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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

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SoupDragon · 18/02/2021 17:23
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Neverspeakofthisagain · 18/02/2021 17:39

Hello Wardrobes

I'm sorry to hear things are so difficult and looking so bleak, but glad to hear that Mr W is hanging on in there. My nurse friend told me that they view every day survived, as a day closer to recovery (even if not full recovery for some). It doesn't always go that way of course, but he has clearly fought bloody hard, you both deserve a miracle.

We are all rooting for you both.

mogloveseggs · 18/02/2021 17:43
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AdoraBell · 18/02/2021 17:51

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FossilisedFanny · 18/02/2021 18:00

I’m glad you got to be with him Wardrobes . Miracles do happen and I will hold your hope tightly for you . Xx

Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 18/02/2021 18:10
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Mummyoflittledragon · 18/02/2021 18:19

Hi wardrobes. I am sorry to read your update. You sound so pragmatic. I hope all goes well for your eldest Flowers

Thinking of you.

MegaClutterSlut · 18/02/2021 18:22
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winterphoenix · 18/02/2021 18:25
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KeziaOAP · 18/02/2021 18:28

Wardrobes still thinking of you and praying for your DH Flowers

Tana433 · 18/02/2021 18:29

I dont know how you are carrying on OP but im so glad you are. Hope all goes well for your eldest in hospital and i send you all nothing but love and good wishes whatever your futures hold.

claracluck1978 · 18/02/2021 18:31

Thanks for you Wardrobes.

mootymoo · 18/02/2021 18:34

. Thinking of you @Wardrobes123

Miracles do happen but having a plan b is very practical. Take care

Capetownmothercity · 18/02/2021 18:41

Holding thumbs (fingers crossed in uk) for all the Wardrobes big and small. Stay strong together

OverSha · 18/02/2021 18:41
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SplendidSuns1000 · 18/02/2021 18:50

We'll always be here, rooting for you all. Sending lots of love and good thoughts. Flowers x

LIZS · 18/02/2021 18:55

Still watching this thread, hoping for a good outcome. Thoughts are with you all. Thanks

Redshoeblueshoe · 18/02/2021 19:23
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tuttifuckinfruity · 18/02/2021 19:30

Thinking of you often Thanks

ChristMyArse · 18/02/2021 19:51

I'm another who checks daily on this thread.

Sending you love and hugs and rooting for Mr Wardrobes ❤️

SingingWaffleDoggy · 18/02/2021 21:12

Another lurker checking in daily. Wishing you, your children and, of course, Mr Wardrobes all the best Flowers
You sound so strong, although I’m sure you don’t feel it at times, and your children are lucky to have you

EarringsandLipstick · 18/02/2021 21:17

Wardrobes you are amazing.

Like many others I think of you, Mr Wardrobes & little Wardrobes a lot.

Your update was so hard to read, and yet so practical & powerful in so many ways.

Sending you all ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

AuntyMabelandPippin · 18/02/2021 21:29

Delurking to say I'm keeping everything crossed.

WitchDancer · 18/02/2021 22:17

Thank you for updating us - I am pleased he's hanging on in there, even if he is still very poorly. I think of you all daily and say a prayer for all your family. Thanks

CormoranStrike · 18/02/2021 22:29

FlowersFlowers for all the Wardrobes x