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Ah Christ I’ve only went and got myself a “bad boy”

116 replies

housewifeoflittleitaly · 31/05/2019 00:04

Not sure where to start.

Husband left in February without so much as a goodbye, I was devastated until two weeks later he returned and I decided I hated him for what he had done. No turning back like he wanted & i packed the rest of his stuff and chucked him out.

Ff to 3 weeks ago & a new HOD started, instantly my type looks wise but not so much personality wise. He’s a big character, cheeky chap all the girls thinks he’s cute and funny. Turns out he’s set his sights on me.... me ffs.

I’ve never so much as looked another mans direction and all this flirting and now txting is making me feel all sorted of emotions. Guilty being the most prevalent as technically I am still married, surely I shouldn’t be flirting?

Anyway he’s only gone & asked me out & now I can feel the spark every time I think about it. I don’t know what to do he’s literally drawing me in like a moth to a flame.

Should I nip this in the bud now or roll with it despite the above?

OP posts:
Lemonsqueasy · 31/05/2019 06:42

Sounds complicated with you working at the same place.. might be the kind of guy that seems a lot less cool in six months time. Keep it imaginary and you won't find yourself regretting anything.

LadyOfTheCanyon · 31/05/2019 06:45

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Ah Christ I’ve only went and got myself a “bad boy”
TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 31/05/2019 06:55

He’s an MMA fighter, tattoos everywhere, snorts lines most days, divorced twice, assault charges

Awwww, and they say romance is dead. Well, I can see why you'd fancy him - what's not to love? The excellent track record with women? The risk of getting beaten up? The drugs that are absolutely not going to make him boring as hell? The fact that the fighting and tattoos make him sound like a walking stereotype?

Um, what departments are you both heads of again?

RitaTheBeater · 31/05/2019 07:04

It’s a plan with any flaws. Shagging a coke addict who beats people up and who works at the same place as you do.

DameSquashalot · 31/05/2019 07:13

Sounds like a keeper. Go for it!

oldmum22 · 31/05/2019 08:09

You are so lucky that he has set his sights on you .

I wonder why ?????

00100001 · 31/05/2019 08:14

He openly admits to being a coke addict after only being employed in a school for three weeks?

He also openly tells you (and others?) That he has assault charges?

NameChangeNugget · 31/05/2019 08:17

When do you go back to school OP?

1/10 Utter bullshit Biscuit

SouthernComforts · 31/05/2019 08:20

If you believe this thread, turn your wifi off. Forever.

CharityDingle · 31/05/2019 08:24

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Beach11 · 31/05/2019 08:30

How the hell did he pass the DBS checks for teaching if he has previous for assault?

I’d be staying well clear of him and wouldn’t won’t to be associated to him

BlandAndBoring · 31/05/2019 08:34

D-
Feedback:
Do some research around the Criminal record process/rules surrounding employing school staff OP. Then you might make your works of fiction more believable. I mean I'm not sure "cock spits rainbows" is quite what a Mills & Boon novel is after but you might be able to modernise them (or is that before your time?). Research is key! Didn't they teach you that at school Wink

BlandAndBoring · 31/05/2019 08:35

Oh I forgot a next step:

Get off mumsnet and do your homework in order to achieve your goals Grin

piekebab · 31/05/2019 08:35

Op never said teaching, just HOD

overnightangel · 31/05/2019 08:39

“He is, nope it’s all from him. He’s an MMA fighter, tattoos everywhere, snorts lines most days, divorced twice, assault charges”

Never happened, move along, nothing to see here Biscuit

Singlenotsingle · 31/05/2019 08:40

Newly separated woman? Instant target, obviously grateful for anything you can get! Even this!?

Etino · 31/05/2019 08:42

Oh my!
I too was thinking HoD was teaching.

RedPink · 31/05/2019 08:47

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0ccamsRazor · 31/05/2019 08:49

snorts lines most days so you would be happy to support by proxy the misery, violence, exploitation and abuse that is the cocaine trade, production and distribution?

Great, you sound really switched on op Hmm

ElderMillenial · 31/05/2019 08:50

What is a hod? If be tempted to be a bad girl and have a bit of fun. What's the worst than can happen? Just don't tell anyone at work or parade it.

AuntieStella · 31/05/2019 08:51

Any Head of Dept is likely to be someone in your management or reporting g chain

AVOID

Go and have fun with someone who cannot kill your career (either directly or because everyone will assume casting-couch tyoe neptosm

Nameusernameuser · 31/05/2019 08:53

Takes drugs and has assault charges? Sorry? Who the fuck hired him?!

AnguaResurgam · 31/05/2019 08:54

'What's the worst than can happen?'

The inherent professional suicide. People will notice and gossip.

If Op,wants to change workplace, or even change career/role completely and an do so fairly swiftly, then it's a manageable risk.

But shitting on your own doorstep is pretty silly.

Enjoy the ego boost, OP, but act on a better prospect than this one.

MissMary0fSweden · 31/05/2019 08:54

Cringe.

TickleMyFanny · 31/05/2019 08:57

Lol