Employee on onlyfans

Not sure what the answer is. Probably talk to HR to cover himself.

How about a thread on Hospital managers who make decisions based on the responses they get from strangers on Mumsnet?

Apparently the steps include gossiping to someone who works outside the organisation so she can tell an extremely popular internet forum.

So?

What I definitely wouldn't do is discuss a colleague's personal information with somebody outside the organisation.

Do absolutely nothing , it’s nothing to do with anyone else.

She can't if it's against the policy of her organisation.

I think this reply is judgemental. Morals are subjective, as are character ‘failings’ and I’d certainly not judge anyone’s morals or character on a second hand Mumsnet post (or indeed simply if I knew they were on OF).

in terms of the OP’s question- If it was me I’d raise it to HR because it’s beyond my expertise to manage. It potentially strays into whistleblowing territory. I would do so without judgement about this woman’s behaviour. I would hope that she would be judged purely in relation to HR policies, and not subjective morals.

i don’t think that the OP’s husband has done anything wrong so far, even in mentioning it to the OP. I talk to my spouse about work all the time, and provided it wasn’t done gratuitously then it’s fine.

I also think he’s quite within the scope of his role to ask HR for advice. If it were a breach of policy he could be in trouble for not acting. these days, what you do in your own time isn’t always allowed to be fully separated from your job. Many organisations have strict policies on social media etc. I think it’s reasonable for him to query it at least.

Poor woman being gossiped about by shitty colleagues.

She can so what she bloody likes with her own time

Presumably if someone is happy to have an only fans and to sell their body online then they've made an informed decision about the 'risks' are are content that it's fairly likely someone or many people they know will find out. You'd hope so anyway, otherwise the issue of women going into this without considering the impact is worrying.

I'd think your husband's 'colleague' was a sad little pervert.

Whilst personally I do not like this patriarchal trick whereby women think they're empowered getting paid for men to wank over them, it is absolutely none of your husband's business, unless she is making content in work, wearing a work uniform etc

I wouldn’t worry op, she clearly isn’t that shit hot or sexy…or she wouldn’t be having to work as well

@Tantai what a thing to say. Your misogyny is showing.

What is going on with MN at the moment? There are some really nasty people popping up everywhere.

and just thinking about it , your husband has discussed work information with you at home so he’s broken confidentiality as well.

He sounds like a pretty crap manager if he’s asking his wife what to do and speaking about his staff.

Prostitution’s legal for adults providing practically all sex services - check the SM bit of her contract. Then let it go.

I'd be reporting her to HR and they can check if she's broken any of her terms of employment etc.

I'm shocked that so many people would turn a blind eye to their colleague potentially breaking employment terms.

This would all depend on the contract around social media, if there’s a second job clause, if it’s widely known amongst colleagues and/or causing a bullying situation, if any content is being filmed at work premises either in work hours or after, if it’s interfering with work in any capacity , if it’s obvious in the content where she works eg using nurse uniform to film videos or mentioning working for NHS and this is causing issues or breaches the contract.

ultimately it is a HR issue and as her manager he should be most concerned about preventing bullying, interference with work or unfair judgement. I’m sure HR have dealt with similar and know how to appropriately handle it.

Does the organisation that he works for have any social media and /or 2nd job policies?

If not, he does nothing.

I would also wonder why someone has brought it to his attention. Why does this person want to get the 'Only fans' woman in trouble?

This. Pass it to HR if it’s against policy.

but apart from that? Your DH should do nothing.

Poor woman is probably earning peanuts and trying to make ends meet. MYOB.

He maybe her manager at work , But seems as she does the OF out side of work . It's got nothing to do with him

Your dh should look at work policies and if it isn't against them then mind his own business

He should alert the church elders.

Manager, not husband. Unless it contravenes her contract I'm not sure much can be done. Would you feel the same if she was caught working in Maccys?

Well.he's not being very professional, himself is he getting his wife to ask on mumsnet?
If he has real concerns raise it with HR?

I'm shocked that someone would be so keen on reporting someone based on their judgemental feelings.

How do you think it would affect her work?

It is a potential HR issue, I do know someone who posted on TikTok when it was still a very new platform clearly in their work office and they were hauled over the coals by their company.

Plus with safeguarding if it is work or an adult nature then there is that to consider.

In my work contract we had to disclose if we had a relationship with other colleagues even though consenting adults. So we may not always like what is in our work contacts or even agree with it but if we sign it and break those terms it’s an issue. I write that as someone who was a trade Union rep for many years so in theory on the workers side and it was amazing the stuff people got up to and were then miffed they were disciplined for when it clearly contravened the terms and conditions they had agreed to.