What's the most WTF assumption you've heard about yourself.

[Motorwayview]

Mine is a hum dinger.
DH is significantly older than me - he is retired and I work PT. We have planned carefully so we were able to retire somewhere sunny. During our 35 years together he was a medium earner and I was the higher earner - his job was flexible for school drop offs/ pick ups ect. We have 2 adult DC and grandchildren.
He has joined a hobby group and last night they had a social evening so I went along.
Random woman - who was the wife of the organiser I found out later- " Well, you've landed on your feet - HIS children and ex wife must hate you " said very loudly in front of a group of people I don't really know.
I did put her straight , but WTF !

When I was at a very expensive private boarding school in the 1960's I often had holidays jobs, one of which was bagging and pricing vegetables in the local supermarket. A very poncey woman was bragging to her friend that her daughter was going there at the start of the next term, when I said "I go there" she was clearly disbelieving until she discovered that I lived three houses away from her. Very funny!

This was back in the late eighties. I lived alone in a lovely period, one bed flat in west London that I owned. Well, the Bank owned most of it, but the mortgage was in my sole name. I earned my own money, was single and had never been married. I was dating a guy and we sometimes double dated with his best mate and best mate's girlfriend who I shall call Daphne. Daphne once asked me if I had ever been married and I said I hadn't. A few months later after a night out together we all ended up back at my flat and after a few drinks Daphne looks around my sitting room and said "I thought you said you had never been married". I said "I haven't".

It transpired that Daphne (who admittedly wasn't the sharpest tool in the box) couldn't conceive how a woman was able to buy her own property, even a modest 1 bed flat, without a man bankrolling it. It was a sad day for women's lib and the suffragette movement.

I'm often told I'm too nice in job interviews.
I'm only bring nice because I'm in an interview!

Nope, just "keep the hair out of my eyes while I am wrangling two small children and a baby" plaits. I wanted long hair at the time, I can't remember why, rather than short and comfortable.

I'm very confused by this post.
Firstly, why would anyone be anything but nice in a job interview and what would be deemed too nice?
Secondly, why are you only being nice because you're in an interview? That sounds as though you are not nice in any other circumstance. Why?

I hope you complained to the company he was from - it’s not the 1950’s as much as some men would like it to be!

What an utter wanker.

John's away with DH, he loves spending time with his dad..

Someone I went to school with said she thought I was “stuck up”, probably because I’m quiet, reserved and introverted. That surprised me as I’ve always been very down to earth. People will make assumptions about your character when you keep to yourself, I guess.

Along the same vein, someone assumed I was fake because “nobody is that nice”. Trust me, if I could pick and choose a personality, it wouldn’t be this one 🙈

Have you had your DNA analysed? If you watch the Viking series, there's Russian shared heritage with the Vikings, who took it to Normandy.

My DD, got hatred, a lot, when minding her DN, as a teen. So did my eldest, minding my youngest. The open hatred for teen mums is disgusting. I have a ten year age gap because of secondary infertility, everyone assumes different dads, for each of my children. I just don't tell people my life story, often including that I was widowed young. They just see, single mum, in not a great job (because I'd come out of my carer to be a carer/help my children through their dad's death). Everyone, including health professionals find it astonishing that my youngest is in full time work and owns her (cheap Liverpool house) , she has LDs, hypermobility and Autism. We now find it funny.

I found out one day from a colleague who joined where I currently work from an old job because I wore trainer shoe type things or Vans with my suits and not heels/ballet pumps at work I really thought I was something and wanted to be ‘so different’ and get men’s attention . I said to her not at all…heels slowed me down and ballet pumps are just evil. I could cover corridors/yard duty/classrooms in triple the time and get 10 to 12,000 steps a day in going between floors and not limp/crawl to the car park after work. I honestly couldn’t believe that because I wasn’t clip clopping down the corridors I was seen as some sort of wanting to get in with the male staff people really do have bizarre assumptions.

People think ‘they’ve got money’ because we get deliveries from Ocado nope I just find discount codes, vouchers etc 80% of our food comes from Asda, Lidl and Aldi and the Organic meat food markets if we have any left over.

