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What attracts you to a man?

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Osidge · 16/02/2024 00:19

Easygoing thread. No deep or meaningful reasons to my question. I am saying this before anyone bashes me for something that is really not a big deal just a genuine question about a general topic!
I know we all have different tastes, quite rightly so.
I was just watching the ITVX series 'Deadwater Fell'. With David Tennant as the main character. His character has obviously been sleeping around in the show and I find myself a bit repulsed as I can't imagine anyone wanting to sleep with him 🙈. So skinny and unmanly!
But, obviously there are women out there who find that look attractive. I also acknowledge that the men I find attractive wouldn't be everyone's taste.
So just a curiosity question really. Are looks important to you at all when choosing a romantic partner?
I know personality is the main thing.
I do believe however, there has to be at least some physical attraction as well. Surely that's what's draws us to even consider someone as a romantic partner rather than just an acquaintance or colleague etc?

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crystalmamma · 14/04/2025 22:13

Bears! Stocky, but of a belly, beard, chest hair, big head (physically not in personality) Has to make me laugh but doesn’t need to be generally ‘funny’, kind eyes.

preferably his love language is ‘acts of service’ I’m attracted to a man who does housework, makes me a brew and is happy to help me with things - team work is sexy!

StarDolphins · 14/04/2025 22:23

I have list!…

Confidence
SOH (my no.1)
kind but not a wet lettuce
likes a respectful debate, has his own mind and doesn’t just agree with me
Is kind to all animals
has a job & good work ethic

Looks aren’t too important to me but I do like a unique personality!

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 14/04/2025 22:27

Intelligent, well-educated, well-spoken, very confident. Ideally dark hair and blue eyes. Short hair, no facial hair. Famous example: Tom Hiddleston!

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mambojambodothetango · 14/04/2025 22:47

There has to be a twinkle in the eyes. I find it rarely but when I do, I'm weak at the knees.

NamechangeJunebaby · 14/04/2025 22:49

Main qualities must be good sense of humour - kindness and the ability to have empathy, a good communicator. After that the initial attraction just builds. Loves dogs and cats.

Not less than 5”10. Not self obsessed. Doesn’t think they’re gods gift. I quite like a dad bod (perhaps because an ex was a keen runner and cyclist and told me than a female body fat percentage of over 15% was unhealthy and I was overweight - I was under 9 stone and 5”7 so I definitely wasn’t).

Just a nice emotionally well rounded person that doesn’t accidentally fall and pop his penis in random women would be a start.

LovelySG · 14/04/2025 23:02

Intelligent, funny, kind, warm, decent, self-deprecating, healthy, clean-living (non-smoker, not boozy), gentlemanly.

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