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Why the fuck does he do this?

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unclebuck · 20/02/2023 13:53

I work in a small town and we have local shops including 2 butchers, I used to use one of these for all my weekly purchases. 18 years ago I ordered some steak for DH bday, I had 2yo DS with me and was pregnant. About 20seconds after leaving the shop DS suddenly looked at me, his eyes rolled back and he had a seizure. A passerby called an ambulance, and we raced off to hospital. Fuck knows what happened to my brain in this time but I literally forgot the visit to the butchers completely.

A week later I was passing and he ran out screaming at me that I had wasted his time and cost him money. I remembered and was mortified. Apologised profusely, paid for the steak which he'd put in the freezer, and left. I ordered my turkey for Xmas the following week and was told I was blacklisted and to fuck off. Ok, I start using another butcher.

Since this happened, for nearly 20 years, this butcher has starred at me, left his shop to watch me walk down the street, glared at me, dirty looks etc. He sometimes stands behind the counter with his arms crossed a meat cleaver in his hand in what I assume is meant to be a very threatening manner. I don't give a shit normally but today he muttered 'state of that' I passed and I am feeling unwell and I just don't understand what is doing this for? My office is literally 50 m from his shop. I have literally not spoken to this man since he told me he wouldn't sell me a turkey 18 years ago and said "OK, not to worry" and left his shop.

What is he gaining? What a twat.

Sorry it's a bit long, I needed to get it off my chest!

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Imtryingnottobother · 20/02/2023 14:05

Ask him what his problem is ?
Although I’m surprised his shop has lasted at least 18;years, if he’s that sensitive.

rainbowstardrops · 20/02/2023 14:06

Bizarre

gamerchick · 20/02/2023 14:08

Another weird thread. That's 3 on the trott.

I'm going to do housework before I start hearing twilight zone music.

Sparklfairy · 20/02/2023 14:09

oh my god Grin I know it must be intimidating, but that's one hell of a grudge. I can't help but be impressed!

I'm surprised he's still in business as you can't be the only customer that's pissed him off ever?!

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 20/02/2023 14:10

He is harassing you, I would go into the shop customers or not, and tell him he needs to stop this vendetta against you, that you forgot your steak -18 years ago- because your son had a sezure and ended up in hospital.

That he is harassing you and if it doesn't stop you will inform the police.

Walk out and don't give him another thought

unclebuck · 20/02/2023 14:12

Imtryingnottobother · 20/02/2023 14:05

Ask him what his problem is ?
Although I’m surprised his shop has lasted at least 18;years, if he’s that sensitive.

The shop has been there 200 years! I can't believe I am the only person who's annoyed him in that time.

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unclebuck · 20/02/2023 14:13

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 20/02/2023 14:10

He is harassing you, I would go into the shop customers or not, and tell him he needs to stop this vendetta against you, that you forgot your steak -18 years ago- because your son had a sezure and ended up in hospital.

That he is harassing you and if it doesn't stop you will inform the police.

Walk out and don't give him another thought

I don't think about it often, but when I catch sight of him doing his glaring! Today he was muttering.
It is weird and I feel like crap today.

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Bemyclementine · 20/02/2023 14:15

Do you live in Royston Vasey?

Goodread1 · 20/02/2023 14:15

I call this small town or and village attitude mentality,
You get weird folk anywhere really
Who can be or act like Arseholes

Youraccountisnolongervalid · 20/02/2023 14:16

Start shouting morning and waving to him that should sort him out.

unclebuck · 20/02/2023 14:17

Bemyclementine · 20/02/2023 14:15

Do you live in Royston Vasey?

Not too far away........ this is the joke DH makes all the time.

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PortiasBiscuit · 20/02/2023 14:18

I would grin and wave wildly everytime I saw the knob. Maybe shout “Hi!” through the door everytime you got past..
or break in and turn off his freezer.

unclebuck · 20/02/2023 14:18

I used to spend a fair bit of money in there - £10-£25 a week. What a ridiculous way to run a business

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Thighdentitycrisis · 20/02/2023 14:20

Because he is a bully and I would have to confront him on it.

TheIsaacs · 20/02/2023 14:22

Next time he does it just stare back at him, really give him something to mutter about. He sounds like a petty bully.

Ohyoudodoyou · 20/02/2023 14:22

Because beware, butchers hold more grudges than lonely high court judges.

Mamette · 20/02/2023 14:23

I don’t think I’d be suited to village life because I’d have had an out and out row with him about 17.75 years ago. Full fishwife mode.

Standing with a meat cleaver glowering! What a tit.

unclebuck · 20/02/2023 14:23

Thighdentitycrisis · 20/02/2023 14:20

Because he is a bully and I would have to confront him on it.

Don't you think that would make him worse? He clearly doesn't give a shit if people see him there glaring and carrying on. I think he wants me to go in so he can shout at me again and I CBA, I mean I get why he was pissed off but this is crazy!

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Choconut · 20/02/2023 14:24

I'd give him a big smile and cheery 'hi!' every time you see him. That will piss him off so much that hopefully he'll stop harassing you.

pippinsleftleg · 20/02/2023 14:24

Wear a disguise, buy something from him then whip off your false moustache screaming ‘gotcha’.

That’ll piss him off.

unclebuck · 20/02/2023 14:25

Ohyoudodoyou · 20/02/2023 14:22

Because beware, butchers hold more grudges than lonely high court judges.

Quoting Mozzer on a thread about a butcher has cracked me up, thanks 😂

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unclebuck · 20/02/2023 14:25

pippinsleftleg · 20/02/2023 14:24

Wear a disguise, buy something from him then whip off your false moustache screaming ‘gotcha’.

That’ll piss him off.

😂OMG

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Mamette · 20/02/2023 14:25

pippinsleftleg · 20/02/2023 14:24

Wear a disguise, buy something from him then whip off your false moustache screaming ‘gotcha’.

That’ll piss him off.

Please do this.

unclebuck · 20/02/2023 14:26

I knew you'd cheer me up. What a tit he is

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Sartre · 20/02/2023 14:27

It’s village mentality. We live in one now and everyone knows everyone else’s business, it’s really weird. He probably rarely leaves the place so the only thrill he has in life is gossip /old pathetic grudges.

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