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I intended to cheer up a friend in hospital... message exchange turned hotttt!

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aurynne · 27/04/2022 10:03

I have this handsome friend who I originally met on Tinder. After a short messaging period we met a couple of times, we got along really well but I didn't develop any feelings (I normally take a long time to develop feelings anyway); then he told me there was this other woman he had been seeing (also from Tinder) and he was starting to have feelings for her so he didn't want to lead me on. Fair enough. He started a relationship with this other woman which did not last long, they broke up, and he and I remained platonic friends since, seeing each other once a month or so, for a chat, coffee or walks.

I messaged him yesterday to ask him how he was doing and he told me he was in hospital with strange symptoms, he was having some tests and would be admitted for some days as the symptoms are quite worrying and they fear it could be something related to his heart (he has some medical background related to this).

This evening after work I started messaging him to cheer him up. But in a completely unexpected and unintended way some of the jokes started turning quite... erm... spicy both ways. We ended up sharing a bit more intimate details about our lives than what I had intended. I certainly raised his... spirits.

I had not been thinking of him that way before, but now I doubt our platonic friendship can go back to what it used to be. I have this exciting feeling of anticipation about where - if anywhere - this will lead, not necessarily in a romantic way (so far I don't have romantic feelings for him), but certainly wouldn't mind exploring a more physical side of this friendship once he's recovered enough to make sure I don't give him a heart attack.

No real question here, just wanted to share a little feel-good (and-excited) story and perhaps wonder what's going to happen, if anything. Let's do a little poll... what do you think will happen next time we see each other in person?

1 - We won't. He'll have a heart attack tonight, will blame me for it and I'll never hear from him again.

2 - We will fall in each other's arms, have passionate hot sex and I will gain a new hot FWB

3 - We will be all feeling so awkward that nothing will happen

4 - Sparks will fly and we'll fall in love and I will stop being single (who knows for how long this time)

5 - Other (insert option here)

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MarmiteCoriander · 28/04/2022 01:01

Blackmagicqueen · 27/04/2022 11:13

I'm afraid that he is using you too, hope I'm wrong. He didn't choose you initially and now he is messaging whilst he is bored in hospital without other options; i have seen this happen before. I'm sorry op but i would be cautious.

Sorry but number 5 other, and this ^

Maybe the OTHER relationship fizzled, isn't replying etc and you are giving him the attention and titillation he is craving right now. I wouldn't be hoping, encouraging, thinking about this guy at all!!!

MrsEricBana · 28/04/2022 01:31

I think he's trapped/bored/worried he might keel over BUT of course I hope it's that he has realised you're the one for him and much happiness all round will ensue.

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aurynne · 28/04/2022 02:28

I messaged him this morning asking how he's doing and about some test results, I didn't mention anything about last night's off-topic conversation.

He told me about the tests, and then he added: "On a different topic, I had some enjoyable images as I fell asleep last night (wink)"

I like these little exciting bits in life.

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WeDontShutUpAboutBruno · 27/04/2022 10:11

  1. He will use you while he is bored in hospital because you're providing him material to wank over (in his hospital bed - boak) and he will continue to pursue other people when he gets out of hospital.

Sorry but a second vote for this being no. 5.

JingsMahBucket · 28/04/2022 04:51

@aurynne have fun with it and ignore the naysayers. Sexual anticipation is most of the fun anyway.

Tillsforthrills · 28/04/2022 05:26

ignore all the killjoy comments if this is just some fun and you’re mature enough to know the difference

So I’d say No.2

WalkerWalking · 28/04/2022 05:30

Proper sexual flirting is one of my absolute favourite things in the world. I hope you do at least get a shag from it!

WindyKnickers · 28/04/2022 05:47

WeDontShutUpAboutBruno · 27/04/2022 10:11

  1. He will use you while he is bored in hospital because you're providing him material to wank over (in his hospital bed - boak) and he will continue to pursue other people when he gets out of hospital.

This one

AlternativePerspective · 28/04/2022 06:19

It’s one thing to get involved in sexting when you’re both at home etc, whatever floats yer boat.

It’s quite another when he’s in a place where someone else will have to do the clearing up after he’s had a wank. Grim.

Have a bit more self respect than to contribute to that.

Cardiac wards are usually mixed wards so it’s likely that there will be women there who are aware of what he’s doing, not to mention the nurses who have better things to do than clear up after him. Grim.

runnerblade95 · 28/04/2022 06:23

Who wanks while in hospital? Anyway, I’m voting #3 or #5, with #5 being that he is using you to pass the time. Which is fine if you’re okay with that which to be fair, it sounds like you are.

