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Does anyone else keep a sex diary?

106 replies

Isitjustmethatdoesthis · 03/09/2026 16:29

Is it just me that keeps a sex diary?! Not in a written account of the sordid details way, but I'll put a little x on any days DH and I have had sex on my calendar.

I mentioned it to a friend recently and she thought it was really bizarre! I had to admit actually it is a little pointless!

It stemmed from when I was planning my pregnancy many years ago, but I cant seem to shake the habit now and like to keep track still 😂

Does anyone else do this or do I stand alone?!

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CowTown · 05/09/2026 07:02

DeathBanana · 05/09/2026 07:00

Absolutely. I run an evidence based household so KPIs and quantitive / qualitative metrics are an essential strategic decision making tool.

I love you @DeathBanana

KittyCorncrake · 05/09/2026 07:03

And great username @DeathBanana 😂

MyTwoBonobos · 05/09/2026 07:23

@Krevlornswath

I can see your point of working all day in data and then being bothered to use then start again at home but surprised you can’t see the point.

One thing I / we realised (my DP was aware I started to log as I’d discussed it with her) that’ we were very prolific on Thursdays. Something neither of us has realised. Has nothing to do with the time we had on that day.

Possibly it’s to do with routine as used to be our date night back in the day but then maybe it’s that space between the week and the weekend. Got me thinking what others peoples “day” was but then if I hadn’t of logged it I wouldn’t have known.

maybe you should give it a try first a fixated period and crunch it x

UniquePinkSwan · 05/09/2026 08:00

Absolutely not. It’s weird and I wouldn’t be impressed if DH was doing this

Mykneesareshot · 05/09/2026 15:44

My OH does, hasn't written anything in it for three years. I do get it bought up very occasionally. Anti depressants and the menopause was the death knell for me.

TheTecknician · 05/09/2026 19:27

I can honestly say I do not.

Observed · 06/09/2026 16:18

I do! I’m ancient and like to look back in my diary and be able to remind myself that we’ve still got it!

TheTecknician · 06/09/2026 16:20

Mine would be empty, apart from tumbleweed rolling over the pages.

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 06/09/2026 16:25

At the end of the year do you get a list of your favourites like Spotify Wrapped? Or Unwrapped, your choice.

BCBird · 06/09/2026 17:01

Never thought to do it.

BCBird · 06/09/2026 17:02

TheTecknician · 06/09/2026 16:20

Mine would be empty, apart from tumbleweed rolling over the pages.

Mine too. Can't see it changing any time soonShock

TheEighthDwarf · 06/09/2026 17:17

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 03/09/2026 16:34

Yes, I write position, length (duration before anyone asks) and marks out of ten plus any injuries sustained.

Absolutely no need now for anyone to take this thread seriously 😆👏

TheEighthDwarf · 06/09/2026 17:25

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 03/09/2026 16:35

You don’t keep count of orgasms?

Amateur.

That goes in the gratitude journal, silly

KittyCorncrake · 06/09/2026 19:42

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 06/09/2026 16:25

At the end of the year do you get a list of your favourites like Spotify Wrapped? Or Unwrapped, your choice.

😂😂😂😂😂
Yes like my Amazon Music thoughtfully compiling annual lists 😂😂

ElephantHabits · 06/09/2026 19:45

Yes because it rarely happened interesting if sad to see how long it's been, we are at almost a year now.

ThisAutumnTown · 06/09/2026 19:58

I do it too 😂 I’ve done it for about 12 years haha

Obeseandashamed · 06/09/2026 20:04

No but I do keep a mental log so I know whether either of us are slacking 🙈

AutumnLeavesTurning · 06/09/2026 20:10

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 03/09/2026 17:39

Mine would be pretty much a blank notebook 😂

And me .

KittyCorncrake · 07/09/2026 16:10

Obeseandashamed · 06/09/2026 20:04

No but I do keep a mental log so I know whether either of us are slacking 🙈

😂

thisismeithinkorisit · 07/09/2026 16:24

Contain4 · 04/09/2026 18:39

This is controlling behaviour.

I’m guessing you struggle when you feel things are out of your control.

I would stop doing it.
Could you start marking it at the end of the week- so you have to think back.
And then at the end of the month - so it’s getting longer between times.

controlling to who? she hasn't said he has a target or reach or she shares it with his mother

thisismeithinkorisit · 07/09/2026 16:25

TheEighthDwarf · 06/09/2026 17:25

That goes in the gratitude journal, silly

you don't need to be grateful for orgasms, you deserve them like the Queen you are!

ooohh maybe I could crochet this onto a cushion and sell it

thisismeithinkorisit · 07/09/2026 16:25

UniquePinkSwan · 05/09/2026 08:00

Absolutely not. It’s weird and I wouldn’t be impressed if DH was doing this

why?

BeddysMum · 07/09/2026 19:16

Only when I was TTC.

Lazulia · 07/09/2026 21:27

Throwitback · 04/09/2026 18:32

I log it in my period tracking app, mostly so that I can check it re possible pregnancy scares!

Exactly the same here!

noodlebugz · 07/09/2026 21:29

Isitjustmethatdoesthis · 04/09/2026 08:10

Snap, I also keep a note of my weekly weight too and money in/out for bills. Helps keep me organised!

Ended up totally baffled then - read that as helps give me orgasms and just couldn’t see the connection with tracking the bills!?!

I either need to get my head out of the gutter or do something about my dry eyes (or both!)

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