Employee on onlyfans

I’d wonder how my colleague knew that the employee was on OnlyFans. I’d probably be alert to the behaviour of that colleague who told me, particularly in areas of his (?) work which might be in areas of interactions with women when they are vulnerable.

He shouldn't do anything. It's none of his business and nothing to do with her job.

he needs to forward this to hr.

he could be in trouble if he doesn't.

might want to read up on social media policy and second job policies in the mean time.

‘My husband is looking at other women on onlyfans.’

Changed the title OP as there’s no way this actually happened the way you described.

Or if it did;

‘My husband is telling me information about his job that is actually very personal and he shouldn’t.’

Either way you both come across like twits

Give her a pay rise so she doesn’t have to sell herself on onlyfans?

It isn't any of your busiiness your husband does with his subordinates.

Mind his own business? How did he even find out? If it’s not effecting her work, who cares.

times are tough. If I had a nice body I’d do it 🫣😂

Perfectly put 👏

Think you are getting quite an unfair pasting by people who seem to have an odd stake in this conversation.

It appears I am outside the norm, but I would most definitely care if my child’s teacher was working in porn. It shows moral and character failures that I wouldn’t want near my children (everyone gets short of money sometimes, the majority of us wouldn’t touch sex work with a barge pole.) I believe the NHS has similar social media policies, so your husband will probably report it to HR, though he should already know that op.

The sheer amount of bitterness and sticking the boot into another woman on this thread has all been one way, and aimed at the op.

Countless iterations of ‘oh does your husband wank to her, are you jealous op?’ ‘Is he shagging her?’.

I wouldn’t worry op, she clearly isn’t that shit hot or sexy…or she wouldn’t be having to work as well.

(Watch that dig at a woman get blown up at while all the other sexist ‘prude’ remarks to the op go unnoticed)

You did.

And...?

What is interesting is that many jobs have policies and codes of conduct that she may be in breach of. So it does depend on the job.

I work in a profession where being on zonkyfans could be deemed a breach of our professional standards so you can’t always ‘mind your own business’

Me neither. I wouldn't care if it was my doctor, child's teacher, solicitor, whatever. If it didn't get in the way of them doing their job why would it bother me? If she's not identifying her place of work then it's not a big deal. Different if she were doing something criminal. If newspapers outed people for being on OnlyFans there wouldn't be any space for any other stories.

On the off chance this is genuine and actually happened like your husband said, he should tell the person that told him not to share this any wider, check the social media policy plus policy on the nature of a second job then forward to HR.

He also needs to refamiliarise himself with the confidentiality policy, because unless you are senior to him in the same department or actually HR of the organisation, he shouldn't be discussing this with you at all.

Unless her contract states she has to inform her employer if she has another job then nothing.

It’s a bit disturbing to see how many people claim they would overlook breach of their workplaces policies on the basis that ‘it’s none of their business’.

No wonder so much abuse and shit employees slip through the cracks.

And he should tell the person who told him to keep it confidential

Do you think NHS admin falls into this category?

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Exactly right.

OP, sadly you’ve not enabled voting, but we all know what the outcome would be.

If your husband is a manager then he should definitely know not to be discussing this with you…unless of course he needed an excuse to give you in advance as to why he’d been looking at her onlyfans account?

I hope you think this applies to the staff who may be paying to view Only Fans and found her account.

A stoning a compulsory burka should sort that madam out!

alternatively he could mind his own business as she’s done nothing wrong……unless her Only Fans profile says “admin person at x hospital “. Which is unlikely .

btw I very much doubt a colleague told your husband, think it’s far more likely he’s stumbled across her himself while browsing OnlyFans.

Im so sick of the double standards here. It’s ok for the men to browse OnlyFans, but they’re up in arms that someone has created content for their pleasure! Can they not see the disconnect here?

why has he involved you?

How low are some peoples standards that they wouldn't care if their child's teacher was on only fans, bloody hell.

OP I'd say he should speak to HR in confidence, they've probably got some generic guidance on situations like this- if people are discussing it behind her back there's a duty of care there also.

@Oceniam i think you’re getting a very unfair time on here. The scenario is not identifiable and it’s not such a sensitive workplace issue that I’d say a husband couldn’t ask his wife for her opinion or help.

he should definitely speak to HR who will advise based on the employer’s policies and the content of what she’s posting (for example is it linked to her employment in any way). He doesn’t want to start following her to see what she’s posting without making it official!

it’s likely that no action will need to be taken but he should take advice. They are likely to have dealt with similar before.

3 thought that somewhat go against the grain.

Why is this seen as confidential? Particularly as no name has been mentioned.
Only fans is a public platform. If the employee played for her local football team would a manager be allowed to talk about that?

Why is no one concerned that the employee might be being exploited and therefore need help ? Only fans might be sex work and, if so, MN usually takes a firm view about the dangers to women of being sex workers.

And for those of you who thought policemen should be sacked for going to see lap dancers. Shouldn't a NHS worker be sacked for being a stripper (if that is effectively what she is doing)?