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Why do so many women not like their men aka partners to watch porn ?

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Freespirit42 · 21/10/2022 23:56

I am single atm but I am reading comments on here and so many seem horrified that their men might watch porn, even wank to it or maybe do cam to cam . Now I don’t think any of that is cheating porn is porn. So do you think that there seems to be quite a few women on MN that dont agree with it?

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BasicDad · 22/10/2022 01:06

Not all men watch porn, yes.

A huge overwhelming majority do.

Maybe not all the time, maybe not frequently, but some of the time, yes.

Doona · 22/10/2022 01:06

It makes them bad lovers, as everyone knows. If they continue with it openly anyway it's saying they don't care about how good they are at sex. Unless they're awesome lovers even though they watch porn. I've never come across that but it might be possible.

Theydoyaknow · 22/10/2022 01:07

BasicDad · 22/10/2022 01:06

Not all men watch porn, yes.

A huge overwhelming majority do.

Maybe not all the time, maybe not frequently, but some of the time, yes.

Exactly this.

WalkthisWayUK · 22/10/2022 01:08

‘Why would women object to their partners join in and pay for women to be exploited, abused, trafficked, trapped, physically harmed for their sexual pleasure… ?’

Why indeed OP?!

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 01:08

Theydoyaknow · 22/10/2022 01:07

Exactly this.

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That’s what I think

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FlightyFanta · 22/10/2022 01:08

I never used to mind porn and thought the same as some others 'that it's not cheating' or 'it's normal' but as I've gotten older my views have changed.

I think the increase in porn is ruining young people and their sex lives. Young women are expected to enjoy more and more extreme sex acts and if they don't they are seen as the dreaded 'vanilla' type.

Porn is exploitive and when watching it you don't know who have been coerced or are on drugs. It's awful really.

CandyLeBonBon · 22/10/2022 01:08

You're single, you say?

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 01:09

WalkthisWayUK · 22/10/2022 01:08

‘Why would women object to their partners join in and pay for women to be exploited, abused, trafficked, trapped, physically harmed for their sexual pleasure… ?’

Why indeed OP?!

Do women not chose to do this stuff sometimes? Are all porn stars their against their choice because I would say some women must chose to do this to

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 01:11

FlightyFanta · 22/10/2022 01:08

I never used to mind porn and thought the same as some others 'that it's not cheating' or 'it's normal' but as I've gotten older my views have changed.

I think the increase in porn is ruining young people and their sex lives. Young women are expected to enjoy more and more extreme sex acts and if they don't they are seen as the dreaded 'vanilla' type.

Porn is exploitive and when watching it you don't know who have been coerced or are on drugs. It's awful really.

You see I get that from a younger guys case and the whole forcing maybe a younger woman into stuff. However I am 42 and I would think many on mumsnet are not that young teenage young so having your hubby watch it I don’t think he will force you do you know what I mean

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 01:11

CandyLeBonBon · 22/10/2022 01:08

You're single, you say?

I don’t get the relevance of that

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Theydoyaknow · 22/10/2022 01:12

FlightyFanta · 22/10/2022 01:08

I never used to mind porn and thought the same as some others 'that it's not cheating' or 'it's normal' but as I've gotten older my views have changed.

I think the increase in porn is ruining young people and their sex lives. Young women are expected to enjoy more and more extreme sex acts and if they don't they are seen as the dreaded 'vanilla' type.

Porn is exploitive and when watching it you don't know who have been coerced or are on drugs. It's awful really.

Now I do agree with this. I think the boundaries in some porn has been pushed so far that “vanilla” is seen as boring by younger people. It gives the younger kids a very unrealistic view of what sex should entail and what they should allow.

WalkthisWayUK · 22/10/2022 01:13

Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 01:09

Do women not chose to do this stuff sometimes? Are all porn stars their against their choice because I would say some women must chose to do this to

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So you know which women were really so happy and willing to have loads of dick up their bum, multiple times a day do you? It’s just full of the happy hooker/porn star types… yeah right OP. Like the woman at home happy to be abused by her husband. She doesn’t want to leave. Must be OK. Right?

🙄bloody hell fire…

CandyLeBonBon · 22/10/2022 01:15

Well if you're single, of course men accessing porn won't bother you! Why would it @Freespirit42 ? Confused

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 01:15

WalkthisWayUK · 22/10/2022 01:13

So you know which women were really so happy and willing to have loads of dick up their bum, multiple times a day do you? It’s just full of the happy hooker/porn star types… yeah right OP. Like the woman at home happy to be abused by her husband. She doesn’t want to leave. Must be OK. Right?

