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Newname17192864627 · Today 14:24

I fear he is very likely in the water, autistic children are often drawn to water and the ran off right in the direction of the lake. I really hope I am wrong. Thinking of the family it must just be so awful.

cloudbabies · Today 14:25

Marleyandme71 · Today 14:08

I was taken when I was 3 out of mom and dad's front garden by two girls. I was returned later, but I do remember being with a man in a tree house and he had leopard print pants on n I'm only 50% sure I got shown his Willie. It was over 50 years ago. My dad found out who the man was and beat him up, my dad got jailed. This was early 70s. I even remember the police man asking me things and he had a bite of my ice cream 😂. Thankfully the rest of it I don't remember x

This is a really fucked up thing to have happened to you, and I’m sorry it did, but it isn’t the time or place. You seem to think it’s funny. It’s not. I’m reporting your post.

TwoMorePlease · Today 14:25

CurlewKate · Today 14:18

I asked Mumsnet if this thread could be closed-they have asked for specific posts to be reported. Please do report any that you find disturbing.

They delete a thread about a dolphin being killed after about 10 posts, but leave this thread up despite it being full of horrible comments and speculation about a missing child. The moderation here is appalling.

XelaM · Today 14:26

SereneFinch · Today 13:58

People who go missing near water are almost always found in the water. Not always straight away though.

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Sadly this it the most likely scenario 😔It's so unusual for the dogs not to pick up any scent if he just ran away from a known area. Either he was taken in a car (very unlikely although maybe that's why the police are now searching further afield?) or unfortunately it was water. Absolutely horrific and I so feel for the family!

AustenitesUnite · Today 14:30

Brantham Council are asking for donations of food & drink for the emergency services & volunteers to stop as they are inundated

It's heart warming how something like this brings out the best side of the community ~ all those amazing volunteers and people at the community centre making tea & coffee for them and all the donations and offers for help

xabimunich3 · Today 14:34

Oh God this has really upset me.
I was minding my autistic nephew a few years ago and he ran off. We were in the enclosed playground in the park when he suddenly bolted towards the lake, it happened in seconds. He'd even managed to unlock the gate.
Thankfully I managed to run faster than I've ever run in my entire life and catch up with him, but my God the fear I felt has never left me.
My heart was pounding, I was pouring with sweat and shaking uncontrollably. A lovely lady who saw what had happened came over and comforted me. It's so, so easy for kids to bolt, I really pray this poor little boy is hiding somewhere like the new estate that I believe is being built nearby.
His poor family, I hope his grandad is being looked after as well, I can't imagine how he's feeling.

Never2many · Today 14:34

CurlewKate · Today 14:18

I asked Mumsnet if this thread could be closed-they have asked for specific posts to be reported. Please do report any that you find disturbing.

It’s not reasonable to ban the discussion of a missing child on a parenting forum which is in the national news.

As distasteful as comments on these types of threads often are, the fact is it’s a missing child, it’s in the news, and this is a parenting forum. It’s inevitable that people will discuss it, and if they pull one thread another will simply pop up in its place.

Better to report distasteful posts so they can be deleted individually.

OfAllThePlaces · Today 14:34

I used to work with autistic adults. Parents would stitch them into coats, under shoe linings, tongues of shoes, even hair scrunchies. Very inventive. You can also key key ring holders for them that you could attach to most things like zips, belt loops, even clothes tags.

From toddler to around 6yrs old, my now adult son (autistic, has developmental delays and learning difficulties) was what we lovingly called a flight risk. All it took was a few seconds and he would be off like a whippet, both indoors and outdoors. I certainly couldn't catch him outdoors if he got too far away, so always used reins or his SN buggy until he outgrew them, then insisted he held my hand if we were near any dangers. I would only trust a very small handful of people to watch him, and they all knew him really well. One of them was my elderly FIL who loved taking him out, but knew the drill, had to be in his buggy. However he would still take him out and walk hand in hand with him. He never fell while holding his hand, but if he had, my son would have definitely ran off like Noah did.

I wonder if those of you being so awful and rude have ever had experience of a child with disabilities that is a runner? It's bloody hard, bloody challenging, and doesn't help seeing judgy faces or reading judgy comments like the ones you're posting. All it takes is a few seconds. Doesn't matter how or what the grandad looked like or was doing, those couple of seconds is all it took and his grandad no doubt will feel shit about it for the rest of his life.

ExistWHY · Today 14:36

This thread is awful.
Some commenters on here should be ashamed of themselves.

As i said in a previous comment I have many questions myself.
But right now its about the safety of a little boy.

MrsKiplingsSauna · Today 14:42

DeftGoldHedgehog · Today 14:16

Hardly strange is it? The last thing they need is nosy ass incels flying drones around.

You just called the police incels?

Everyone with a drone is an incel?

You need to take a look at yourself.

