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I intended to cheer up a friend in hospital... message exchange turned hotttt!

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aurynne · 27/04/2022 10:03

I have this handsome friend who I originally met on Tinder. After a short messaging period we met a couple of times, we got along really well but I didn't develop any feelings (I normally take a long time to develop feelings anyway); then he told me there was this other woman he had been seeing (also from Tinder) and he was starting to have feelings for her so he didn't want to lead me on. Fair enough. He started a relationship with this other woman which did not last long, they broke up, and he and I remained platonic friends since, seeing each other once a month or so, for a chat, coffee or walks.

I messaged him yesterday to ask him how he was doing and he told me he was in hospital with strange symptoms, he was having some tests and would be admitted for some days as the symptoms are quite worrying and they fear it could be something related to his heart (he has some medical background related to this).

This evening after work I started messaging him to cheer him up. But in a completely unexpected and unintended way some of the jokes started turning quite... erm... spicy both ways. We ended up sharing a bit more intimate details about our lives than what I had intended. I certainly raised his... spirits.

I had not been thinking of him that way before, but now I doubt our platonic friendship can go back to what it used to be. I have this exciting feeling of anticipation about where - if anywhere - this will lead, not necessarily in a romantic way (so far I don't have romantic feelings for him), but certainly wouldn't mind exploring a more physical side of this friendship once he's recovered enough to make sure I don't give him a heart attack.

No real question here, just wanted to share a little feel-good (and-excited) story and perhaps wonder what's going to happen, if anything. Let's do a little poll... what do you think will happen next time we see each other in person?

1 - We won't. He'll have a heart attack tonight, will blame me for it and I'll never hear from him again.

2 - We will fall in each other's arms, have passionate hot sex and I will gain a new hot FWB

3 - We will be all feeling so awkward that nothing will happen

4 - Sparks will fly and we'll fall in love and I will stop being single (who knows for how long this time)

5 - Other (insert option here)

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heldinadream · 27/04/2022 10:07

That's lovely so I'm going for 2 or 4 OP! And hoping we get to hear how it unfolds... 😉

Cardboardsnoreboard · 27/04/2022 10:07

Don't care but please spare a thought for the nursing staff and other patients who have to be in the same ward/area as the Sid James wannabee.🤢

ParentalGuidances · 27/04/2022 10:08

I think u want option 2 or 4? I’m hoping it certainly won’t be option 3!

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saggyhairyass · 27/04/2022 10:09
  1. But I'm an eternal pessimist.
WeDontShutUpAboutBruno · 27/04/2022 10:11
  1. He will use you while he is bored in hospital because you're providing him material to wank over (in his hospital bed - boak) and he will continue to pursue other people when he gets out of hospital.
Isonthecase · 27/04/2022 10:17

I'm just going to go full fun sponge and say maybe save the sexting until he's out of hospital with heart problems 😂

Then crack on by all means, I'm hoping for #2 because he does sound fun and nice but #4 means you'd have to explain to people how you got together 🙈

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aurynne · 27/04/2022 10:45

Cardboardsnoreboard · 27/04/2022 10:07

Don't care but please spare a thought for the nursing staff and other patients who have to be in the same ward/area as the Sid James wannabee.🤢

This was a messenger conversation outside of clinician reviews and visiting hours, and knowing him he wouldn't have done anything that would bother anyone else. I happen to work in hospital too and patients on the phone texting is probable as common a sight as patients asleep.

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aurynne · 27/04/2022 10:51

I certainly prefer option 2, realistically option 3 has a fair chance too... option 4 is very airy fairy but hey, they say miracles happen everyday right?

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SusieMyersonAndAssociates · 27/04/2022 10:51

I think probably 3 but please keep us updated. A good sweet few good story could be exactly what we need.

theemmadilemma · 27/04/2022 10:54

I'm going with 4. A slow burn with an unexpected event changing things just enough for the flames to start...

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 27/04/2022 10:54

This reads like one of those books that you choose what happens next, although they're usually for children & this definitely isn't!

Orchidsonthetable · 27/04/2022 11:01

Well hoping you will fall in love with someone yoire not romantically interested in sounds kinda like maybe you are interested that way but scared to get your hopes up after he rejected you for the other woman?

you’re clearly very excited that he might be interested now so I think you need to be honest with yourself about what you really want, as you may get hurt.

as the saying goes, don’t make someone a priority when you are just an option to them.

if you are genuinely happy with just a shag and he goes with someone else, then go for it, most men are open to that, but if you want a relationship then play it differently op.

