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Nothing like a teenage daughter to keep you humbled…

444 replies

JamieOliverPetrolStation · 19/07/2026 20:45

I leaned into the culottes and polka dot trend this season and was delighted with this bargain in Sainsburys last week. I thought I looked great. Effortless and summery chic etc etc. Until 14yo DD looked up at me with withering disdain and asked why was I dressed like a Tombliboo.

We had a similar situation last year when I bought a striped teeshirt and they called me Bagpuss for the whole summer.

OP posts:
EmptyInTheValley · Yesterday 20:47

Diamondsareforever72 · Yesterday 19:40

Exactly what I was thinking! That thread was absolutely hilarious!
The woman who said she looked like a silo 🤣

Also on that thread, my favourite: The dark haired woman who had a perm done and someone said "Bloody hell, it's Colonel Gadaffi".

TallChappie · Yesterday 20:52

Hi all. Looking for some advice. My partner and I have been married for 13 years and have two preteen kids. We have a lot of fun together and all get on great. House chores are split and we hardly ever argue or fight, as well as sharing some of the same hobbies. Overall we are happy together except for complete lack of intimacy… it’s been two years now since we have been intimate and feel like it’s getting worse. I’ve tried talking about it but she doesn’t seem interested or says she’s just tired.

I keep myself fit by regularly running and going to the gym and try to make myself appealing but it falls on uninterested eyes. Not sure what else to do, I want to be intimate and would love some excitement but feel like the flame has gone out. Any advice or suggestions would be highly appreciated!

EvieBB · Yesterday 20:54

BauhausOfEliott · Yesterday 12:40

It's not 'rude teen daughters undermining their mothers', though, really. Bear in mind that tone might not come across in writing. I would guess that in most cases this is just families affectionately joking around with each other. Surely most families tease each other a bit in a lighthearted way?

I was a teenager at the height of grunge and I remember coming downstairs in a second-hand oversized plaid flannel shirt one day and my dad quietly singing 'Oh, I'm a lumberjack and I'm OK...' from Monty Python. I also remember when I was a student and there was a trend for military-style coats, and when he came to collect me to take me home for Christmas he said 'Am I only taking you, or are we waiting for the rest of the battalion?' 😂

I also remember that my dad wore a cream/pale beige suit to my graduation (it was boiling hot and he looked amazing) and when I greeted him I said 'Hello hello, it's Our Man In Havana'.

Your dad sounds awesome 😂
I think me and you grew up in the same era....I loved my military style jacket back in the early 90s 🥰

LondonLass2026 · Yesterday 20:56

Additup · Yesterday 15:04

Was this the 1890s when you were taught to respect any elder? 😂

Also, children still stand when an adult enters the classroom, or they did at DDs school when she left a year ago.

Why so rude about kids having manners? No, it was the late 80s and early 90s. What's so funny?

I can only imagine what your kids are like.

Additup · Yesterday 21:13

I was at school/young adult in the 1980s/90s and definitely don't remember being taught to respect any elder (well no more than anyone else). I'm laughing because you made that time sound like something from Victorian times and I know it wasn't.

My kids are adults now and they are lovely, funny people with a good sense of humour.

Woodfiresareamazing2 · Yesterday 21:16

TallChappie · Yesterday 20:52

Hi all. Looking for some advice. My partner and I have been married for 13 years and have two preteen kids. We have a lot of fun together and all get on great. House chores are split and we hardly ever argue or fight, as well as sharing some of the same hobbies. Overall we are happy together except for complete lack of intimacy… it’s been two years now since we have been intimate and feel like it’s getting worse. I’ve tried talking about it but she doesn’t seem interested or says she’s just tired.

I keep myself fit by regularly running and going to the gym and try to make myself appealing but it falls on uninterested eyes. Not sure what else to do, I want to be intimate and would love some excitement but feel like the flame has gone out. Any advice or suggestions would be highly appreciated!

Wrong thread, @TallChappie

Ineedanewsofa · Yesterday 21:18

Got a lovely new skirt delivered, slightly more pattern than I would usually go for, DD has just come in and told me she’s remembered what it reminds her of - a Frazzle! Apparently I look (but do not smell) like a bacon crisp…

HorrorPudding · Yesterday 21:22

WhatNextImScared · Yesterday 06:35

HAHAHA!

But the shawl sounds lovely too.

@WhatNextImScared to be honest, he had a point about the shawl. Not that I told him that!