I still want to know who the hell wanks while in hospital though 🤨

Muppetlove · 28/04/2022 06:30
  1. He's using you to pass the time. You reached out to him not the other way around. You'll go back to your normal situation with him and he won't think a thing about it. Don't read into the messages. It's just talk.
Joystir59 · 28/04/2022 06:43

4! I'm a romantic optimist. You've got to know each other as friends- a great start for falling in love.

runnerblade95 · 28/04/2022 06:45

It’s quite another when he’s in a place where someone else will have to do the clearing up after he’s had a wank. Grim.

Have a bit more self respect than to contribute to that.

Also this. Personally, I think it’s disgusting.

Furrbabymama87 · 28/04/2022 06:47

AlternativePerspective · 28/04/2022 06:19

It’s one thing to get involved in sexting when you’re both at home etc, whatever floats yer boat.

It’s quite another when he’s in a place where someone else will have to do the clearing up after he’s had a wank. Grim.

Have a bit more self respect than to contribute to that.

Cardiac wards are usually mixed wards so it’s likely that there will be women there who are aware of what he’s doing, not to mention the nurses who have better things to do than clear up after him. Grim.

If he needs a wank, he'll wank. Don't blame the OP.

Bretonbear · 28/04/2022 06:50

He's bored and you're an option.

spotcheck · 28/04/2022 06:55

WeDontShutUpAboutBruno · 27/04/2022 10:11

  1. He will use you while he is bored in hospital because you're providing him material to wank over (in his hospital bed - boak) and he will continue to pursue other people when he gets out of hospital.

Agree
(Pessimist)

PeaceLurking9to5 · 28/04/2022 07:00

Id be wary. If you just want to have sex once and satisfy your curiosity you've nothing to lose, but if it would be humiliating or upsetting to be used once for sex finally because he's a bit off his usual game, then be wary.
The other woman he dated, did they go out on dates, if you have sex with this guy that you met on tinder, on his terms when he is sick/recovering then as soon as he is better you will be yesterday's news.
That is the picture i get from this.

PeaceLurking9to5 · 28/04/2022 07:04

Id say "look, im not after a player, dont play me. Are you interested in me or interested in sex with me?"

You still mightnt get the truth but you'll be able to figure it out from his response.

But im just so jaded. Was used so many times and i let it happen. Always OLD people. People you meet through work friends dont instantly set out with an agenda to use you for sex

PeaceLurking9to5 · 28/04/2022 07:09

Although, sometimes they do, of course

LaMarschallin · 28/04/2022 07:16

I intended to cheer up a friend in hospital... message exchange turned hotttt!

This evening after work I started messaging him to cheer him up. But in a completely unexpected and unintended way some of the jokes started turning quite... erm... spicy both ways. We ended up sharing a bit more intimate details about our lives than what I had intended. I certainly raised his... spirits.

I hope it ends up with you going in to visit him (after he's made a complete recovery), nervously clutching some sweet treats and some fruit (maybe a banana and a couple of oranges, humourously arranged to give him a chuckle).
His twinkling blue eyes will widen in appreciation of your assets and you'll both realise that this is It...

A few days later, when you first step out in public from the hospital, the stunning ring glinting on your finger, the doctors and nurses will clap and cheer and he'll murmur, "You were the one that healed my heart, sugar pie"...

Failing that, perhaps you could get a job writing for "Take a Break"?

PS Despite my facetiousness, I genuinely do hope he makes a full recovery.

HikingforScenery · 28/04/2022 07:17

I think 3.

He’s desperate for some cheering up. He’ll be told all is well and he’ll go back to his other woman. Sorry!

Mumteedum · 28/04/2022 07:20

Your post made me feel very old. I don't get the whole Fwb but maybe you'd hope to fall in love later and you have a vacancy cos there's a couple on the go thing. Sounds exhausting.

Good luck though.

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aurynne · 28/04/2022 07:22

I find it hilarious that some posters not only assume he was wanking (I don't know, I was not there, but he certainly didn't suggest that) and even worse, than I was somehow responsible for it if it happened. Should I go to the hospital and offer to change his bed?

PeaceLurking9to5
Id say "look, im not after a player, dont play me. Are you interested in me or interested in sex with me?"

I would be over the moon if he just wanted to have sex with me, because that's exactly what I am wishing for right now and the way I'm looking at this. I am too happy with my life the way it is to even be interested in a relationship right now. Although I admit that the sweet anticipation is often way better than the reality.

Having said that, if he was amazing in bed I may reconsider. I could upgrade him to FWB. I have no idea whether or not he has any interest beyond that, but neither do I, so I am really not concerned.

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aurynne · 28/04/2022 07:24

HikingforScenery
He’s desperate for some cheering up. He’ll be told all is well and he’ll go back to his other woman. Sorry!

He broke up with that woman about 7 or 8 months ago, I'm sure he'd already be with her if he wanted to. And I wouldn't mind cheering him up :P

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ladydimitrescu · 28/04/2022 07:26

Some of these replies 😂
How exciting op, I'm invested!