NewYorkCityDreamer · 27/04/2022 11:06

I’d be concerned he’s using you

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aurynne · 27/04/2022 11:09

@Orchidsonthetable I'm actually going through a great time in my life right now, I feel really happy about who I am and where I'm at, I am not in love with anyone, I don't even fancy anyone enough to consider them a "potential" and this guy is one of those friends (out of 3 or 4) that could be a "possible" in the right circumstances but I am not thinking about. I have a couple of friends with benefits now but one of them is potentially moving away, so I wouldn't mind filling the vacancy. This conversation has just brought this friend more to my attention, but he could very well have told me he has met a wonderful woman and I would have been genuinely happy for him. At this stage I am not emotionally involved.

Yes, I am curious about how sex with him would be (is he a great lover? is he average? is he crap?) and I have no idea what would happen afterwards, really open to possibilities but not invested yet. it's a comfortable place to be :)

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aurynne · 27/04/2022 11:10

NewYorkCityDreamer · 27/04/2022 11:06

I’d be concerned he’s using you

We would have been using one another equally, the spicy conversation came from both sides. In fact, going back to the messages, I was the first one to use a message with a double-entendre, which he picked up straight away.

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Blackmagicqueen · 27/04/2022 11:13

I'm afraid that he is using you too, hope I'm wrong. He didn't choose you initially and now he is messaging whilst he is bored in hospital without other options; i have seen this happen before. I'm sorry op but i would be cautious.

Blackmagicqueen · 27/04/2022 11:14

I also understand you initiated but despite that i still think the same, so sorry and hope this isn't the case. He should have chosen you at the start imo.

MsFogi · 27/04/2022 11:15

3 - when his drugs wear off he will be thinking wtf!!!

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aurynne · 27/04/2022 11:22

MsFogi · 27/04/2022 11:15

3 - when his drugs wear off he will be thinking wtf!!!

Actually this is probably the most realistic one LOL

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aurynne · 27/04/2022 11:26

It's ok if nothing happens and he acts as if the conversation never took place, in fact it may be me acting like that tomorrow when I wake up (evening here)

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Knittingchamp · 27/04/2022 11:29

aurynne · 27/04/2022 10:03

I have this handsome friend who I originally met on Tinder. After a short messaging period we met a couple of times, we got along really well but I didn't develop any feelings (I normally take a long time to develop feelings anyway); then he told me there was this other woman he had been seeing (also from Tinder) and he was starting to have feelings for her so he didn't want to lead me on. Fair enough. He started a relationship with this other woman which did not last long, they broke up, and he and I remained platonic friends since, seeing each other once a month or so, for a chat, coffee or walks.

I messaged him yesterday to ask him how he was doing and he told me he was in hospital with strange symptoms, he was having some tests and would be admitted for some days as the symptoms are quite worrying and they fear it could be something related to his heart (he has some medical background related to this).

This evening after work I started messaging him to cheer him up. But in a completely unexpected and unintended way some of the jokes started turning quite... erm... spicy both ways. We ended up sharing a bit more intimate details about our lives than what I had intended. I certainly raised his... spirits.

I had not been thinking of him that way before, but now I doubt our platonic friendship can go back to what it used to be. I have this exciting feeling of anticipation about where - if anywhere - this will lead, not necessarily in a romantic way (so far I don't have romantic feelings for him), but certainly wouldn't mind exploring a more physical side of this friendship once he's recovered enough to make sure I don't give him a heart attack.

No real question here, just wanted to share a little feel-good (and-excited) story and perhaps wonder what's going to happen, if anything. Let's do a little poll... what do you think will happen next time we see each other in person?

1 - We won't. He'll have a heart attack tonight, will blame me for it and I'll never hear from him again.

2 - We will fall in each other's arms, have passionate hot sex and I will gain a new hot FWB

3 - We will be all feeling so awkward that nothing will happen

4 - Sparks will fly and we'll fall in love and I will stop being single (who knows for how long this time)

5 - Other (insert option here)

4!! It's like the hospital version of Bridgerton!

Isonthecase · 27/04/2022 14:06

@Knittingchamp only we can't just watch the whole series to find out what happens next!!

BlimBosh · 27/04/2022 14:10

4 but I'm a romantic !

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aurynne · 28/04/2022 00:23

Isonthecase · 27/04/2022 14:06

@Knittingchamp only we can't just watch the whole series to find out what happens next!!

Damn, I can't either!!

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TracyBeakerSoYeah · 28/04/2022 00:46

No 4 because anything can happen.