To be furious with DP

I’d be telling him to get the bus from here on in, that way he won’t be inconvenienced by his partner and child.

These mornings aren’t working for you, and he’s made it clear they’re not working for him. I think it might be a good idea for him to catch the bus to work for a month while you deal with becoming ‘less fucking tired’.

This isn't sustainable surely. How long is the bus trip?

Of course you’re not bu.

My husband is the most punctual person I know and goes mad if he’s a second late anywhere.

I could imagine if we had a similar scenario he would say something similar in the heat of the moment.
Clearly, it isn’t ok and I’d be quite rightly furious as well and would expect an apology.

Why on earth do you have to drop him at work? That seems a ridiculous set up.

Why not let him take the car at least on days when you aren’t planning to be out and about with the baby?

He needs to get himself to work. And apologise. Hope you feel less tired soon. 💐

Sounds as if you have two children to look after.
I would tell the adult one to be a grown up and get his self to work.

Of course you’re always fucking tired. You have a 2 month old. What a knob. Tell him to get a long term booking with a taxi.

This isn't working is it?

So, if I loved someone, and they'd had not very much sleep, and both they and the baby were fast asleep when I was getting ready for work; there is not a chance I would expect them to both get up to drive me, an adult, to work a distance away that is achievable by bike or public transport. Because, I'm not a selfish wanker.

There's an easy solution to him being an arsehole op, which you are in control of, don't drive him any more.

I accidentally pressed YABU. Of course you are not being unreasonable your 'D'H is being a dick.

Why do you get up and drive him to work when he can get the bus? On the back of the sleep deprivation that comes with having such a young baby too! Very dangerous if you ask me. Do you collect him from work too?

Stop this arrangement. It can never work for you. He can get the bus or drive himself. Say no and mean it. If he sulks then let him.

I assume you are on maternity leave and he probably thinks it is a big extended holiday. It is anything but that, as you know.

It's his responsibility to be able to get himself to work, and after being spoken to like that when I'm doing all night feeds and probably everything else relating to baby I would be ensuring he knows that. I'd just start saying 'I'm too tired to drive this morning, it's not safe, so you'll have to get yourself there.' Which doesn't seem like a lie if you could barely keep your eyes open. It's not safe for anyone.

Unless there's a medical reason, he can learn to drive if he has a job that requires him to travel to different places or get himself a bicycle.

Time he learned to drive, or gets the bus bought to buys bicycle and - and helps change his own baby's nappy!

Sounds like a complete loser to be honest.

Then just go back and press YANBU. That's all you need to do.

I am so angry on your behalf. Of course you are tired, you have an 8 week old baby!

Your partner has behaved disgracefully and in a very entitled way. Not being able to drive is not the problem, his inability to function without a person chauffeur is.

I hope he comes to his senses and delivers a grovelling apology today.

Is he normally this unreasonable? Has he been a supportive and equal partner before and since your baby was born?

Driving tired is as dangerous as drink driving. Infants in car seats don’t do too well in car accidents either. You are not safe to drive with such sleep deprivation. Your DH needs to find another way to work. He needs to learn to drive or take a bus or arrange a lift.

FFS, the useless fucker needs to get a bike, and start learning to drive. But he really does sound like a lazy, selfish arsehole, I hope he has some redeeming qualities too.

Frankly I think you need to kick him awake every 5 minutes while you’re up overnight and say oh I wonder why I’m tired. Am I just pathetic or is someone looking after our baby while you sleep?
if you can’t bring yourself to do that, message him. 12:30pm I’m up because I’m feeding our baby. Im tired because I look after our baby not because im lazy you dick. 2:30: I’m up rocking our baby. I’m tired because I look after our baby round the clock, not because im lazy. You could rock baby as well as I could, but you don’t offer because you are too lazy. