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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

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AliceBlueGown · 12/02/2021 22:55

Thinking of you x

FlatteredRhubardFool · 13/02/2021 00:31

Offering up a bedtime prayer for you all tonight and hoping MrWardrobes pulls through Thanks

StealthRoast · 13/02/2021 11:55

This thread has affected me more than any other I’ve read on here in the last 7 years. I hope and pray that there is a good outcome. Another stranger sending love.

Poorlykitten · 13/02/2021 12:36

Yes, it’s really touched my heart. Been in my thoughts every day.

Passthewinebottle · 13/02/2021 13:51

@StealthRoast Same here. Possibly because my DH is CEV & it could quite easily be me posting this. Praying no one else has to go through this xxx

SunshineCake · 13/02/2021 22:44

Still thinking of you Wardrobes and your family Flowers.

croon979 · 14/02/2021 08:21

Thinking of Mrs Wardrobes and her family. Hoping for a miracle x

Dorisdaydream2 · 14/02/2021 09:00

You and your family have been in my thoughts everyday Mrs Wardrobes FlowersFlowers

MillyMinamino · 15/02/2021 08:05

Not sure if you'll be back Wardrobes, but this is the first thread I check every day just hoping for some good news for your lovely family. So many of us are holding you in our thoughts Flowers

Cagedbirdsinging · 15/02/2021 12:02

Thinking about you everyday , Wardrobes Flowers

LindaEllen · 15/02/2021 15:04

@MillyMinamino

Not sure if you'll be back Wardrobes, but this is the first thread I check every day just hoping for some good news for your lovely family. So many of us are holding you in our thoughts Flowers
Me too! I'm hoping with all my heart that she will come back - whether in days, weeks or even months - and tell us that her husband is home, safe and well. I pray for her every day.

OP if you ever do read this again, know that you are in the thoughts of many many people.

Rowgtfc72 · 16/02/2021 03:40

First thread I check every morning. Sending you and your family good wishes and keeping you all in my thoughts.Flowers

SunshineCake · 16/02/2021 07:31

Another person thinking of your family often, Wardrobes. Such a horrible time but I hope things have got positive Flowers.

Hollywhiskey · 16/02/2021 08:05

I am still thinking of you wardrobe and hoping desperately for a happy outcome for you.

IthinkIm · 16/02/2021 20:24

I'm thinking of you all and really really hope that things are okay for Mr W x

needadvice54321 · 16/02/2021 23:33

I often think of you and Mr Wardrobe x

ShopTillYouDropp · 17/02/2021 17:36

Think of you often Wardrobes. I really pray things are okay Thanks

Heartbrokenstill · 18/02/2021 04:46

Praying for your family op Flowers

AlwaysCheddar · 18/02/2021 07:39

Thinking of you

mofro · 18/02/2021 07:47

Sending you and your family much love and praying for happy days for you all xx

Tink1990 · 18/02/2021 07:55

Another one thinking of you Flowers

Hugoslavia · 18/02/2021 09:21

Still here for you and checking in daily. X

PinkSnowAndStars · 18/02/2021 09:55

Thinking of you x

Neverspeakofthisagain · 18/02/2021 11:30

Another one checking in hoping for a miracle.

Wardrobes123 · 18/02/2021 17:20

I haven’t forgotten about this thread. But have been avoiding MN due to its increased roar of covid not being that bad (!)

Things here haven’t really changed. DH is still ventilated but now has a tracheotomy to allow him to wake up more and encourage muscle movement both in his lungs and the rest of him. He is awake more than he’s sedated now but he’s extremely confused and has difficulties separating delusions from reality (it has given us some very funny stories though! Sorry DH!).

There has been a lot of complications. Clots/access and bleeding issues being the main ones. I’m told regularly by the staff that he is still critically ill and prognosis is poor. But I have seen him once and held his hand. Which was comforting and upsetting all at the same time.

In terms of us, I’ve started to plan for family life without him. I haven’t given up hope. I love him so much and want nothing more than for him to come home. But having a plan will help me if things don’t go the way we want. I’ve planned the funeral - readings, songs, people to be there etc.

I’m also taking steps to close our business and just find other work. We both have a gruelling professional job/business which is fine when life works but a bloody nightmare when it doesn’t. So I think being employed for me will be easier for the time being.

The children are having up and down days. The eldest has a long term medical issue and will be in hospital for the next couple of weeks for some treatment. It’s the same hospital DH is in, but I can’t now risk seeing DH while the eldest is in as the eldest will be on a clean ward. The paeds team are awesome though so I know they’ll take good care of everything. So I probably (hopefully) won’t be back for a while.

If DH performs any miracles I promise I’ll update, but that’s highly unlikely.

Thanks for all the messages. I don’t check often but it’s very sweet and comforting to have so many people rooting for DH ❤️

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