Randomly when we bought our house and spent a lot of our own time doing it up and then threw a party a couple of our neighbours were like ‘they’ve got money’ again nope…company cars that we pay a contribution from our wages for, second hand kitchen, A LOT of time in charity shops, repurposed wooden floors that we sanded and waxed ourselves, and a lot of money in primers and decent paint as we wanted things to last longer as don’t want to spend crazy amounts redecorating every few years. Our money mainly goes on activities for the kids like Music lessons, Dance, basketball, Tutoring, self defence the kids know they are very fortunate and know we have to work to get things such as holidays…when we last went away we decided to upgrade to a Villa as the A/I hotel just wasn’t nice, again we got a few comments from family/friends saying oh look at you moneybags…again nope not really took us two years to save for it. Again strange assumptions people have particularly about where you live, cars you drive, where your kids go to school, who you marry/partner. Really a strange world we live in.

I have a whole list of these, from my exh 🤣🤣🙄🙄

Lies about me

Mum & dad hate me and prefer him
We only had child to make him jealous
I sent texts saying he was cheating off a random number
The kids are feral at my house and I don’t feed them
I took everything from the house when I left
I moved to Peterborough
I did cam work
My bf was 17
I’m only with oh to make him jealous
I was going to kill myself
I hated exh gf and wanted to fight her
I left him with 80k debt
We split December
Apparently when I moved out I took all the furniture, food, cutlery and left him with nothing 🤡🤡🤡 funny that mate when the bed you sleep on is one I bought, the table in the dining room was a gift from my parents, your bedroom wardrobes were from my parents 🤡🤡🤡
I didn’t do washing / cleaning / cooking

When my sister and I were young, my family was very poor. Mum would buy clothes and woollens at jumble sales, and re-make them into clothes and jumpers for us. When we started school, the woman who became her best friend thought we were well off; because we were so well dressed!

When I was at primary school my RP speaking class and I were absolutely convinced that 2 new girls (sisters) who had joined the school mid term were Australian and also not very well off. This was wholly based on their accents and that they were wearing second hand blazers. Our questions about marsupials and the outback must have confused them, but they were always nice and polite. Whole class were invited to a birthday party at their home and I remember that we were shocked when we saw that they lived in a stunning 5 bed house in a wonderful location. DM told me years later that they had moved from Stepney as their Dad had sold his very successful business and mid term could not order the bespoke school uniform, so the school sorted out second hand blazers.... I guess as 9 year olds we had not heard an east end accent before, so wrongly guessed Australian. I still feel embarrassed for my childhood assumptions.

strange assumptions people have particularly about where you live, cars you drive, where your kids go to school, who you marry/partner. Really a strange world we live in

definitely regarding what car you drive where I live. It's quite bizarre really. When my son was a lot younger a family moved in down the road who had a son of a similar age. But we never saw them. Until, we changed our car and then he turned up on the doorstep one day asking to play. Could have been coincidence but it fits with the demographic of where we live.

I overheard a family member describing me to a neighbour of my Dad as the fat ugly witch that comes around and how I’m only interested in doing anything that relates to money. Nice

This is hilarious.

Exactly, why would anyone be anything but nice, friendly, cooperative in an interview and then be judged badly for it, it drives me mad but it's consistent feedback.

Of course I'm nice outside an interview too, but I can also be firm when I need to be, in fact at work I sometimes need to be ruthless and pushy, and I guess I need to somehow demonstrate that in an interview that without looking combative or difficult.

Its very tricky feedback to navigate.
And I'm pretty sure it's linked to me being female too.

I sat having coffee with a mum from the school.
I was heavily pregnant with my second child.
She looked at me thoughtfully and said ‘I never took you for a two child mum’
I looked quizzically and she went on ‘I always thought of you as a only child mum’
I did not know what to say 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have similar to this too! I have the bottle tan and eyelashes, gym-goer body etc. I am behind you with only one M.A and a diploma however!

Just recently some bloke in the gym trying to tell me about the origins of the species and how society works. I may or may not have told him I was a sociology lecturer in a previous life and that he was teaching his Grandmother to suck eggs. I think people look at me and assume 'thick' or at least assume I am a shallow air-head.
It's quite sad really, how much people judge on appearances.

I get the EXACT same assumption! Although my SIL actually said I acted superior to others 🤣

I get the EXACT same assumption! Although my SIL actually said I acted superior to others 🤣

I'm not really sure what people assume about me, but they are usually wrong, and when they find out they are offended as if it is somehow my fault that they prejudge.
Several people over the past 30 years have told me I must be a teacher, just on looks and saying "hello". I'm not though.

Ricky Gervais's character in The Office.

People assume I married dh for his money (2nd marriage) and hate it when I ruin the narrative by telling them he had none after his divorce and built it up years after we were married. Pisses them right off.

Goodness me, I would have spoiled my manners OP.