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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
SunshineCake · 18/02/2021 22:30

I don't know what to say other than thank you for letting us know. I truly hope for a miracle. Good luck with job hunting, your dc operation. Take care of yourself. Don't try and be strong all the time.

Egghead68 · 18/02/2021 22:33
Flowers
ohfourfoxache · 18/02/2021 22:39
Thanks

Thinking of you all x

ineedaholidaynow · 18/02/2021 22:44
Flowers
Pompom2367 · 18/02/2021 22:53

Sending love op

goingpearshaped · 18/02/2021 23:06

Another one who regularly checks and sends her love to you, DH and mini wardrobes. We are rooting for your DH with all our being. I truly hope for the miracle. I hope your DCs treatment goes well.

Lovelydovey · 18/02/2021 23:10

You’ve been in my thoughts, you sound like you are being so strong. I’m still rooting for Mr Wardrobes.

AudacityOfHope · 18/02/2021 23:17

Wardrobes ❤️ (and the Wee Wardrobes of course)

FlatteredRhubardFool · 18/02/2021 23:40

You are amazing. Come on Mr W, keep fighting so Mrs W can tell you the funny stories when you're properly awake.

gallbladderpain · 19/02/2021 00:22

I have just found your thread and I will be thinking of you, you are doing amazing and your husband is still fighting.

Will just add a story of hope.
Not covid related but a close family member ended up in ICU with sepsis, they had every complication possible with every organ possible it seemed and things were truly bleak. We had planned the funeral and also started to sort out businesses etc as they were given basically no chance of survival, they had thrown everything at it and nothing seemed to be working so were just waiting to see if a miracle would happen and even if we got that miracle the quality of life was unknown. We were sent for numerous times in those weeks and months.
They made it through, it was a long ride and not an easy one with 1 step forward, 3 steps back but they fought through it and shocked us all family and medical staff with the recovery they made in the end. They are back working again something no one ever seen coming.

I really hope your DH gets the same outcome Flowers

Hugoslavia · 19/02/2021 08:41

Really thinking of you and hoping and praying for a miracle for you and your family. You must be beyond exhausted, scared and anxious! And you've had such a bloody unfair/hard run of it with your mother and now your eldest also being hospitalised. Not to mention trying to manage a business and keep a float. The stress than financial uncertainty brings at such a critical time is horrendous too. It's a tribute to you as a wife and mother that you are remaining so strong. I am literally praying for a miracle for you. Take care. Love Hugo. X

Welshywitch · 19/02/2021 12:54

Flowers Thinking of you Wardrobes x

spiderlight · 19/02/2021 14:14

I've been checking in daily and thinking of you all.

TweezerMay · 19/02/2021 16:02

Oh Wardrobes I’m so sorry your family is going through this. You sound so strong. Keep eating when you can, resting when you can and hugging your children tight.

croon979 · 21/02/2021 18:43

Thinking of you lots Wardrobes. You are amazing x

Wardrobes123 · 21/02/2021 18:50

DH has had a better weekend. He’s had the same nurse caring for him for the last three days. She’s been working at weaning his ventilator.

He has a trachy so she’s been working on having his cuff off (I must admit I don’t really understand what this means). From what I can gather it’s still ventilation but also allowing him to breathe as well.

He’s desperately hungry but can’t eat or drink until he has a successful swallowing assessment. He’s failed two already. He is having nutrition through a nasal feeding tube so not actually starving but for a thin man his appetite is huge normally.

The staff are pleased with his progress. He now needs to get his muscles working. It’s going to take a while. And he still has DVT.

He’s also had a blood clot on his lungs which they’ve managed to operate on.

So it’s small progress!

It’s still a mountainous battle ahead of him but this is the first sight of any improvement we’ve had in the last few weeks.

DH is also confused but a lot less than he was. He’s still having some delusions - Poor thing thought he was 18 again, he was most disappointed when I pointed out he’s early 40’s! But these delusions are decreasing and he’s having less panic attacks when they do happen.

OP posts:
Wingingit15 · 21/02/2021 18:53

Wardrobes, I’m just so pleased to hear things are looking brighter. I too check in on this thread often, and I hope that the will of strangers silently cheering your family on helps you a little, though you sound a cool cookie anyway x

bobkate · 21/02/2021 18:55

Have been lurking and wishing well for you and your DH. Will continue to keep things crossed for you and delighted that he is showing signs of progress.

mineofuselessinformation · 21/02/2021 18:59

I've been lurking and am quietly shaking my pom poms for you and DH, @Wardrobes123.

picklemewalnuts · 21/02/2021 19:03

Un lurking to wave a few more pom-poms. Well done, OP. You've been such a trouper. Your coping strategies are amazing. Thanks

Tana433 · 21/02/2021 19:20

So lovely to hear your update. Yes, you have a long road ahead of you but i hope you find comfort in just how many people are thinking about you and sending prayers and good wishes.

WannaCapybara · 21/02/2021 19:23

I am very very very happy to hear there's some progress.

Come on Wardrobes' DH!

Deereamer · 21/02/2021 19:24

Thinking off you all - I have everything crossed for you x

Giraffey1 · 21/02/2021 19:29

Sending more shedloads of vibes for your H, for your children, and for you xx You sound so strong and sensible

Floralnomad · 21/02/2021 19:29

Will continue to send positive vibes @Wardrobes123 , best wishes to you all .

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