Is it horrible to make ds walk

[Whyohwhy99]

Am I horrible making ds walk for 40 mins to and from school because I want to avoid the bus?

No one has said a child can't walk for 40 minutes.
They've raised that it may become too much, twice a day, every day, come whatever weather, for both the child and the op who will be walking 160 minutes a day until he can walk by himself, which may not be for a very long time. Not many people have the time to commit to doing that five times a week, it's simply not practical.

OP - if it suits you and your son doesn’t seem to have any issue with it, do it. You’re his Mum, you’ll know it’ll it’s a problem. He’ll be physically healthier and so will you which is a good thing. I imagine you’ll have some wonderful conversations with him along the way and he will remember it

I don't think the poster meant it in a bad way. Some would yes but this poster has posted on this thread a few times and theres been no issues.

Its working for now. Take it as it comes i guess

At least you've had a chance to try the walking option in relatively good weather and you still have time to look into other options for later on in the year.

Can the school offer you any helpful suggestions or support with this? for example, it might be possible to team him up with another pupil who uses the same bus occasionally or to get him started on using the bus. Wishing you and your boy all the best.

Yes it seems that way. He loves to chat 🤣 . They are allowed to play in the rain at break time. And he told me about sewing. Which he enjoyed.

No not really its not something I could do.

Its remarkable isnt it. Ive read a lot of this open mouthed to be honest.

Particularly around the issue of rain. I saw a mum and daughter walking to school today, they both had brollies, water proof jackets and they were chatting and smiling with each other and looked very happy.

You're overthinking and over exploring this. Its been portrayed to you as if there is something abnormal about walking to school!!!

You're just doing a normal, everyday, mundane, nothing out of the ordinary thing!

We got wet today 🫠 ds didn't care though.

Ok I will stop over thinking 🤯

I saw none of that in the original post. If the OP doesn't include it upfront - well, I'm not going to scroll through 200 other posts in the hopes of finding more.

If you select See All in the OP's first post it will just show the OP's updates. I do this if I join a long thread.

And right now, there are a whole slew of those - and I'm sorry, but I'm not going to bother at that later point if the OP hasn't bothered upfront.

So complaining that you don't know the facts is more important than actually bothering to find out the facts, which are in the OP's first few posts.

Right.

I used to get the bus to school by myself at 11. I was very shy, autistic and fearful within a few weeks I was fine. My Mum did have to do a dry run with me. Maybe his brother could help until he feels confident.

Then why bother replying to the thread at all? If you’re too busy to read the OP’s posts, save your time and scroll on. I’m sure there’s another thread awaiting your wisdom.

My SEN 14 yr old could never manage a bus alone and I applied to the council for her to have a taxi, which she also could.not manage.
I now get a personal allowance to drive her, have you looked into that?

I can't drive. Plus i don't think he would qualify.

He doesnt sound like he would qualify and the worst thing you would do is disable and disempower people with disabilities by looking at being propped up all the time

He can use the bus, he can walk. He may well be able to learn to use the bus on his own as the school year develops. He doesn't need SEN transport or a personal allowance. Lets empower children, not disable them.

If the person seeking advice is too flaky or lazy or unfocused to provide the right information upfront for others to help - why then should I bother?

Why did you bother replying to the thread at all then? You’ve spent more time explaining why you shouldn’t bother replying than it would have taken to read all the OP’s posts.

I think he could do it with time. I'm doing our normal land marks thing for now. . Also wait until school doesn't feel new anymore.

Not everyone can get things out in one go. My mind constantly jumps from one thought to another.. as soon as someone pointed out to me i had left the age of etc. My 2nd post had more information. I understand it should have been on the first though.

What a nasty post