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Why the fuck does he do this?

107 replies

unclebuck · 20/02/2023 13:53

I work in a small town and we have local shops including 2 butchers, I used to use one of these for all my weekly purchases. 18 years ago I ordered some steak for DH bday, I had 2yo DS with me and was pregnant. About 20seconds after leaving the shop DS suddenly looked at me, his eyes rolled back and he had a seizure. A passerby called an ambulance, and we raced off to hospital. Fuck knows what happened to my brain in this time but I literally forgot the visit to the butchers completely.

A week later I was passing and he ran out screaming at me that I had wasted his time and cost him money. I remembered and was mortified. Apologised profusely, paid for the steak which he'd put in the freezer, and left. I ordered my turkey for Xmas the following week and was told I was blacklisted and to fuck off. Ok, I start using another butcher.

Since this happened, for nearly 20 years, this butcher has starred at me, left his shop to watch me walk down the street, glared at me, dirty looks etc. He sometimes stands behind the counter with his arms crossed a meat cleaver in his hand in what I assume is meant to be a very threatening manner. I don't give a shit normally but today he muttered 'state of that' I passed and I am feeling unwell and I just don't understand what is doing this for? My office is literally 50 m from his shop. I have literally not spoken to this man since he told me he wouldn't sell me a turkey 18 years ago and said "OK, not to worry" and left his shop.

What is he gaining? What a twat.

Sorry it's a bit long, I needed to get it off my chest!

OP posts:
Daffodilsandtuplips · 20/02/2023 18:35

Justcallmebebes · 20/02/2023 14:34

I don't understand as you say approx 20 seconds after leaving the shop your DS had a seizure. Didn't you pay and take the steak? Why was it in the freezer if you'd already left?

Doesn't make sense

OP,said she went in and ordered the steak for her DH’s birthday the following week. I guess she didn’t pay for it at the time of ordering, intending to do so when she picked it up the following week.
She had other things on her mind during that week, while her son was ill and forgot all about the steak.

LittleBlueBrioTrain · 20/02/2023 18:37

Do they have an email address? Sign them up for Veganuary.

Otherwise smile and wave. Every time. If you're with other people, get them too as well.

Cocobutt · 20/02/2023 18:50

I think I’d go in there when it’s really busy and try and buy something and if he tells you to fuck off and you’re not welcome ask him why.

When he tells you that you forgot to pay you can say how he knew it’s because your son had a seizure and you did pay him for the steaks afterwards.

He will look like a complete tit in front of all of the other customers.

lobeliasb · 20/02/2023 18:52

If I were you, I'd send in my DS and any visiting family or friends from out of town to place special orders for steaks and then pick them up much later. Make it a running joke.

StickofVeg · 20/02/2023 18:53

There's probably 3 ways to handle this as ignoring him isn't working:

  1. Ask him what his fucking problem is and rip him a new one whilst you're doing it. Bullies do tend to back down but it's a theory I've only tested out a few times in my life.
  2. Get someone to have a little chat with him on the quiet.
  3. Start glaring and stalking him back!
GoodChat · 20/02/2023 19:01

I can't believe he froze the steak rather than just, you know, selling it.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 20/02/2023 19:02

He’s doing this because you’re letting him.
Next time he follows you out of the shop to stare at you, turn around and ask him what his problem is.

MelaniesFlowers · 20/02/2023 19:13

If the incident happened after you left the shop, hadn’t you already paid?

cocog · 20/02/2023 19:14

Stick up your middle finger if he does it to you again and tell him to get over himself. He’s a spiteful bully and trying to intimidate you! Don’t let him. Leave his shop a bad review on their social media saying he’s not a people person and his bad and intimidating attitude drives away customers.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 20/02/2023 19:14

Daffodilsandtuplips · 20/02/2023 19:02

He’s doing this because you’re letting him.
Next time he follows you out of the shop to stare at you, turn around and ask him what his problem is.

This and it reminds me of "NO SOUP FOR YOU!"

fairgame84 · 20/02/2023 19:20

There was a similar thread a few weeks ago where a woman had been rude to the op whose child had a seizure.
Must be rude people everywhere.

Aubree17 · 20/02/2023 20:07

That's absolutely batshit, And no way to run a business.

I assume he knew the reason why you didn't collect the steak. Not that it matters. Any rational butchur would simply have resold the steak and welcomed you back for the turkey.

I don't think I've ever heard anything so crazy. I wonder what his problem is.

SpringyChicken · 20/02/2023 20:21

He is definitely enjoying intimidating you. What an arsehole.

Would he do this if you were a man? No he wouldn't.

UserEleventyBillionandOne · 20/02/2023 20:35

If this is real then I cannot fathom why you have allowed this prick to bully you for two decades? If it were me I would have set about telling everyone in the village about his intimidation attempts, and post several reviews online under fake names saying you got horrendous diarrhoea from his meat.

Original poster
unclebuck · 20/02/2023 22:01

fairgame84 · 20/02/2023 19:20

There was a similar thread a few weeks ago where a woman had been rude to the op whose child had a seizure.
Must be rude people everywhere.

That thread was horrendous - poor woman. Everyone rushed to help me and were extremely kind when my son was unwell.

He doesn't bully or intimidate me - I still walk the same way and I could very easily go another way. I had a very tough upbringing and am not easily bullied.

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MelloYellow · 20/02/2023 22:20

Ask him if he wants a pair of your pants to sniff since he’s clearly still obsessed with you!
what a crank!

unclebuck · 20/02/2023 22:30

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Original poster
unclebuck · 20/02/2023 22:32

sorry wrong thread 🙄

OP posts:
newjobnewstartihope · 20/02/2023 22:33

gamerchick · 20/02/2023 14:08

Another weird thread. That's 3 on the trott.

I'm going to do housework before I start hearing twilight zone music.

Lollllll

newjobnewstartihope · 20/02/2023 22:34

Ohyoudodoyou · 20/02/2023 14:22

Because beware, butchers hold more grudges than lonely high court judges.

😂😂😂

newjobnewstartihope · 20/02/2023 22:36

Are you in Ireland? This is typical behaviour of any slightly inconvenienced Irish older person in Ballymagowan

SnarkyBag · 20/02/2023 22:38

Wear this as you walk past everyday.

Why the fuck does he do this?
Workinghardeveryday · 20/02/2023 22:41

SnarkyBag · 20/02/2023 22:38

Wear this as you walk past everyday.

😂🤣😂🤣😂😊😂🤣

SandcastleQueen · 20/02/2023 22:50

Cheery demeanour will piss him right off. My mum has a glowering tit of a neighbour who has held a grudge ever since she refused to take sides in an argument between him and another neighbour over wheelie bins or some nonsense about a decade ago. She takes delight in meeting his threatening glares with a sprightly "Morning, Alan!" And a little wave. He grunts and fucks off back up the path. Daily amusement. 😁