Intense dejavu episode

Because it's not.

I haven't got an answer OP but Ocam's Razor theory states it's usually the simplest and most obvious. I very much doubt it was an hallucination in this case.

Was thinking more a bug in the audio of her partner’s phone. Something along lines of this post https://community.oneplus.com/thread/1433761
but nobody seems to think it’s a phone issue and more likely the partner is a gaslighting weirdo or OP is having a psychotic episode.

You have a very odd style of communicating OP. If that’s your normal style I do apologise but if it’s unusual for you then I agree that you should seek help tomorrow.

One thing that struck me was that you said you’d had a very good day by all accounts, as though third parties had confirmed this for you. Do you believe you had a good day or did you seek confirmation from others? Have you perhaps had a spell of memory loss? Can you remember what you did today? If not then I think you should go to A&E tonight.

I suppose the other thing to ask (I should be asleep already considering the time) is do you have any history of mental health difficulties? There's something about your writing style that's making me wonder if you're okay. Apologies if I'm overstepping!

That's fair enough. I think I would put it down to either a rant on his part that he's too embarrassed to admit to (I definitely talk to myself), or some weird phone bug.

I joined Mumsnet purely to reply to this thread. I wanted to share something I experienced a few years ago.

I took my dog out for his usual walk on my partner's farm, took the usual route. Came back and told my partner about a short cut I'd found to a shop nearby, a path through a specific hedge. My partner was very confused and said that the path didn't exist. We ended up having an actual argument about it, I even remember thinking he was gaslighting me. He got Google earth up and asked me to show him where I meant, it wasn't there. I was convinced it was out of date. I insisted he come back on another walk so I could show him, and I was 100% confident there would be a huge HA! moment, until I got there and the hedge was solid. It was incredibly distressing.

A couple of weeks later, I was asked to give my name and address to a supplier for my business, and I didn't know either. A customer came in to my business and found me crying. I couldn't even string a sentence together to explain why I was so upset - it's like I'd had a stroke. My doctor's surgery was directly opposite my shop so I walked over there and luckily they agreed to see me. I had lots of tests/referrals and absolutely nothing was wrong with me, the GP said she'd seen similar cases a few times and that she wasn't concerned.

Obviously this phone call issue is different, but I'm sharing this because:

1. I disagree that suspecting a hallucination is a completely wild and impossible hypothesis. Yes, it's unlikely, but definitely possible.

1. If it was your mind playing tricks on you, it could be absolutely nothing to worry about.

Either way, speak to your partner about this more in depth, and definitely chat to your GP.

Deja poo more like. That feeling that you’ve heard all this shit before from him 🤔

That's not deja vu

It's far more likely that you had actually briefly nodded off and his phonecall woke you but before you fully came to and picked up phone, you dreamt the dialogue. Its not unusual when you are coming to,for the waking brain to be creative with external stimuli. Say for example you are dreaming about a song and you wake for it to start playing on your alarm radio,you think you're psychic when actually you had heard the dj announce the song he was about to play,but you forgot this fact. The ringing phone probably prompted you to play out this previous conversationjust as you were waking.
You had planned to go to bed unusually early,so must have been tired. The brain can do funny things when we are tired or stressed .It sounds like you are not fully reconciled with previous issues in your relationship and this is playing out in your subconscious .

I’m not sure how you’ve immediately jumped to the conclusion of a neurological episode rather than believe that you heard it because it was actually being said.

And I’d love to know where in the UK you live where you can call your GP for a chat and have an ad hoc chat with a neurologist. The thought of trying to get through to my GP, never mind being allowed an actual appointment, is enough to make me hallucinate.

And I’m also a bit confused that you’d consider going to A&E (I did wonder if you were American by referring to it as the ED). Round here it’s a minimum 5 hour wait and I’ve seen plenty of people sent home by the triage nurse for far more than overhearing a conversation when you were pocket dialled.

How do you simultaneously have different lifestyles yet spend a lot of time together?

Why are you with someone who goes on rants all the time?

I think he just recorded that argument he had with you either deliberately or accidentally and played it back to you (either deliberately or accidentally) if that's possible on a phone. Could you ask him what recordings he has and if any of them involve him ranting at you?

I managed to make it all the way through this bizarre thread.
I wonder why you started it @flowngo if your mind is already made up - and about all the wrong things. You argued with many people and were snarky with people who tried to help.
I’m not going to beat a dead horse and rehash points people already stated so eloquently. I didn’t start out thinking you were hallucinating, but after reading your posts, it appears you’ve talked yourself into believing that you’ve hallucinated.
I wish you good luck.

I do think you need help, it is not reasonable to think you had an auditory hallucination, want to go to a and e, and sleep with the door open in case anything happens.

What do you think might happen??

Agree with this.
i can’t imagine you will get a GP appointment based on this surely??? How will you even explain why you think you need one?? I’m a bit lost for words and this isn’t what deja vu is??

a similar thing has happened to me.
I had a dancing Santa which used to play a song and sing. Literally a pound shop type thing that was battery operated. At Christmas there were too many people at our house so I vacated my bedroom for relatives and slept downstairs in the sitting room. In the middle of the night most nights this thing would start up spontaneously and play its song and do it’s dance but in the background, it would play excerpts from the day’s conversations through its tinny little speaker. They were mundane conversations though - like my Nan talking to me about school. It was almost like it was both recording and playing. I ended up removing the batteries because it spooked me so much.

a lot of woo stuff happened to me in that house, including phone white noise, messages appearing out of nowhere and just white noise, so I did put it down to woo. Not saying you should but that was my explanation.

This thread has also made me feel uneasy. It feels to me like OP has lost touch with reality? Seems to be on a 'high' .. not my intention to offend but think more like mental health related

So, the shop wasn't there either?

You'd imagined the whole thing?

Why not?

What's your theory then?

It truly is a convoluted pathway between the two points.

If she had imagined the butt dial and conversation and none of it had happened, I would think there might be a neuro problem. But, the butt dial happened and a "mystery conversation" was heard. That's just not the way hallucinations work, or temporal lobe epilepsy or déjà vu.

My concern is either:
1--the DP is pulling an elaborate hoax on her to make her feel like she is losing it.
2--DP doesn't want to admit he had this conversation with someone so is denying it.
Neither of those are acceptable behaviors from the DP.

Reasonably, it could be that he butt dialed her but she ended up hearing a conversation that came through the line and has turned it into more than what it was. Connecting dots that are a stretch.

You would go to an emergency room because your DP butt-dialed you and you think you heard voices that were your DP's but not your DP's about something you have talked about in the past but he wouldn't talk about now. Even though the butt dial is real, concrete and provable, you think you've experienced an auditory hallucination, even though you have never had one before.

You do realize that when someone has auditory hallucinations, they don't show up in reality, as in, an auditory hallucination--you "hear" the phone ring, you "hear" a conversation/voices. But when you check, you had no incoming calls during that time.... IOW, there is no auditory activity before the hallucination. You had a phone ring, in reality.

But hey, maybe you'll make medical history. 👂👀

This isn’t de ja vu and I doubt you’re having auditory hallucinations. I imagine it’s incredibly rare to have a random hallucination of a 28 second phone call without a severe mental health issue. If you really believe you hallucinated this then you need to see a doctor ASAP. If I was in your position my first thought would be that he’d accidentally pocket dialled me whilst talking to another woman. It usually is the most simple answer. Cheating men can hide that whole side of the personalities from partners very easily. And the fact that he’s denying any of that was said is another red flag (and that you believe him and are instead blaming a hallucination?!). Either you have a mental illness or he’s a liar.