I'm a professional dominatrix ama

[thepassenger99]

Hi I'm a professional dominatrix and someone suggested on another thread that I should make a ama as it was interesting! Feel free to ask anything.

Thank you. My view tallies completely with yours. As you aren't directly stimulating someone's genitals to prompt an orgasm, you aren't selling sex and therefore it can't be prostitution. You will never need an STI check or worry about pregnancy from it. The Dommes I know work in the same way as you, but I wondered if perhaps they weren't representative in their views.

@LittleSweet hi!

1. No I couldn't do that personally just preference.

2.yes CBT is a big fetish and so is ball busting very common indeed!

3.no not personally although that's a great idea haha

4.never when blood is drawn it means you've gone too far it's not happened to me yet

5.no never the key is balance to make sure you don't damage someone with the heel (plus I prefer chunky wide base heels ;))

1. Occasionally but more of a "oh yes mistress" type thing never "wtf you doing ya absolute loony get off me" lol

@RuffleCrow hello! I take many measures to secure my safety and most of the clients are tied down for sessions so not much use fighting back ;)

But yes I would be partially at risk of course but it's a risk I take for a job I love I always make sure I have the clients ID's and multiple people in my contacts also have pictures of the ID and they're on alert through my sessions with my location messaging me at different intervals if I don't reply within 5 minutes the emergency services are called. This has never happened yet there are red flags to look out for normally regarding someone dodgy

never when blood is drawn it means you've gone too far it's not happened to me yet

Some people want that though which was the reason for my question. For some subs it is exactly not going too far- it's want they want.

@SirChing all dommes have a different way of doing things some do have sex with clients some don't it all depends on who you're talking too lol

@TellItLikeItReallyIs I know I personally don't cover it as I'm not in a position where I'm medically trained to make sure they're 100% okay after. It takes someone being very careful and very particular not to cause permanent damage or risk to the sub from a scar to infections and so on

@thepassenger99 Ah right. Would you recommend it. I have done it informally and it's such a responsibility and a rush. What made you do it professionally?

Do you ever question what you do? Does it have any detrimental effect on your mental health? Are you not worried that you’ll regret it? You go girl btw, if it’s what you want to do, then you should be proud your doing it.

@Flufferbum thank you! And no no effect on my mental health at all! Infact quite the opposite the industry is incredibly competitive so I'm flattered I get as many clients as I do! It must mean I'm good! I think by the time I'm old and grey or even in my 40's and doing something else who cares? Who cares if I regret it? I have a really fun happy life right now and I'm really great full for the standard of living and the experience this job has allowed me

@SirChing I think if it's somthing you want to do then I would look into it more because of course there are pros and cons and it's expensive to set up at times and the hours are long it all depends if it's worth it for you

Do you see female customers as well? If so, do you find there are differences in the sessions (obviously talking generally as I'm sure each client is different in their own way)

Thanks @thepassenger99

What would you say is the most popular fantasy that your clients want to act out?

What are your clients like? Is there a type? Do you have any women? Do you think most of your clients are in relationships? Have you ever had to end a session due to worries about your safety?

@DamnItsSevenAM
Iv had very few female subs but they were all wonderful and super open about trying new things!

@dkl55 they're literally anyone and everyone there's no type no weird old dude they're mostly just normal people who happen to be super into fetishes lol

Are any of them ever a bit ‘off’ with you afterwards like once they’ve got what they came for they can’t get out of there quick enough? And doesn’t that make you feel a bit shit?

@BemidjiMinnesota I'd say foot fetish and humiliation

@Sharkyfan no lol never they're always polite and say thank you and they have an extra 15 mins after each session for aftercare and to make sure they're mentally and physically ready for the rest of their day!

madcatladyforever I find it interesting and it was me who asked passenger99 to do a thread. Why seek out a thread to post on that you're not interested in? A tedious post at that, yours and RuffleCrow's. You've inspired my first question though...

passenger99,
Do you find that as many women as men feel threatened by the job that you do?

Also - you mention a regular client base. Do you find it difficult not to start caring for them as 'friends' for want of a better term?

Thanks for posting your thread.

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe hello!

I find women more so feel threatened as they think I'm trying to steal their husbands or corrupt the male mind but it's not that at all I am approached by my clients not the other way around. I don't know if they have partners or not 99% of the time cause they don't say and it's not my business.

I do have friendships with subs outside of play because I think it's important to build trust in the environment I work in and it's important for subs to know that outside of play and fantasy we are equals and that fantasy is just that

Would you consider taking on an apprentice?

@SkaLaLand I don't think it's actually legal to work with more than 1 sex worker in a premises at the moment due to sex worker laws being all over the place and mainly focused on prostitution

Thank you, it sounds as if you have the balance right and the experience to know what's what.

I have to ask...HOW did you ever get into this? Enquiring minds want to know...

You mention that it's a competitive industry; do you have friends/allies who are doing the same work?

Well, who knew 😂 www.londondominatrixschool.co.uk/