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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
spiderlight · 26/01/2021 17:20

Very happy to read this. I think of you and your DH many times a day and send you a little hand-squeeze. I hope this progress continues and that you manage to get some sleep. This must be so hard on your girls too. Glad your mum is still there and taking such good care of you all Flowers

PomegranatePip · 26/01/2021 17:23

Keep going and take good care of yourself whenever possible - you are doing amazingly. Sending strength to Mr Wardrobes Thanks

Crocky · 26/01/2021 17:25

Brilliant news.
There is nothing to say there should be only one duvet on a bed. Littlest could add hers to your bed and you would both be warm 🙂

Purplethrow · 26/01/2021 17:26

Hi Wardrobe, thank you for taking the time to update us . Mr Wardrobe is obviously made of strong stuff and I’m so pleased he continues to fight.
Sending you and your children lots of love xxxx

AdoraBell · 26/01/2021 17:32

So pleased to see your positive update. Still keeping everything crossed for you and MrWardrobe.

Glad your DM is doing such a fantastic job supporting you.

H1978 · 26/01/2021 17:36

That’s brilliant news, your dh is an absolute trooper. I love how positive you are despite what you’re going through.

How amazing are mums!!!! 🥰

Hoping for some more good news 🤞🏼

Purplethrow · 26/01/2021 17:36

With regard to the friends that keep pestering for updates , we are dealing with similar- family member is in hospital with a life changing brain injury and will probably have to spend the rest of their life in a care home.
I was updating everyone until one friend texted ‘I need an update!!’ It was the exclamation marks that tipped me over the edge and I called them and said quite bluntly that I would update when and if I felt like it, and to stop bombarding us with their demands . Don’t be worried about doing similar Op , real friends will understand.

Dailyhandtowelwash · 26/01/2021 17:39

It's really wonderful to see a positive update. Everything crossed here that he continues to move in that direction. I endorse the multi-duvet approach to sharing with children by the way.

Sprig1 · 26/01/2021 17:41

I just wanted to say that you sound so strong and your husband does too. How brilliant that he is doing so well. Hopefully this is a sign of things to come and he has turned a corner.

Sexnotgender · 26/01/2021 17:48

That’s excellent news, hopefully he continues to improve Flowers

Stinkyjellycat · 26/01/2021 17:59

Lovely to hear a positive update. Like many others, I’m keeping you in my thoughts. I haven’t been through anything like this so can’t really offer any practical suggestions other than remember to keep looking after yourself - eat, drink, rest and repeat. Flowers

Stinkyjellycat · 26/01/2021 18:00

Oh, and we’ll done to Wardrobes’ Mum. You sound great! 👍🏼👏🏼

Stinkyjellycat · 26/01/2021 18:01

Argh *well done

Lucieintheskye · 26/01/2021 18:02

Wonderful news, I hope Mr Wardrobes continues to fight like a trooper and improve.

Your Mum sounds like she's doing a fantastic job, how lovely it is that she's there to support you all.

I hope your DC - especially your youngest- are coping okay. Just think how much closer this has brought you all and how much lovelier family time will be when you're all together again.

Sending my best wishes to you all Flowers xx

Cagedbirdsinging · 26/01/2021 18:05

Love to you Wardrobes , Grandma Wardrobes and both Wardrobe Drawers .
I'm going to light a candle at ten o'clock tonight and focus my mind on Mr Wardrobes' full recovery x

ReallySpicyCurry2 · 26/01/2021 18:06

Wonderful news. Keeping everything crossed that things keep improving Flowers

Halfagonyhalfhope · 26/01/2021 18:06

Delighted MrWardrobes is doing better. Wardrobes take care of yourself. Rooting for you.

YukoandHiro · 26/01/2021 18:08

So glad to hear a positive update xx

Skipsurvey · 26/01/2021 18:11

Thank you so much for updating.
Flowers

Floralnomad · 26/01/2021 18:26

Delighted to hear things may be looking more positive @Wardrobes123 , I hope he continues to improve 💐

Crampon · 26/01/2021 18:45

Yay, lovely update. Sounds like you need two duvets on that bed!

JustFoldInTheCheese · 26/01/2021 19:00

Rooting for you - glad to hear that Mr Wardrobes is fighting hard xx

Bettydot · 26/01/2021 19:12

I’m so pleased to hear he’s making progress. I’m keeping everything crossed he continues to do so. Sending you all lots of love xxx

ChablisandCrisps · 26/01/2021 19:17

I've nothing to say really that hasn't already been said but do make sure you look after yourself and try to eat and sleep where you can. Thinking of you all Flowers

2018SoFarSoGreat · 26/01/2021 19:18

great update, I'm so pleased to read some better news.

Your whole wall of WARDROBES are to be congratulated, from little to large. Still keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

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