I am a swinger. Ask me anything

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So, getting on the bandwagon here. I am a swinger along with DH of course. For about 7 years now. Ask away!

Has the rope ever broke?

Aren't you knackered? 7 years sounds exhausting.

Have you ever swung over the bar?

I don't do it all the time. We dip in and out of the scene as it suits us.

I have never used a rope.

Did you get it in Smyths, B&Q, Argos, or another retailer?

Do you have pampas grass out the front?

Do you ever argue about who’s turn it is to sit and who has to push?

You swing in special clubs or with friends?

Do you ever feel dizzy if you go too high?

When you go to parties , do you always find someone attractive ?

Love these comments 😂
But I am interested to know how you find other swingers? Do you have to travel etc.... Tell us the logistics please....

Do you throw keys In a bowl and hope for the best I.e you get a good looking bloke?

Does it damage the grass or do you have that AstroTurf stuff?

How often do you do it?

I don't have pampas grass. I've never met another swinger that does.

I don't get dizzy, I've never gone over the bar.

No specific retailer is involved.

When I'm at the park I usually have to push because DC are too small to push me.

I have been to clubs, let people online and played with friends too

I went to a BDSM night at a swingers club once, as one of those things to do before you die
Had a great time, everyone very respectful

Do you sometimes just sit and talk or do you have to dtd

How did you first get into the scene?

Do you have a preference of what type of man/woman you go for with your partner ??

Have you ever had an orgy?

If so isn’t it awfully awkward? Bad enough with one person sometimes.... I always imagine orgies to consist of, rather than moans and groans, lots of “Ouch! Sorry - could you just move your elbow to the left a bit only it’s digging into my knee” and “Owowow you’re kneeling on my hair”

Do your friends know?

What if your DH wants to go with a woman but you think the man is ugly? Do you both need to agree on the couple or do you sometimes just have a 1 woman or man?

Do you ever go with a woman and your DH with a man?

how many people have been involved in scenes you've been in? Have you seen any jealousy issues amongst people involved? Was it you or your H's idea? Any concerns re STDs?

I don't have to find people attractive as such. Nor does DH. It's more the naughtiness of the situation than finding someone attractive.

We might go to clubs or have a free night and post an advert online and pick someone to join us. Or it can be completely spontaneous with friends or strangers.

I have a lawn no AstroTurf. The heat is killing it off.

Sometimes we don't do it for months, sometimes we can't get enough of it.

I never do anything I don't want to, sometimes we do just chat and nothing more.

One night in bed with DH we just got chatting and talked about giving it a go. We did and have never looked back since.

No major preferences, I like people who are similar in age, and that we can have a good conversation with. We like it to be fun and not too serious so if people are getting too heavy that's a no for us.

Sometimes it is awkward! Like any sex you might have. I've never had any major injuries.

Never had an orgy - that would be too much to concentrate on.

My best friend knows, if DH likes the woman then that's a turn on but as a rule if playing as a couple we generally all have to get on and be ok with it.

We have played MMF and FFM but we never play away from each other, always in the same room

Did you proposition your friends? Has that made the relationships with them weird since? Do you think your non-swinger friends worry that you'll proposition them?