MyNameIsJane · Yesterday 21:30

I asked my 21 yo daughter how I looked before going out on Friday, I had sand coloured culottes and a pink T-shirt and she said
“You look fine”
”can you change to a different coloured top, only you look like an ice cream” 🧐

beeble347 · Yesterday 21:33

Devastating 😂😂😂

If it helps, when I was teaching secondary some years ago I wore a great, slim fitting burgundy suit in to school. Got compliments all day until one 14yo girl asked me why I was dressed like The Joker 💀

AtleastitsnotMonday · Yesterday 21:43

I was at my sisters wearing what I thought was a really stylish mustard yellow jumper and brown cords. My niece walked in and excitedly said “are you joining my Brownies?”

TallChappie · Yesterday 21:47

Woodfiresareamazing2 · Yesterday 21:16

Wrong thread, @TallChappie

Yep sorry. Still new here 😊

Borka · Yesterday 21:57

MySneakyLion · Yesterday 18:26

But but but … the Tombliboos have stripes not polka dots!!

Doesn't she know her Night Garden fashion?

So glad I have a boy 😄

They have a stripey under layer but also spotty trousers that they sometimes wear over the top.

ImogenBrocklehurst · Yesterday 21:59

A Tombliboo! 😆😆😆

EvieBB · Yesterday 22:02

chesterelly1 · 19/07/2026 23:45

My DD2 is brutal! I sent a yellow top back and in the reason for return box I wrote “daughter said I look like a fat banana”.
when she was about 8 I asked if she liked my outfit and she said “depends - will you be wearing it if you’re out with me?”.
blue and white striped top - Mr Smee
jeans and a grey sweatshirt - on remand
loads more that I’ve managed to block out.

Fat banana 🤣

SparklyAmberRaven · Yesterday 22:12

Gorgeous short sleeved white maxi dress with ruching around the top apparently makes me look like "the ghost of a Victorian prostitute." Good to know!

LeaveMeBee · Yesterday 22:20

AtleastitsnotMonday · Yesterday 21:43

I was at my sisters wearing what I thought was a really stylish mustard yellow jumper and brown cords. My niece walked in and excitedly said “are you joining my Brownies?”

🤣🤣🤣 Got to earn your sash and badges...!

Lentilcakes · Yesterday 22:34

Re family humour. I’m a child of the 70s and definitely had it with my mum, and my dad to some extent.
We have it in spades here - I think it’s normal and healthy to have a bit of piss-taking and ribbing (same as with friends). dH’s family didn’t really have that - it’s something I noticed when I first met them. DH is nothing like his family.

BauhausOfEliott · Yesterday 22:48

EvieBB · Yesterday 20:54

Your dad sounds awesome 😂
I think me and you grew up in the same era....I loved my military style jacket back in the early 90s 🥰

He was indeed absolutely awesome, @EvieBB❤️! He really was the very best of dads.

Dutchhouse14 · Yesterday 22:50

I had a green puffa jacket that my DC called me a Brussels sprout everytime i wore it.
Now they are older teens, early twenties they are a bit kinder but give me an honest opinion if something suits me and tbf I do the same for them.
At weekend I did tell DD23 to take the lift rather than walk up the stairs as her skirt was so short she'd be flashing her knickers, so maybe we are as bad as each other!

MySneakyLion · Yesterday 22:55

DontKillSteve · 19/07/2026 23:36

Had a fringe put in, felt very boho/60s- HeMan.
Cut said ‘do’ a bit shorter- Richard III.

Epic

EvieBB · Yesterday 23:01

BauhausOfEliott · Yesterday 22:48

He was indeed absolutely awesome, @EvieBB❤️! He really was the very best of dads.

You are/were so lucky!

BauhausOfEliott · Yesterday 23:13

TorroFerney · Yesterday 18:18

Mine was born in 2010 and she knows. We had a DVD and they sell Bagpuss soft toys. Do you not know any cartoons/kids tv shows from before you were born?

I do, and I wasn’t disbelieving the OP - it was a genuine question and I’m delighted her kid has Bagpuss in her frame of reference. I just wasn’t aware that Bagpuss was a thing that gets marketed to today’s kids (as opposed to middle-aged people like me who want the nostalgia).

Tiggy321 · Yesterday 23:17

DD20 told me I dress like a Mormon (think she meant Amish though!) By that she means I don’t wear crop tops, short skirts and and revealing stuff (I’m 55!) I thought I was looking particularly nice the day she said that 😆

MySneakyLion · Yesterday 23:40

Hamela · Yesterday 08:54

Remembered another. I got a sensible Regatta raincoat and my teen asked how I'm getting on with my duke of Edinburgh award 🫪

Oh my god, ☠️ hahaha