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Picky bits?

260 replies

HelenInHeels · 03/01/2025 17:05

I hate this! I saw it on a M&S advert and it gave me the willies. I don't know why it sounds gross but it puts me off food as does 'dirty' fries. Yeuch!

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K0OLA1D · 04/01/2025 10:31

DeanElderberry · 04/01/2025 09:21

I'd never heard the phrase before coming to Mumsnet a couple of years ago. Has it been current for long, and is it regional?

I'd just call that sort of meal 'tea', if it was being eaten at table, or a buffet if it was a buffet. Picking sounds like noses or scabs. Not something I want to see.

I'm 34 and we've always had picky teas. My nan used to do a spectacular one including glazed cherries with a pot of cocktail sticks to stab them!

whydoihavetowork · 04/01/2025 10:35

I am ok with Picky bits /tea... UNLESS it's one of those bloody charcuterie boards where it has literally been man handled for hours to roll it into sodding flowers as well as being picked all over at the buffet. Urgh.

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 10:39

whydoihavetowork · 04/01/2025 10:35

I am ok with Picky bits /tea... UNLESS it's one of those bloody charcuterie boards where it has literally been man handled for hours to roll it into sodding flowers as well as being picked all over at the buffet. Urgh.

A fiddled-with feast.

greengreyblue · 04/01/2025 10:48

K0OLA1D · 04/01/2025 10:30

At a wedding or party. I don't call it a buffet when it's just me dp and the dc it's a picky tea. I am not wrong. It's what we call it. At your house knock your socks off and call it what you like!

Call it what you want at your house but a buffet is not just for guests or weddings. Fact.

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 10:51

greengreyblue · 04/01/2025 10:48

Call it what you want at your house but a buffet is not just for guests or weddings. Fact.

If it was just you and your husband/whoever you live with and it was buffet time, would you call and say "everyone! Come down now please! Buffet on the sideboard!". Or what? How does it work?

LadyChilli · 04/01/2025 10:53

I don't love picky bits as a saying but "gives me the willies" has absolutely cracked me up. I've not heard that in ages. It should be used more so well done @HelenInHeels

Delatron · 04/01/2025 10:56

I call it ‘nibbly bits’ which is possibly worse?

greengreyblue · 04/01/2025 10:57

I’d say food is ready! But over Christmas if I was using all the leftover meats and cheeses I’d say we were having a buffet of leftovers.

Betchyaby · 04/01/2025 10:57

Game0fCrones · 03/01/2025 18:36

Which region do the picky bits people come from? That might be interesting to look into.

East Midlands. Practically everyone I know uses it here.

StormingNorman · 04/01/2025 10:58

whydoihavetowork · 04/01/2025 10:35

I am ok with Picky bits /tea... UNLESS it's one of those bloody charcuterie boards where it has literally been man handled for hours to roll it into sodding flowers as well as being picked all over at the buffet. Urgh.

A grubby grazer

Betchyaby · 04/01/2025 10:59

Comportment · 03/01/2025 20:09

Its all a bit council. Nobody with an ounce of class says pick bits or picky tea.

Nobody with an ounce of class would make such a comment.

StormingNorman · 04/01/2025 11:01

Betchyaby · 04/01/2025 10:59

Nobody with an ounce of class would make such a comment.

No…but they’d think it.

K0OLA1D · 04/01/2025 11:03

StormingNorman · 04/01/2025 11:01

No…but they’d think it.

Who gives a shit. Really. Fuck me this place is such a shitshow sometimes.

Classless because of what someone calls their tea. Fucking hell. Says more about you really doesn't it.

Betchyaby · 04/01/2025 11:03

StormingNorman · 04/01/2025 11:01

No…but they’d think it.

Fortunately, not everyone is a snobbish as you.

Betchyaby · 04/01/2025 11:03

K0OLA1D · 04/01/2025 11:03

Who gives a shit. Really. Fuck me this place is such a shitshow sometimes.

Classless because of what someone calls their tea. Fucking hell. Says more about you really doesn't it.

Absolutely.

Talisin · 04/01/2025 11:27

HansHolbein · 03/01/2025 17:15

Reminds me of scabs. I don’t know why.

Yes! I’m glad it’s not just me.

LindorDoubleChoc · 04/01/2025 11:35

It's a shame people don't understand when someone is being deliberately goady to get people going (see the last few posts).