🙄bloody hell fire…

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Firstly in the porn industry they sign to say they are happy to do such and such and there will be some that are ok with it. Sure there Will be some doing it for money etc

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 01:15

CandyLeBonBon · 22/10/2022 01:15

Well if you're single, of course men accessing porn won't bother you! Why would it @Freespirit42 ? Confused

But in relationships it never bothered me

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Riverlee · 22/10/2022 01:18

Porn is not for me. I don’t want to see half naked men and women doing the act, and it’s never been part of our relationship. Never seen dh watching it either.

I do think it’s sleazey, and unrealistic, and also exploitive.

CandyLeBonBon · 22/10/2022 01:18

Ok. That's great. Why are you so interested in why it bothers other people? Your op wasn't worded in a way that signalled idle curiosity. So if you're ok with it, and you're currently single, why are you interested?

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 01:21

CandyLeBonBon · 22/10/2022 01:18

Ok. That's great. Why are you so interested in why it bothers other people? Your op wasn't worded in a way that signalled idle curiosity. So if you're ok with it, and you're currently single, why are you interested?

Because I was curious as to how so many seem to be very anti it or think that their men are not watching it I was on another thread and the subject came up nothing really very much apart from that

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magma32 · 22/10/2022 01:21

I mean, you use the word prude for women, there are many other words but what about the many men who don’t like ‘their’ women doing this stuff, where are the names for them or is it that is just unnatural for women but completely natural for men. These ideas are why women are still in their place. Because men can get away with whatever because it’s done in the open and so women are conditioned to accept it but women have to hide or ignore their feelings so it’s seen as unnatural and therefore unacceptable for women to do it.

also if it’s so innocent for men to do it, and the men don’t see it as disrespecting their partners, I would like to see your partners when you want to do the equivalent, even if you don’t, you should test them as that will tell you if it’s really innocent.
If it’s innocent and respectful for them then surely it’s the same for you so they shouldn’t be offended it when you’re doing it with other men and they’re not involved

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Freespirit42 · 22/10/2022 01:23

magma32 · 22/10/2022 01:21

I mean, you use the word prude for women, there are many other words but what about the many men who don’t like ‘their’ women doing this stuff, where are the names for them or is it that is just unnatural for women but completely natural for men. These ideas are why women are still in their place. Because men can get away with whatever because it’s done in the open and so women are conditioned to accept it but women have to hide or ignore their feelings so it’s seen as unnatural and therefore unacceptable for women to do it.

also if it’s so innocent for men to do it, and the men don’t see it as disrespecting their partners, I would like to see your partners when you want to do the equivalent, even if you don’t, you should test them as that will tell you if it’s really innocent.
If it’s innocent and respectful for them then surely it’s the same for you so they shouldn’t be offended it when you’re doing it with other men and they’re not involved

I know what you mean I have watched porn with my partners before when I was in relationship s. I think a man not wanting their woman to watch porn is pathetic to and yes prudish because if it’s good for him it’s good for her but I have never had that happen

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magma32 · 22/10/2022 01:25

Like I said i don’t mean watching it together, I mean you doing it without their involvement and one to one with another man without them. Because if it’s not like cheating then this should not bother them as it doesn’t bother you. When you’re both involved together it’s a different dynamic to the one I’m referring to.

CandyLeBonBon · 22/10/2022 01:26

'Their men'

Interesting choice of words. People aren't possessions.

Riverlee · 22/10/2022 01:41

If being a prude means having standards, then I’m proud to be a prude.

Don’t quite see why if it’s good for him, then it’s good for her.

BadNomad · 22/10/2022 01:42

How is cam-to-cam just porn? How is wanking off in front of someone who is not your partner not being disloyal to your partner?

Furries · 22/10/2022 01:46

Consensual role playing - fine. Sharing fantasies - fine.

Watching porn, to me, not fine. Sign of someone not confident in their own relationships. And that’s me being generous.

I don’t care how it’s dressed up with words or justifications - porn is absolutely the exploitation/degradation of women for the benefit of men. I know some people will flip it around, that the women who are filmed are actually taking advantage of men, but that doesn’t wash with me.