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What attracts you to a man?

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Osidge · 16/02/2024 00:19

Easygoing thread. No deep or meaningful reasons to my question. I am saying this before anyone bashes me for something that is really not a big deal just a genuine question about a general topic!
I know we all have different tastes, quite rightly so.
I was just watching the ITVX series 'Deadwater Fell'. With David Tennant as the main character. His character has obviously been sleeping around in the show and I find myself a bit repulsed as I can't imagine anyone wanting to sleep with him 🙈. So skinny and unmanly!
But, obviously there are women out there who find that look attractive. I also acknowledge that the men I find attractive wouldn't be everyone's taste.
So just a curiosity question really. Are looks important to you at all when choosing a romantic partner?
I know personality is the main thing.
I do believe however, there has to be at least some physical attraction as well. Surely that's what's draws us to even consider someone as a romantic partner rather than just an acquaintance or colleague etc?

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Mammyloveswine · 16/02/2024 19:54

Ooh I just watched this and agree about David Tennent in this! However in other things I do find him attractive (ie broadchurch).

I hate a smooth chest, love a hairy chest and also hairy manly arms!

Love a beard too!

Personality and the ability to "banter" is attractive.. I have a colleague who on paper is my type but ability to banter is shocking so he's no longer attractive in my eyes 🤣

GigiAnnna · 16/02/2024 20:19

Createausernametoday · 16/02/2024 19:38

Nothing , I am one

Good for you I guess

Februaryfeels · 16/02/2024 20:21

Tall, strong, nice arms

Sense of humour and good hygiene

Hairy chest and clean fingernails

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lotsofpeoplenametheirswords · 16/02/2024 20:26

Dark hair
Brown eyes
Longish stubble
Not overly muscular
Barnsley/Sheffield accent
Construction worker
Rough round the edges in the day but scrubs up well at night!

WowIlikereallyhateyou · 16/02/2024 20:28

LilBus · 16/02/2024 00:34

Yes looks are important to me. I’m not going to lie and pretend they are not. Also only find tall men attractive couldn’t date a short man!

Yup, mine is 6’6, short men give me the creeps, sorry.

Sdpbody · 16/02/2024 20:32

Their silence as they leave me the fuck alone.

Coffeeandtveasily · 16/02/2024 22:52

Osidge · 16/02/2024 00:19

Easygoing thread. No deep or meaningful reasons to my question. I am saying this before anyone bashes me for something that is really not a big deal just a genuine question about a general topic!
I know we all have different tastes, quite rightly so.
I was just watching the ITVX series 'Deadwater Fell'. With David Tennant as the main character. His character has obviously been sleeping around in the show and I find myself a bit repulsed as I can't imagine anyone wanting to sleep with him 🙈. So skinny and unmanly!
But, obviously there are women out there who find that look attractive. I also acknowledge that the men I find attractive wouldn't be everyone's taste.
So just a curiosity question really. Are looks important to you at all when choosing a romantic partner?
I know personality is the main thing.
I do believe however, there has to be at least some physical attraction as well. Surely that's what's draws us to even consider someone as a romantic partner rather than just an acquaintance or colleague etc?

Matthew McNulty who plays the police officer in that show is gorgeous.

I agree with you about David T.

Globules · 16/02/2024 23:12

Currently sitting with my man mixing.

He's so frikking comfortable in his own skin.

That's what does it for me

Osidge · 16/02/2024 23:13

@Coffeeandtveasily omg 100% agree! He's definitely a ten. I love his personality too.

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AndIdratherplayhereWithalltheM · 16/02/2024 23:20

Innate elegance, movements etc, facial expressions, laugh good teeth initially.
Then kind and empathetic.

AndIdratherplayhereWithalltheM · 16/02/2024 23:21
  • tall also /
thirdistheonewiththehairychest · 16/02/2024 23:25

I recently found a piece of schoolwork written by me when I was about 13 years old, describing my ideal partner. Apparently he would have to be funny and intelligent, but also 'a bit of alright'. Tall and with brown floppy hair.

