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Ds has been offered a flat but he doesn't have furniture.

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Yellowrose57 · Yesterday 20:10

My son has been offered social housing.i can help him with sone things. But not larger items.

I'm hoping i can find a charity of some sort that sells 2nd hand furniture. As we could probably get most things he needs under one roof and its likely they will deliver.

Just to ad British heart foundation and simlar are to expensive. We can't use free cycle . Facebook anything that requires collection . We do not drive or have access to a car. So it makes sense to use a charity

So bit of a long shot but does anyone know of charity's that sell 2nd hand furniture in the southeast london area..

Thanks 😊

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BurntBroccoli · Yesterday 21:50

Local Facebook groups have their versions of Freecycle. I’ve given away all sorts on there and picked up a few things such as a small wooden table.

Supersimkin7 · Yesterday 21:50

He’s so lucky - well done DS.

Uber for small collections, much cheaper than man with van. Uber also works well with olio and next door apps collections.

Salvation Army - your local one - should give you some stuff. They can help with asking the council too.

Once you’ve got the bed, the telly, stove, kettle and a chair, wait till you see good stuff pop up in thrift or freebie apps for the rest of it - you will.

Clothes rails, sofas, side tables all come up
on olio or next door all the time. Charity shops have too much stuff and get rid of furniture for pence cos it’s hard to store.

Meridas · Yesterday 21:50

Is it carpeted, and what about white goods?

Some local authorities have grants to help furnish homes - worth contacting the housing department. And, as others have said, his housing officer at the HA should be able to help direct to any other options.

I hope your DS is very happy in his new home.

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BurntBroccoli · Yesterday 21:52

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · Yesterday 21:46

I was born at the end of 1995. I’m not old. I am just not minted so I had to buy stuff as it came about.
i ate a lot of jacket potato cooked in the microwave and had a weird electric plug in hob thing.
my first two rental properties were teaming with damp and black mould.
I’m also disabled and whilst I have a professional career I’ve been out of work for various periods of time on benefits due to my disability.
living in a shithole was very depressing. Living in a shithole with a baby who had to be in a cot all the time in the house because she couldn’t walk or crawl on the floor because it was so damp and the walls were so mouldy (for 70% of my salary for rent alone) even more so.
just because it’s a bit shit, doesn’t mean it’s not normal - and actually it can be quite damaging
I’m all for social housing, and really think we need more of it.
But the OP’s son has just been given a subsidised rent on a secure tenancy in the most expensive city in the country. And they are hoping that they can kit it out entirely for free, in what appears to be a fairly rapid fashion. That isn’t normal, and if I’m honest it creates a culture of dependency and entitlement.
I don’t want people to have a shit time because I had one, that’s not what I’m saying at all.
but I think we are losing track of what is normal especially because we are fed a continuous stream of perfect lives on the internet.

Blimey! They’re just asking for a few bits. I would (and have) gladly given stuff away. Have loads of stuff in my garage that I just don’t need anymore.

PorcupineOnline · Yesterday 21:53

What area are you in?

my friends daughter recently furnished her whole house from facebook free sites, and lots of people were happy to deliver to her! People even gave her paint, kitchen ware, pots for the garden. You'd be amazed what people are happy to give away, especially if you explain your circumstances! Best of luck!

Panda1512 · Yesterday 21:53

I bought alot of my stuff from the British heart foundation furniture shop I first moved out alone and they delivered

Sunshineandrainbow · Yesterday 21:56

Local welfare provision at local council.

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · Yesterday 21:57

BurntBroccoli · Yesterday 21:52

Blimey! They’re just asking for a few bits. I would (and have) gladly given stuff away. Have loads of stuff in my garage that I just don’t need anymore.

Yes! I give away stuff all the Time. And when I am physically able to I will deliver when someone needs. I am not saying there is anything wrong with that at all.
but that waiting and saving and getting things bit by bit is absolutely normal for most people and you don’t need it all in one go.
a place to sleep/sit
something to cook on
somewjere To store food
something to eat off/with
a drinking receptacle
the rest will come! You can buy something little each month or every few months. That is normal

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · Yesterday 21:59

Yellowrose57 · Yesterday 21:10

Never thought of that could do a wanted ad and put that we would need it delivered. That way it's in the add.

Admittedly not in your area, but I see posts like this, on the local Facebook page, often. Someone asks if anyone can help out with fridge, sofa, bed whatever and explain their circumstances and they get answers pretty quickly and plenty of people are happy to deliver, seems to work out pretty well. Sometimes it's stuff that is perfectly good but people are just upgrading and having someone take it off their hands (even if they have to deliver) saves them the cost of paying someone to take it away. Good luck.

likelysuspect · Yesterday 22:00

DelurkingAJ · Yesterday 20:15

I hate to be that person but when we rented our first flat (20 years ago) we did buy a mattress but that was it. We sat on the cardboard boxes we’d used for moving and ate on our laps. We then slowly acquired stuff. New to us (apart from the mattress) didn’t happen until about four years later.

