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AMA I do online kink/domination work

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 16:39

I was posting on another thread and got suggestions to do an AMA from other posters, so I obliged!
Basic info .. I started roughly 6 years ago selling worn items, tights, knickers etc, and now primarily for the past few years I do online domination, mainly financial domination, orgasm control/denial with chastity etc, however still sell items but my main area is now online dom.

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alittleadvicepls · 30/06/2023 19:10

What on earth is financial domination? Like ‘no you can’t use your card today’ sort stuff?

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 19:13

OhComeOnFFS · 30/06/2023 18:26

I remember in the old chatroom days I was talking to a guy who was into women dominating him financially. He said he wanted a woman to come to his house, pick up his credit cards and just ignore him completely, while buying herself things online. She would then leave without a word. I asked how much he'd go up to and he said £250 - this was about 20 years ago. I asked what he'd do if she spent a lot more, eg £1000 and he got really grumpy and said "No, that's just taking the piss." Smile

😆 If he's still into that then im sure hes having his dreams fulfilled! Plenty of dommes who do the ignore fetish around whilst making the guy pay. I had no idea before i started this than being ignored was a turn on.

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 19:18

7catsisnotenough · 30/06/2023 18:31

Hiya @Cassie242 !

Thanks for doing this 😊

I'm surprised that you got into the Findomme side of things without being involved in the scene previously. Did you find it difficult to transition from just selling to actually being a Domme?

You're more than welcome 😊

It took me a while to be honest, i did a lot of research of other women doing dominaton, watched a few vids on YouTube, read up a bit on the psychology side too, just trying to learn as much as i could. Like I say I'm naturally quite dominant, so I feel like I dont have to 'act' as such, plus bossing around men ive found is a great stress reliever 😆 esp getting paid to do it 😄

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 19:24

feralunderclass · 30/06/2023 18:34

My friend has a number of newish pairs of pants that have been stained with period blood around the crotch area. Would there be a market for these? If so could you please pm me the sites and I'll pass it on to her 😁

I've sold the contents of my bathroom bin so it seems there's no end to the silly things men will pay silly money for.

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Chocolateship · 30/06/2023 19:27

Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 18:04

Negatively? Only recently with a new boyfriend who it turns out is uncomfortable with how much I earn compared to his wage packet, its an ego thing, and clearly its not going to work.
Positively its given me the opportunity to work from home and do what I want to do.

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I find this conclusion interesting, do you think he ended it because he was insecure about money or because you're selling used underwear to desperate, lonely and quite disgusting men?

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 19:28

ReadtheReviews · 30/06/2023 18:38

Does it put you right off men in general?

Clearly not enough as i got into a relationship recently with a bit of a dick!
I wouldn't say its put me off men in general no, but its certainly been enlightening in some ways.

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 19:33

mumofboys8787 · 30/06/2023 19:00

Do you have a partner? If so, are they happy for you to do it?

My current partner was fine with it, up until he found out my earnings, then it got petty and awkward that I was out earning him, hence why its not working.

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 19:38

RoseslnTheHospital · 30/06/2023 19:02

Another question if that's ok. Do you ever worry about whether the men who get off on giving you their money are actually financially able to? Like with gambling, is there any way you could tell it's getting problematic or damaging for them/their family?

That's ok! So for my long term subs we go through budget and earnings, with proof, of what they can afford. I've no interest in making someone bankrupt. It has to be safe. The guys who aren't serving but just buy content or send anonymous gifts I don't have any details, some of them want to stay anonymous and dabble, others want a more personal experience, which I prefer because I can find out their situation and boundaries.

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WithMyDamnHighHopes · 30/06/2023 19:43

Fucking hell, some men are grim. Does it not bother you that you’re providing a service to such sick bastards....the contents of your bathroom bin. Some of these men are known to wear your dirty sanpro items.

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 19:44

feralunderclass · 30/06/2023 19:07

Is the desire Re used knickers about them being dirty/having a smell etc? I remember a previous AMA who did this said she used to rub egg white onto new knickers then pop them in the post.