Sunnibee · Today 14:42

Fairyyqueen · Today 13:11

Sorry if stupid question but why do you think they have released this cctv footage? The image isn’t super clear so wouldn’t help members of the public identify him any more than a photograph of him would?

Maybe in case it jogged someone's memory who may have been there or seen something? Context can be important for that which a still photo wouldn't provide

MelissaLovedMantari · Today 14:43

AustenitesUnite · Today 13:33

BBC News saying that a police statement is imminent . . . .

'Nothing to indicate anything sinister,' say policepublished at 13:22
13:22
Suffolk Police says there is nothing to indicate any criminality was involved in Noah's disappearance.
Images and CCTV footage have been released showing him at the playground in Merriman Close, shortly before he went missing.
Supt Tom Pearse said: “This is being treated as a missing person investigation at this stage and there is nothing to indicate anything sinister or any element of criminality has taken place although we keep an open mind as to the circumstances."

Is this the update you mean?

HollyhocksandPeons · Today 14:43

What the hell is the purpose of this thread? Ghouls. The lot. Ghouls.

Portugal1987 · Today 14:48

MrsKiplingsSauna · Today 14:42

You just called the police incels?

Everyone with a drone is an incel?

You need to take a look at yourself.

This poster is obviously not referring to the police as incels.

EveryoneUsingOutro · Today 14:48

MrsKiplingsSauna · Today 01:20

Speculation?

Are you saying you could not outrun a 3 year old?

If it was an elderly relative, quite possibly.

Mine was a runner and a climber, he could disappear in seconds.

Feel sick for this little lad and his family. Hope there’s good news soon.

Also the many who go missing and don’t get the viral media attention to help find them. Apparently 100,000 people go missing in the UK every year. Many are found quickly (or as adults, don’t want to be found). So much heartbreak and heartache.

Anarchy99 · Today 14:49

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Sunnibee · Today 14:50

HollyhocksandPeons · Today 14:43

What the hell is the purpose of this thread? Ghouls. The lot. Ghouls.

Maybe to draw the publics attention to a missing child? I hadn't heard the news and the first I learned of it is this thread. As a mother of a non verbal child around the same age who runs off like lightening the second I turn my head it's also been a sharp awakening for me personally .
praying for Noah and his family.

SleeplessInWherever · Today 14:51

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Not necessarily helpful in this case but..

Sometimes we have to let them walk, because otherwise they will not learn to not run.

Essentially.

ThatLoudCat · Today 14:52

DeftGoldHedgehog · Today 14:16

Hardly strange is it? The last thing they need is nosy ass incels flying drones around.

What a weird thing to say. What have incels got to do with this??

Portugal1987 · Today 14:53

SleeplessInWherever · Today 14:51

Not necessarily helpful in this case but..

Sometimes we have to let them walk, because otherwise they will not learn to not run.

Essentially.

They were just leaving a playground. Most toddlers are bolters. They run, they hide, they have no sense of danger.

Not helpful to play the wpuld have should have could have game.

Anarchy99 · Today 14:54

EveryoneUsingOutro · Today 14:48

If it was an elderly relative, quite possibly.

Mine was a runner and a climber, he could disappear in seconds.

Feel sick for this little lad and his family. Hope there’s good news soon.

Also the many who go missing and don’t get the viral media attention to help find them. Apparently 100,000 people go missing in the UK every year. Many are found quickly (or as adults, don’t want to be found). So much heartbreak and heartache.

Wanting this to be front page news is crazy. It risks turning into another MM where the media is fixed on one case instead of the many others

changedusername190 · Today 14:54

The person looking after him at the park may have been supervising him may have had another child to look after.If they were the roundabout with another child it would have taken a minute to get off safely. Thats all it takes for a runner to go.

thehound4 · Today 14:54

HollyhocksandPeons · Today 14:43

What the hell is the purpose of this thread? Ghouls. The lot. Ghouls.

Yet here you are reading, what does that say about you?

This is a horrible, unsettling and triggering case. The majority of people on here are parents and can empathise. Not all of the comments have been pleasant but the overwhelming majority of people here are sympathising not speculating. Do you never talk about things that are going on in the world?

SleeplessInWherever · Today 14:54

Portugal1987 · Today 14:53

They were just leaving a playground. Most toddlers are bolters. They run, they hide, they have no sense of danger.

Not helpful to play the wpuld have should have could have game.

I wasn’t. I was responding to someone who wanted to know “why not,” xyz.

The reason why not doesn’t really matter. But the top and bottom of it is he evidently was allowed to walk, and the family had their own reasons for that.

Portugal1987 · Today 14:55

SleeplessInWherever · Today 14:54

I wasn’t. I was responding to someone who wanted to know “why not,” xyz.

The reason why not doesn’t really matter. But the top and bottom of it is he evidently was allowed to walk, and the family had their own reasons for that.

Yes I was replying to that person too, sorry