I'm a professional dominatrix ama

[thepassenger99]

Hi I'm a professional dominatrix and someone suggested on another thread that I should make a ama as it was interesting! Feel free to ask anything.

Do you think Philip Schofield is brave?

What does being a professional dominatrix mean? E g what do you do and what are the boundaries
Where do you do it?
How did you start your business?

How much money do you make and do you write Dominatrix on your tax return? Do whips and handcuffs count as expenses? Do you have your own dungeon? What do you do if a client decides he is S rather than M?
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@Mustrryharder

Hi! So I get paid for my dominatrix services which is what is class as professional but some people may not.

My boundaries are no sex and no nudity and obviously anything illegal is off the table.

I work online but hire out available venues so travel around the U.K. occasionally.

I set up the business on twitter funnily enough,got a following then set up a website and it's been uphill from there really.

Is there anything you've been asked to do that you have refused point blank?

@MoaningMinniee yes scat and piss play are big no no's for me totally gross lol

If you don't do sex or nudity what do you do. Just shout and whip men a bit?

Totally no idea about this but I thought people enjoyed being dominated because they get a sexual kick out of it, so how come there’s no sex/nudity involved? I obviously have no idea why someone would enjoy being dominated!

It's not interesting OP, my ex was into all that, it is extremely tedious.

@YouCanNeverHaveEnoughGIitter
Hello!
I do write it on my tax return after seeking advice cause I had no idea what to put lol

I made £60000 in December and then took June off too early to tell what Iv get for February as total as it fluctuates

Whips etc are put down on my business expenses yes!
I do not have my own dungeon I hire venues around the U.K. for if and when I need them.

A lot of clients like to do sessions over Skype as it lets them keep a level of annon.

@madcatladyforever not sure there's anything tedious about exploring your sexuality in a healthy manner but it's totally cool for you to feel that way! Have a nice day :)

@ButterflyBitch the subs have their own reasons for wanting to be there some sexual some just want a loss of control. They satisfy their own sexual needs I am there to play out the fantasy they had in their head be it whipping them or making them wear Chasity cages it all depends on the specific client haha,I obviously partake in the art of tease and so wear lingerie and wet look/leather outfits

So they have a wank while you shout at them?

@kenandbarbie hi!
There's more to it than that but it is certainly part of it! People have a fantasy in their head and want to explore that but as their domme they know they don't have a right to expect me to touch them or want to touch them in any sexual way.

I'd xposted with your first reply. A friend of mine is engaged to a lady who works in your profession, I'll ask you what I asked her, how difficult do you find it to separate business from private life? I know her reply was that since she doesn't get a thrill from what she does at work and what she and her husband-to-be do at home in their bedroom is pretty normal, she regards herself as something of a cross between an actress and a therapist. How about you?

@kenandbarbie I'd say that's more humiliation fetish than anything some subs choose to relive themselves there with permission and some don't

@MoaningMinniee
I'd say In my private life I'm definitely more of a switch in the bedroom but in my work life I'm 100% domme and know exactly what needs to happen. It used to be harder separating when it started taking off because I felt very powerful but Iv since stopped having that outlook and now feel equal to everyone.

Me and my subs are even equal outside of play of course during play I am their higher up

So if no sex what does happen? Totally clueless. For instance, what was your last few appointments like?

What made you think of this in the first place?

Sometimes I think I must live a very sheltered life

How do men who are usually doms , but switch cope when being dominated?

Isn't it sort of depressing, humiliating photocopier salesmen with mummy issues?

You earned £60,000 in one month?

Do you draw blood as part of (eg) beating? And if so are you worried about being prosecuted or getting caught criminally? (because wounding is unlawful even caused consensually)

I'm in the wrong job. How much do they pay per session and are you kinky or is this just a business venture

Do your family know what you do?