What attracts you to a man?

[Osidge]

Easygoing thread. No deep or meaningful reasons to my question. I am saying this before anyone bashes me for something that is really not a big deal just a genuine question about a general topic!
I know we all have different tastes, quite rightly so.
I was just watching the ITVX series 'Deadwater Fell'. With David Tennant as the main character. His character has obviously been sleeping around in the show and I find myself a bit repulsed as I can't imagine anyone wanting to sleep with him 🙈. So skinny and unmanly!
But, obviously there are women out there who find that look attractive. I also acknowledge that the men I find attractive wouldn't be everyone's taste.
So just a curiosity question really. Are looks important to you at all when choosing a romantic partner?
I know personality is the main thing.
I do believe however, there has to be at least some physical attraction as well. Surely that's what's draws us to even consider someone as a romantic partner rather than just an acquaintance or colleague etc?

I've always fancied "manly" men , builders, physical jobs etc. A bit of rough. Suits just don't do it for me and I often wonder what other women see in those types of men . But each to their own!! We can't all have a manly man 😆

I love David Tennant 😁

I would say my 'type' is dark hair (especially long hair) medium height and build although I do like slim, wiry men too, glasses, a bit of a beard. Sense of humour, a bit of a cynic, high intelligence and a sense of kindness and fairness. Must be left-leaning politically.

Really don't like very blokey men, not interested in muscles, don't like very tall men, rarely fancy blonde men.

Capable. Can't stand a man who has 'no idea' how to cook, clean, scrub a toilet, change baby/kids or basic DYI. Once dated a guy who had no idea how to flip the breaker, let a lone change a tire. Completely helpless, what a turnoff.

A sense of humour is a must, and kind. The biggest is Must.Love.Dogs (all animals).

Physical: nice voice. I'm ok with most builds, but I prefer tall men. The voice is most important. Good posture is also eye catching. Good looking is not important, I prefer character in a person's face.

Physically, I like big, burly men. I’m rarely attracted to men of average build or slimmer and I don’t like petite (by which I mean small frame, not short) guys. Must be dark haired, ideally with a big beard, tattooed, deep voice with a nice accent, expressive eyebrows and a nice smile.

Must be intelligent, a reader of books and able to make me laugh a LOT.

Physically - tall, not overweight, good head of hair. Nice teeth and skin.

Personality - have to start off by wanting them to be a kind person, surely ? Loving and emotionally intelligent, open minded and someone who can hold a good conversation. There's many more personality traits that matter than these but it's a good starting point.

If Im just going on looks then dark eyes, dark skin, good arms, Idris Elba x 20 (but then also rather like Jack Black ... and Colin Firth so complete opposites). There just has to be..... 'something'.

It's really hard to say based on looks, because a lot of good-looking guys are arseholes 😅
My DH is not my 'type' on looks alone, but he's the most wonderful man in the world, endlessly attractive in every way. It's his personality and who he is. If you have a certain personality then it translates into your physicality anyway and the two things mesh together.
I find him irresistible both physically and emotionally - they're sort of the same thing once you love someone.

A genuine smile that lights up his eyes. Smelling lovely. And someone who listens and is consistently there for you in the dark times.

Tall, nice teeth, hygienic, good manners, good listener, sense of humour and ability to have deep conversations. Prefer slim men.

Confident, funny, tall and strong shoulders (not muscly, just strongly built) 🫠

Going on my track record, apparently I'm attracted to men that are complete bastards.

I have to give out a warning to @forminate to keep away from my DH :) he is very much all of those things.

Funny and confident but still kind and ultimately a ’good’ person with good manners. Practical skills and job, ability to give things a go. Broad shoulders, big hands and great wide thighs 👀 also, tall. My husband is, lucky me, all of the above! He is, however, dark blond, whereas my previous ‘type’ would always be dark hair. I guess I can live with that 😂

Physical attraction is important but I don’t have a type, I’ve dated all sorts. Personality is key though - I quite often find that someone who is fun and confident becomes more physically attractive to me over time, like a slow burn of attraction.

i can’t imagine disregarding someone due to height, that’s so weird. And I’m taller than average for a woman.

I find competence very sexy too. Fell very hard for a tree surgeon who wasn’t much to look at, but after I’d seen him at work I had quite the crush 😂

I never really thought about this kind of thing much but now I'm with current DP I find it fascinating because he's so far from my usual type. I would have said before I like classic rugby player types - tall, muscular, a bit grr. And I'm not adverse to a dad bod either. DP is slightly shorter than me, very slim and a bit hipsterish - nothing I usually go for.
I'd also known him years before we got together without fancying him at all.
But I fell for him because he's kind, so, so funny, interesting, interested, intelligent, thoughtful. We have loads in common, talk endlessly even though we're together all the time. He's just fab to be with. He also made it very clear he liked me, but without ever really expecting anything in return. It's hard not to fall for a good guy who adores you! And now I don't think I've ever fancied anyone more. I get butterflies just looking at him

Eyes (green or blue/grey), voice, hands.

Voice, hands, humour; empathy, manners.

I had tall dark and handsome, but was also emotionally/conversationally stunted and a cheater, so no recommendations for that!

I like people with a nice smile, so I guess nice teeth, are easy to talk/listen to, not moody, respect money, honest and have sense of humour.

I am not adverse to a dad bod, but the extremes of skinny/muscly/heavily obese probably not for me.

Height wise, above 5'10 would be good, but not sure if it was a couple of inches less that that would be a deal breaker.

All in all I think I don't think my criteria should be that difficult to find someone if I were looking

An alpha manly man. One that looks like he's going to throw me around the bedroom 😂 obviously these are not key elements to a lifelong partnership, but attractive to me all the same!
Oh and hygiene is super important too.

I know you want lighthearted but it’s not really fair to equate body size with manliness. Skinny does not make someone unmanly in the same way that fat does not make someone unwomanly.

whether you’re attracted or not is your own business, but unmanly isn’t really fair

I think that between you all, you have come up with the perfect man.

I work in IT so what @forminate said! I meet men like that. Some are so dreamy.

Capability porn gets me going! That, and confidence, sense of humour and kindness.

I’ll always find that attractive.

Travelled academic successful but not arrogant. Well informed.

Humanitarian principles.

Tall, fit, intelligent, kind, funny, confident, no tattoos or piercings, good hygiene!

Yes! I don't find high pitched male voices attractive!

You wash your mouth out about David Tennant @Osidge 🤣🤣🤣

He's on my list of three