for another man,regardless of physical capability.

but if dh showed violent or coercive tendencies at any point, I cannot fight back. Maybe this is why I prefer smaller, more slim men, yes I know they’re still likely to be stronger than me, but I’m a strong woman and at least would have a chance to get away.

we all have different experiences of male violence, and sometimes a big strong man is not the reassurance you’ll be safe.

I'm 5'4" and much prefer shorter men. The tallest I ever dated was 6ft and that okay, but DH is 5'10". A big hulking bloke of about 6'4" once had a big thing about me and I didn't find him remotely attractive. He was just too big.

I quite like a smaller man. My dp is 5ft 5' and I'm 5ft 5 and a half. I like my cute and cuddly man just the way he is 😊

I used to go for taller men but DP is shorter than me and it flew out the window when I met him. Now, I think it would feel weird to have some gigantic man roaming round my house 🤣

I'm well aware – that's some of the male violence I've experienced in my life, but that boyfriend was closer to my height, and the coercive emotional abuse had much more impact. It didn't matter how big he was, I was too afraid and emotionally beaten down to fight him, and he was stronger anyway.

Your preference makes sense though.

None of my relationships have been with tall men and I'm a bit taller than the average woman. I'm happy to wear heels and tower over them too. Doesn't bother me at all. I don't actually like tall men. Very easy for them to come over as a bit threatening.

Sorry. Obviously meant to say, NOT INTERESTED.

I honestly don't mind. I had three serious-ish relationships before DH, and of the four men, two are tall (over 6 foot), and two are relatively short (around 5'8"). I found/find them all attractive at the time I was with them.

My exes were over 6ft. Tallest 6ft 4in and 125kg.

My husband is 5ft 4in, same height as me. Very stocky and solid.

Pros are he doesn't take up so much space.
Cons are I can't easily spot him in the supermarket!

Weird how it turned out.