The reason I object to "picky tea" and "picky bits" is because instead of associating the word "picky" with picnic, I automatically think of picking fleas out of fur or picking at skin/scabs. Tea is a drink for me, not a meal - that's regional and I'm not a snob. Bits is like crumbs on a carpet or parts of the body that you should definitely wash every day.

Should be easy enough to understand, I would have thought.

NewYearSameOldSameOld · 04/01/2025 11:52

K0OLA1D · 04/01/2025 11:03

Who gives a shit. Really. Fuck me this place is such a shitshow sometimes.

Classless because of what someone calls their tea. Fucking hell. Says more about you really doesn't it.

I really don’t understand the mentality on here. Different people call things by different names, shocker. I call my last meal of the day dinner but I understand some people call it Tea or Supper, it’s no skin off my nose what anyone else calls it and I certainly don’t judge them for it.

What I don’t understand is why is it the middle class Henrietta from Surrey is correct and the working class Tracey from up north incorrect? Hmmm? Who made those rules?

HelenInHeels · 04/01/2025 11:59

LindorDoubleChoc · 04/01/2025 11:35

It's a shame people don't understand when someone is being deliberately goady to get people going (see the last few posts).

The reason I object to "picky tea" and "picky bits" is because instead of associating the word "picky" with picnic, I automatically think of picking fleas out of fur or picking at skin/scabs. Tea is a drink for me, not a meal - that's regional and I'm not a snob. Bits is like crumbs on a carpet or parts of the body that you should definitely wash every day.

Should be easy enough to understand, I would have thought.

Give that woman a coconut. Exactly right.

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Game0fCrones · 04/01/2025 12:27

I'd never heard of picky bits, a spread or a grazing table until I read about them on Mumsnet. I wonder if it's regional? I live in the Midlands. We call it a buffet here.

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 12:34

Game0fCrones · 04/01/2025 12:27

I'd never heard of picky bits, a spread or a grazing table until I read about them on Mumsnet. I wonder if it's regional? I live in the Midlands. We call it a buffet here.

I think a buffet is different as it's usually (in my book, which is never wrong) made up of complete dishes that people help themselves from along with other bits and bobs to go with it. Less formal. It's the help yourself bit and the guests/event that's relevant really. Perhaps a hostess trolley may or may not be involved

Picky bits (I understand as I have no experience of actually picking a bit) is just left overs and other shit and bits and bobs. Not a proper coherent meal. The implication being that you all sit round a table like birds pecking away at some.random breadcrumbs and a bit of bacon fat on the bird table. Or like monkeys picking for fleas and eating them. M&S style.

StormingNorman · 04/01/2025 12:46

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 12:34

I think a buffet is different as it's usually (in my book, which is never wrong) made up of complete dishes that people help themselves from along with other bits and bobs to go with it. Less formal. It's the help yourself bit and the guests/event that's relevant really. Perhaps a hostess trolley may or may not be involved

Picky bits (I understand as I have no experience of actually picking a bit) is just left overs and other shit and bits and bobs. Not a proper coherent meal. The implication being that you all sit round a table like birds pecking away at some.random breadcrumbs and a bit of bacon fat on the bird table. Or like monkeys picking for fleas and eating them. M&S style.

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But they’re not just any fleas. They’re M&S fleas.

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 12:49

StormingNorman · 04/01/2025 12:46

But they’re not just any fleas. They’re M&S fleas.

😂😂😂😂

Stuffisperplexing · 04/01/2025 13:15

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 12:34

I think a buffet is different as it's usually (in my book, which is never wrong) made up of complete dishes that people help themselves from along with other bits and bobs to go with it. Less formal. It's the help yourself bit and the guests/event that's relevant really. Perhaps a hostess trolley may or may not be involved

Picky bits (I understand as I have no experience of actually picking a bit) is just left overs and other shit and bits and bobs. Not a proper coherent meal. The implication being that you all sit round a table like birds pecking away at some.random breadcrumbs and a bit of bacon fat on the bird table. Or like monkeys picking for fleas and eating them. M&S style.

Edited

I associate picky bits with people who have invited guests for dinner but are really resentful when they arrive and present them with random bits of food they will hate instead of just getting a pizza for some reason

Stuffisperplexing · 04/01/2025 13:15

Like if someone offered me a picky tea I would assume they hated me

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