AMA I do online kink/domination work

[Cassie242]

I was posting on another thread and got suggestions to do an AMA from other posters, so I obliged!
Basic info .. I started roughly 6 years ago selling worn items, tights, knickers etc, and now primarily for the past few years I do online domination, mainly financial domination, orgasm control/denial with chastity etc, however still sell items but my main area is now online dom.

I never show my full face and never meet anyone in real life, its all strictly online and I've no plans to change that.

Hey! 😊

I wasn't in the scene before this no, more like stumbled into it, although I'm naturally quite dominant so that side of things came naturally to me. A friend mentioned selling knickers and I was intrigued, and the rest is history.

Basically I saw other sellers advertising domination services on the selling sites, did some research and started advertising that side of things and found it more lucrative than solely concentrating on the worn items. I had a day job also the first few years, then later was making enough to quit that and work for myself.

Negatively? Only recently with a new boyfriend who it turns out is uncomfortable with how much I earn compared to his wage packet, its an ego thing, and clearly its not going to work.
Positively its given me the opportunity to work from home and do what I want to do.

Typically worn knickers would be 30-40 quid a pair, tights 20 quid, that was when I was starting out so I'd buy packs of Primark knickers or thongs to make a profit.
In terms of harder stuff, I dont do anything explicit, don't get naked, the domination I do is more findom and depending on the sub tailored to them ie orgasm denial, verbal humiliation etc.

No issues really, I would say typical middle class upbringing really. They're quite conservative and traditional but haven't got anything negative to say about either of them really!

Sorry : you don't actually get naked or do videos?? So it's all just text?

So you’re making around about 8 grand a month selling dirty knickers and doing financial domination where you don’t have to show your face?

Strangest request hmm.. too many 😆
I've had a guy ask for a sandwich that I've stamped on to send him and tell him to eat it. Small penis humiliation was strange at first, now I find it quite popular. Another bought the contents of my bathroom bin. Cum eating instructions. There's honestly too many to list!

I don't discuss it with family no, although all my close friends know what I do, and seem to vicariously interested and amused in equal measure 😆

I'm really interested in this.

Could a plus size lady make a do?

Would you mind private messaging me the website? I've googled it and it's like a minefield.

Thank you for starting the AMA regardless, it's really interesting!

I remember in the old chatroom days I was talking to a guy who was into women dominating him financially. He said he wanted a woman to come to his house, pick up his credit cards and just ignore him completely, while buying herself things online. She would then leave without a word. I asked how much he'd go up to and he said £250 - this was about 20 years ago. I asked what he'd do if she spent a lot more, eg £1000 and he got really grumpy and said "No, that's just taking the piss."

Hiya @Cassie242 !

Thanks for doing this 😊

I'm surprised that you got into the Findomme side of things without being involved in the scene previously. Did you find it difficult to transition from just selling to actually being a Domme?

My friend has a number of newish pairs of pants that have been stained with period blood around the crotch area. Would there be a market for these? If so could you please pm me the sites and I'll pass it on to her 😁

You'd be surprised! I suppose for me it's about making money doing something I enjoy. It's really that simple.

If a submissive wants me serve me there are strict rules to follow, financial penalties, expectations to spoil and not be needy in return, and pushing their boundaries.

Does it put you right off men in general?

Yes! So basically I'd sell Primark or other budget knickers, to ensure I was making a profit and it was worth doing, and the way I explain it is rather than throwing them in the laundry at the end of the day I'd stick them in an envelope 😆 that side of things is dead easy.

The other stuff like orgasm denial etc I only do with the submissives, not the regular knicker buyers. In terms of being bored, I can't say I find myself getting bored, I think its more my personality and the fact I enjoy making them squirm 😄 thats my sadistic itch to scratch possibly.

No i dont show my full face and so dont tend to worry about being recognised.

Most of the time with the submissives they learn (or already know) that whatever attention they get, to be grateful for. Pushy subs never work and I dont waste time on them. I dont do anything explicit or nude, I have a very strict set of rules which are made clear from the start.

I do tend to text a lot ie online chat apps, phone calls occasionally. If I do photos or videos it will be feet content, cleavage, so more teasing content than fully naked.

More like 5k but that's mainly due to the financial domination side of it, with the guys who's kink is to be rinsed financially, I'm not making 5k selling knickers.

I'd like to know this too!

Do you have a partner? If so, are they happy for you to do it?

Another question if that's ok. Do you ever worry about whether the men who get off on giving you their money are actually financially able to? Like with gambling, is there any way you could tell it's getting problematic or damaging for them/their family?

Thank the poster who asked me to do a ASA 😆 I was a little apprehensive but happy to know its of interest 😊

So on these sites you'll tend to find all shapes and sizes, I'm a size 14, some are smaller, some are bigger. Some are in their 20s, some in their 50s, if that helps. I'm quite busty which im sure is part of the appeal.

£30-£40 for used knickers? Wow.

Is the desire Re used knickers about them being dirty/having a smell etc? I remember a previous AMA who did this said she used to rub egg white onto new knickers then pop them in the post.