Admittedly we didn’t need white goods, there was a washing machine and fridge with freezer compartment. I hope you manage to get those easily.

Same here, same did everyone I know

Packing boxes for seating and sheets for curtains, didnt even have curtain poles, had to buy one small thing a month.

You could try to pick things up by cab OP

Supersimkin7 · Yesterday 22:03

Stop with the snippy, folks.

Babies whose parents didn’t plan for them aren’t the only people who need housing.

We all do.

Balloonhearts · Yesterday 22:03

Booboobagins · Yesterday 21:40

Scour Facebook marketplace - loads of freebies you just need to collect, also try freecycle.

Ffs, the reading comprehension on this thread! She's said several times that they are unable to collect. That's the problem. Its literally the reason for the OP.

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · Yesterday 22:06

Supersimkin7 · Yesterday 22:03

Stop with the snippy, folks.

Babies whose parents didn’t plan for them aren’t the only people who need housing.

We all do.

No one is being snippy. This is literally a thread full of people saying get what you can when you can little and often it’s normal?

likelysuspect · Yesterday 22:06

coolwaterinthesea · Yesterday 20:45

Are the people answering with the ‘we had a deckchair and mattress’ from the ‘rent a flat above a shop, cut your hair and get a job’ era?

It is one thing living in pretend squalor with a partner when it’s fun and exciting.

real squalor is different and depressing.

Making do with a deckchair and mattress is not squalor.

Quite remarkable that you think its categorised as this

Very telling.

Hubbalooloo · Yesterday 22:08

MaturingCheeseball · Yesterday 21:18

Ds lives in (a very dodgy part of) London. He found quite a bit of furniture ( including a big flatscreen tv!) on the street. People just chuck out stuff. He got a desk, some paintings and a coffee table. He was very pleased!

I hate to say it but I’d be too terrified of bed bugs to take something off the street in any area of London or big cities. Sorry to be negative and glad it worked out for your son

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · Yesterday 22:10

Yellowrose57 · Yesterday 21:45

He gets 200. Hes going to use that for fridge freezer.

Is this a £200 grant or a shop voucher?
Also what’s his monthly income like?
if it’s a grant or a voucher for like curry’s for example there might be better ways to spend it than just on a fridge
if it’s cash you could probably get a used fridge, oven and maybe even a washer for that. Then sign up for appliance cover for 2-4 quid a month with D&G or something similar so if it breaks you can get a replacement or repair
if it’s a voucher could he look at the down payment on a couple of bits but get them on finance? You seem to be Apple to get white goods from 10-20 pound a month on an interest free plan, could he get a down payment on fridge washer and cooker then pay the rest each month?

ProudBlackMomma · Yesterday 22:11

justasmalltownmum · Yesterday 20:49

When we first moved - we bought a blow up sofa from Amazon and ate off the box it came in

Incredibly unhelpful. OP, best of luck to your son. NextDoor is your friend here.

placemats · Yesterday 22:13

Yellowrose57 · Yesterday 20:25

Yes he can. So thats at least something.

How is he getting it to the flat if you don't have a car and can't drive?

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · Yesterday 22:19

placemats · Yesterday 22:13

How is he getting it to the flat if you don't have a car and can't drive?

She’s said, there’s going to be a man and van but they can’t realistically co ordinate other pick ups with this

Ofmiceandmenandtroubledrants · Yesterday 22:22

We furnished a flat for a relative almost entirely from freecycle.

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · Yesterday 22:23

What are his reasons for moving out? It doesn’t sound like he can afford to move out and pay the bills and feed himself.

Velvera · Yesterday 22:26

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · Yesterday 22:23

What are his reasons for moving out? It doesn’t sound like he can afford to move out and pay the bills and feed himself.

Where does the OP say that he can't afford to pay the bills and feed himself?

Steeleydan · Yesterday 22:27

Yellowrose57 · Yesterday 20:10

My son has been offered social housing.i can help him with sone things. But not larger items.

I'm hoping i can find a charity of some sort that sells 2nd hand furniture. As we could probably get most things he needs under one roof and its likely they will deliver.

Just to ad British heart foundation and simlar are to expensive. We can't use free cycle . Facebook anything that requires collection . We do not drive or have access to a car. So it makes sense to use a charity

So bit of a long shot but does anyone know of charity's that sell 2nd hand furniture in the southeast london area..

Thanks 😊

In our town (not near you) we have the furniture project, anyone can go and buy from them,very reasonably priced, but if youre on benefits stuff is greatly reduced, maybe look into finding somewhere similar.
BHF is brilliant too and deliver.
Also many towns have a free page on Facebook,where people give stuff away,settees,beds,everything and anything thats for free.
I often see people advertising on there that theyre setting up home no money anything going free,the amount of people that offer stuff is unbelievable.
Plus do you have a local auction house, often house clearance companies take furniture to the sale rooms and it's sold at auction monthly, again very cheap. At the ones near me,often man and van are in the car park, offering a delivery service, obvs not free.

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