What's the most WTF assumption you've heard about yourself.

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Mine is a hum dinger.
DH is significantly older than me - he is retired and I work PT. We have planned carefully so we were able to retire somewhere sunny. During our 35 years together he was a medium earner and I was the higher earner - his job was flexible for school drop offs/ pick ups ect. We have 2 adult DC and grandchildren.
He has joined a hobby group and last night they had a social evening so I went along.
Random woman - who was the wife of the organiser I found out later- " Well, you've landed on your feet - HIS children and ex wife must hate you " said very loudly in front of a group of people I don't really know.
I did put her straight , but WTF !

People assume that my ex-husband is DD’s grandfather which I find both funny & depressing in equal measure. They then jump to the conclusion that because he’s nearly 20 years older than me, I must have been gold digging (if I was then I wasn’t very good at it). People also assume that he pays DD’s school fees but he has nothing to do with it.

On the flip side, because DD & my DH are both tall, people assume he is her father which is rather heartwarming.

Having been to a group for vegetarians/vegans, I can confirm that the vast majority of us look indistinguishable from everyone else. Although a few do have quite a hippy look - e.g. women wearing long skirts with knitted or patchwork hoodies.

Funnily enough I'm in a similar situation. DP is a lot older than me. We have a nice lifestyle - due to MY money, and people also think I've landed on my feet.

That reminds me - we moved house when I was about 10. My grandad helped us move. The new neighbours met me, my mum, and my grandad, and then went on holiday for a few weeks.

When they got back and met my dad, the neighbour referred to him as my stepdad. She clearly thought my mum had not only been with someone 40 years her senior, but dumped him and moved a younger model in within about 2 weeks

I regularly get mistaken as the maid/ dog walker…..my toxic trait - pretending to be poor 🤣, live in a very wealthy area (where it’s common to have housekeepers/live in staff etc). Have been followed around shops/ when shopping will have the price pointed out to me. Amuses me.

I have the diamonds/ designer bags and clothes….on the day to day I just can’t be bothered.

1. Someone who had only ever communicated with me by email expressed surprise when I spoke to them because they assumed that as I wrote well I would be middle-class with an RP accent. It had apparently never occurred to them that a working class cockney could be intelligent.

1. Several people on Mumsnet have confidently assumed I’m a man. I’m not.

@SaraHolidayawee I’m so sorry you lost your friend but that’s such a special thing I love that she did that for you x

Thank you x

Love it, great response!

So many people assumed I was a snob as I was quiet, shy and read a lot. I just had no idea how to relate to people. My cousin told people I was a snob and she hoped I "had" to get married (this was in the 80s).

During my first marriage my older BIL told everyone I had slept with other men associated with my first BF.

I’m not sure where this stemmed from as I hadn’t, can only think someone was getting myself and my best friend from school who lived with me for a short time, mixed up.

Not that she had either, she did dump someone who she briefly saw from the same circle and went back to a former partner. 🤷‍♀️

over 40 odd years later and I’m still confused and somewhat still hurt. I’ve got no idea of what BIL thought he would benefit from by speaking that about me….

Not long lived in my new home with DD, offered to have ex’s toddler son for a weekend. DD introduced him to neighbours as her brother (not half brother, she was 4 at the time). Neighbour blanked me after that and tutted at me.

When I moved a year later I mentioned it to neighbour on other side and was told they all thought I’d given my ex husband my son!

Had a school mum ask if it was my weekend with the kids as she had assumed DH was a single dad and I was "back in town" at school pick up. Reality is DH does school runs as his job is more flexible.
she had been working her way up to asking him out (despite the obvious wedding ring) so was a bit annoyed with me for finding out we are very much together (found out by me from a mutual friend).
DH is very laid back and oblivious to flirting but is seen as a "catch" due to actually parenting equally. I love him dearly and he doesn't entertain any advances thankfully.

In supermarket cafe grandad was holding my new baby whilst i got food ready and nanny shopping. Got told told was digusting as they assumed my dad was my partner.
was reported to mangement for daring to be super slim and esting a kitkat daily whilst 3 team members were on diets. They had macdonalds chinese and fish and chips every week for lunch without fail. I ate healthy and worked out 10 hpurs a week and had tuna sweetcorn sandwiches and fruit everyday.

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I've had comments like that over the years. "Spending your husband's money?"

I was frustrated/annoyed/offended when my friends dad (who hasn't seen me for a few years) told me I'd "let myself go". I presume he meant I'd put weight on. I hadn't seen him since I'd had 2 kids in quick succession. I was suffering from chronic fatigue and undiagnosed clinical depression so struggled to exercise but I was working my arse off looking after these kids, making sure they were well looked after (all home cooked meals and activities) and carrying the mental load of child rearing and 90% of the housework as I was a SAHM etc and eating healthy food like porridge for breakfast whilst eating protein and complex carbs (brown rice never white, wholegrain bread not white) and not skipping meals in a bit to keep my energy levels up....plus I think my metabolism slowed down once I hit my late 30s so put 10 pounds on overnight without suddenly eating more. It was upsetting but my priority was being a good mum and not starving myself but nourishing myself with good food so that I had as much energy as I could muster given my chronic fatigue. So there I was doing the opposite of "letting myself go" in terms of doing everything I could for my health and the well being of my children.....and working hard child rearing and shopping, cooking, cleaning, ironing, life admin, kids clubs etc.....only to be told Is "let myself go"!

What an ignorant prick! I actively avoid him now. My friend recently told me how he makes racist comments all the time. So I now now not to take anything he says to heart. He's just a wanker.

In the early 1970s, a friend of mine was walking along Park Lane. She was a statuesque redhead and was dressed in a formal suit as she was on her way to work. A limousine stopped, the back window was rolled down, and an Arab man in full traditional headdress called to her "How much?". Without stopping, she sarcastically called back "Ten thousand!" and he said "Okay!" and opened the car door. My friend then panicked, ran at top speed into the nearest hotel and hid in the Ladies. At that time she could have bought a quite decent flat in London for that money.....🤣

Some years ago, someone asked me if I was a social worker, and my immediate gut response was to go home, overhaul my wardrobe, and get a new haircut......

To whoever corrected me, thanks. I'm editing this because my quote didn't show up like I wanted it to.

I mixed up my French feminist or philosophical Simones. There are quite a few of them, aren't there? Weil, Veil, Segouin, Signoret, de Beauvoir. Probably more.

There's a catchy song in there to be written with all that alliteration. Something like Neil Hannon of the Divine Comedy would write.

Well a fair few people assume I can't speak the local language of they hear me speaking English to my DC. I do enjoy switching and seeing their faces. I certainly have an accent but am pretty fluent and work in a fairly demanding job. The job also seems to surprise them. Also people I met when I was still learning are surprised that I'm much better.

People assume I'm a snob if I mention watching ballet. It's not like I only watch ballet - I also love watching rhobh! It's the same with classical music - somehow if you like classical that's all you listen to.

Grr what an ignorant uneducated besom she must be! Love to have seen her face when you'd finished with her 😋

I've had multiple people in various different contexts ask me what part of South Africa I am from.

I was born in England and have never visited South Africa!

One of DH 's friends though I didn't work and lived off a trust fund! I'm reasonably well spoken but I don't know where he got that idea I was working full time and he was very surprised when I mentioned my job.

If we go for a meal I’ll order a pint and dh a glass of wine. 99% of the time the pint will be given to him.