Moveoverdarlin · 16/02/2024 23:32

A manly man. A bloke. There was a poster the other day moaning that her DH couldn’t drive. That for me would be an instant no-no. I’m not saying they have to be super practical and burly like a rugby player, but they need to have confidence and man-ish ness.

Teasie123 · 17/02/2024 00:17

Silence...🤭🤭🤭

HelloDarlingWhatAreYouDoingHere · 17/02/2024 00:36

Not bald, honest, loyal, witty, clever, would never cheat.

So some sort of fucking unicorn.

OurBigBigLove · 17/02/2024 01:53

I quite like David Tennant. He ticks a lot of boxes for me dark hair, olive complexion, boyish looks. I tend to like a boy band type with dark hair. However he is beardy - big no no for me and I generally like a man with broader shoulders and an athletic build, average height. Broad shoulders are a definite key attraction trait for me! I really really don't like men who are too muscly big, too tall or too "manly". Also as little body hair as possible please! Legs, arms etc all ok, just little to no chest hair and definitely no back hair!

My DH ticks all of those boxes (including importantly being incapable of growing a beard 😀) so I did well there 😀

Good sense of humour that aligns with mine v v v important. I also seem to (or did in my youth) go for skater/surfer types. Confidence as others have.said is super important. And being able to talk about anything and everything. I am also attracted to men who seem capable and ambitious (but not too ambitious, not interested in an alpha type!). I strongly dislike arrogance and unkindness and that can put me off someone very quickly.

DH also ticks most of those boxes.

I seem to have a lot of criteria for someone who is very much NOT a catch lol! Definitely above my station there!

Tbf though I do think there's often "just something about them" that makes someone attractive. I think DT has that thing (for me anyway), even though he, on paper, is a bit too skinny, and he's beardy. There's also something in the pheromones thing. Both DH and I LOVE each other's smell and have since day one. He likes it even when I'm a v stinky which I think is v weird!! I think pheromones have a lot to answer for!

OurBigBigLove · 17/02/2024 02:02

Noicant · 16/02/2024 17:00

Confidence, competence and courtesy, thats regardless of physical appearance. I loathe grown men who are into bantz or behave like teenage boys, not appealing to me.

Oh yes that's right! Can't bare lad types!

Also can't cope with any man that wears jeans with shoes. Should be made illegal imo. My DH agrees with this sentiment thankfully.😂😂😂

And they also have to be roughly the same level of intelligence as me. Not bright enough and too bright can be equally as bad. You need to be able to enjoy the same topics of conversation and keep up without either of you without feeling like you're the thick person in the room.

I'll have to read these posts back next time DH is pissing me off. Now I've written all that down we are surprisingly compatible!!

OurBigBigLove · 17/02/2024 02:03

*bear

isitshe · 17/02/2024 04:34

Arms. I love men's arms.
And their smell. Not fragrance, but that natural male smell.
I find thin reedy types really unattractive. I like big hairy Viking types, & a bit rough & ready.

purplesparklydinosaur · 03/05/2024 17:03

I’m aware that I’m an outlier in women but I’m turned off by anyone over about 5’10.

I like a big beard, tattoos and a sense of adventure. Must be outdoorsy.

All of the above can be overcome though by the most intelligent man in the room. I love a super smart nerd.

Boomer55 · 03/05/2024 17:12

A sense of humour and intelligence.🙂

mrsmiawallace3 · 14/04/2025 17:40

Osidge · 16/02/2024 00:47

I can understand the draw to that type of man.

Sapiosexual. Me too.

Walker1178 · 14/04/2025 20:44

I met DP during Covid lockdown while temping in a transport office. He was one of the drivers and because of a hat and face mask all I could see of him was his eyes, they’re beautiful and light up when he smiles

Belovedbagle · 14/04/2025 21:41

Intelligence, kindness and a sense of humour. I’m in my 50’s now so hair and teeth are a bonus😜 but luckily I’m happily married!

IAmNeverThePerson · 14/04/2025 21:43

Competence and kindness.