It depends on the buyer and what theyre after! Personally i wouldn't be rubbing eggs into knickers, far easier to wear them and post them without faffing around, and ideally you want return customers so no i wouldn't be messing around with that personally

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 19:49

alittleadvicepls · 30/06/2023 19:10

What on earth is financial domination? Like ‘no you can’t use your card today’ sort stuff?

In my experience it tends to be men in high paid jobs, usually single and with disposable income, who get off on a woman spending their money, giving him a budget etc .. some like to be belittled at the same time, others just get off on sending or buying gifts, it depends really oj the individual guy

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 19:56

Chocolateship · 30/06/2023 19:27

I find this conclusion interesting, do you think he ended it because he was insecure about money or because you're selling used underwear to desperate, lonely and quite disgusting men?

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It was definitely the revelation about earnings, he suddenly turned into a sulky child and I saw a whole new side to him. Before that discussion he wasn't like that, it was very bizarre. He also hates his job but wont do anything pro active to change it, so probably a lot of bitterness there also. In his own words I was making money doing 'nothing' whilst he had to work so and so many hours to earn that. Oh well!

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St0nehenge · 30/06/2023 19:58

Holy God Miley

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Cassie242 · 30/06/2023 20:03

WithMyDamnHighHopes · 30/06/2023 19:43

Fucking hell, some men are grim. Does it not bother you that you’re providing a service to such sick bastards....the contents of your bathroom bin. Some of these men are known to wear your dirty sanpro items.

Maybe its just how I'm wired, but if im being honest at times I find it bizarre I suppose.. ridiculous.. funny at times. In the early days if there was someone who was just plain weird or creepy I would just block them. I don't do anything that makes me feel uncomfortable, or engage with anyone who I get bad vibes from.

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electricpeach · 30/06/2023 20:06

My question is how much do you make say weekly/monthly just from the selling used items please?

I actually used to be a full service sex worker, I quit in 2015, but then a couple of years later I toyed with doing camming, I even made profiles, but what put me off was the same being judged on my looks that I didn't like when I did full service work. I'm not naturally dominant at all, so couldn't do that.

I guess the only sex work that I'd be comfortable with now is phone chat and selling items, that's why I am wondering how much can be made with it. I love the idea of working from home, for health reasons, but I am not qualified for most wfh jobs!

iwantchinese · 30/06/2023 20:09

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Acorncat1 · 30/06/2023 20:23

St0nehenge · 30/06/2023 19:58

Holy God Miley

Hahaha!!

WithMyDamnHighHopes · 30/06/2023 20:29

Maybe its just how I'm wired, but if im being honest at times I find it bizarre I suppose.. ridiculous.. funny at times. In the early days if there was someone who was just plain weird or creepy I would just block them. I don't do anything that makes me feel uncomfortable, or engage with anyone who I get bad vibes from.

I think you’re a bit naive. You are likely in contact with some very, very dangerous, sick and abusive men.

speluncean · 30/06/2023 20:54

You must be one of the highest earners in the online domme game if you're making £8k a month before tax. And all that without showing your face. It's really eye opening.

Usernamen · 30/06/2023 21:08

speluncean · 30/06/2023 20:54

You must be one of the highest earners in the online domme game if you're making £8k a month before tax. And all that without showing your face. It's really eye opening.

Nowhere did OP say £8k a month. She said around £5k.

speluncean · 30/06/2023 21:19

8k before tax is 5k after? Or thereabouts.

speluncean · 30/06/2023 21:20

The op says she "makes" 5k a month - that's take home after tax?

MykonosMaiden · 30/06/2023 21:23

Don't get naked, free credit card, wow!
Why don't more people do this if it's that easy?
I want in too now. Seems like there isn't much risk?

Daffodilwoman · 30/06/2023 21:34

When you are given someone’s money to spend, what things do you buy? I’m assuming it’s goods you can get a refund for. Or was it clothes etc.

F0XCUB88 · 30/06/2023 21:40

It's not real