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Why do so many women not like their men aka partners to watch porn ?

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Freespirit42 · 21/10/2022 23:56

I am single atm but I am reading comments on here and so many seem horrified that their men might watch porn, even wank to it or maybe do cam to cam . Now I don’t think any of that is cheating porn is porn. So do you think that there seems to be quite a few women on MN that dont agree with it?

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FiveMins · 22/10/2022 00:00

Many reasons. For me it's because it turns women into a series of holesnto fuck. And makes men shite lovers.
But also because you never know if the women in it were forced to do it.
And if even one in a thousand were they are helping that to happen.

Lochjeda · 22/10/2022 00:01

Cam to cam is absolutely crossing a line when you are in a relationship!

I couldn't care less about watching porn as long as it isn't replacing having sex with me. Many don't like it because they feel alot of the women are forced into or are vulnerable who do it. Many are jealous of their partners looking at other women in a sexual way for sexual gratification. Its not that hard to work out surley.

Lochjeda · 22/10/2022 00:02

And also porn isn't real sex. If a man watches it too much they think that having sex like that will make them a good lover and it rally doesnt. Porn is make believe made for the visual enjoyment for men, its not based on what women like or enjoy and its fake as fuck.

Dotcheck · 22/10/2022 00:04

You do know cam to cam has real people on the other end of the cameras, right?

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:04

Dotcheck · 22/10/2022 00:04

You do know cam to cam has real people on the other end of the cameras, right?

Yes but it’s porn they ain’t gonna run off with the hubby etc unless he’s doing it shall I say on tinder etc then it’s not cheating

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FiveMins · 22/10/2022 00:05

Lochjeda · 22/10/2022 00:02

And also porn isn't real sex. If a man watches it too much they think that having sex like that will make them a good lover and it rally doesnt. Porn is make believe made for the visual enjoyment for men, its not based on what women like or enjoy and its fake as fuck.

Sadly so many men don't realise this and they are rubbish in bed as a result.

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:05

I get porn is fake but it’s simply niave not to think that men don’t watch they do prob more than wife’s know about that’s all I am saying and yes it’s fake we know that

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Underanothersky · 22/10/2022 00:07

Because it exploits and objectifies other women

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:09

Underanothersky · 22/10/2022 00:07

Because it exploits and objectifies other women

Ok but would you stop your partner from watching it

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RampantIvy · 22/10/2022 00:09

You really have to ask?

Are you a man?

EmeraldShamrock1 · 22/10/2022 00:10

You are obviously very unaware of the ethics of porn from your ridiculously childish post.

No critical thinking when questioning the industry other than assuming wives and female partners are just jealous.

You're not the cool open minded woman that you think you are.

magma32 · 22/10/2022 00:11

You sound quite young. Once you’re in a relationship then you might change your mind or you might not. If you’re a straight female, I wonder if your male partner would be ok with you doing cam to cam with another man. Unless you don’t mind double standards and think it’s only something that’s acceptable for men. Anyway, like I said, let’s see if you feel differently once you’re in a relationship. Some women feel that if they come across all open minded or tell themselves they’re ok with things they’ll bag a bloke but time will tell how ok you’d be in a long term relationship.

TheOnlyBeeInYourBonnet · 22/10/2022 00:11

What makes you think this poster is a woman @EmeraldShamrock1 ?

ItSeesMe · 22/10/2022 00:12

Because there's a good chance you will be watching a rape.

Underanothersky · 22/10/2022 00:12

Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:09

Ok but would you stop your partner from watching it

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It is a deal breakers in our relationship

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:13

Underanothersky · 22/10/2022 00:12

It is a deal breakers in our relationship

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But why most men do it those that say they don’t are lieing

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:15

EmeraldShamrock1 · 22/10/2022 00:10

You are obviously very unaware of the ethics of porn from your ridiculously childish post.

No critical thinking when questioning the industry other than assuming wives and female partners are just jealous.

You're not the cool open minded woman that you think you are.

I don’t believe it’s down to jealousy per say but.I think women who say oh my man wouldn’t are just being as niave

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Lochjeda · 22/10/2022 00:17

Some men don't even have mobile phones or the Internet. So no, not "all men" do it. Most younger men these days will and it makes me feel sorry for the younger girls of today who will now have to have sex with younger guys who learned about sex from porn and then have sex with them the same as what they viewed on porn.

Zwicky · 22/10/2022 00:17

Never really considered the “cheating” aspect as being that significant. Nobody believes their partner is going to actually run off with a sex worker who they’ve seen in a video, even if the sex worker would entertain the idea of taking on such a wanker. It’s just having a fantasy, which I think as fine until you start using actual humans as objects to exploit in the service of your fantasy or fantasising about hurting, humiliating, degrading and raping women. Getting your rocks off degrading vulnerable women is not something I find attractive in a man and that’s a big part of it. Men who watch porn or notoriously shit in bed, and being a good shag is quite important to me in a sexual partner. I don’t really “get” it. Why wouldn’t up you rather just have sex?

Kite22 · 22/10/2022 00:17

You are being naïve if you think either that all men watch porn or that all men lie.

I feel quite sad that you have such low standards.

Ticksallboxes · 22/10/2022 00:19

Cam girls are next level and expensive, but I have to say I think most men watch porn on free sites. It's a bit of a no-brainer.

I love my DH, we have a good sex life and he's great with our DCs. I've never caught him, but assume he does access porn from time to time. It really doesn't bother me.

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:19

Kite22 · 22/10/2022 00:17

You are being naïve if you think either that all men watch porn or that all men lie.

I feel quite sad that you have such low standards.

I think there are many men that watch porn those that say they don’t I don’t believe them I am sure like anything there will be a few that don’t but when you look at the hits on porn sites I believe the numbers are staggering yes

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Underanothersky · 22/10/2022 00:19

Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:13

But why most men do it those that say they don’t are lieing

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Because I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who thinks it"s ok to exploit and objectify women

It's not really relevant to me that most men do it. It"s relevant to me that he doesn't do it.

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:20

Kite22 · 22/10/2022 00:17

You are being naïve if you think either that all men watch porn or that all men lie.

I feel quite sad that you have such low standards.

I don’t think it’s low standards either as watching porn doesn’t bother me at all

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 00:21

Underanothersky · 22/10/2022 00:19

Because I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who thinks it"s ok to exploit and objectify women

It's not really relevant to me that most men do it. It"s relevant to me that he doesn't do it.

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But how would you ever know

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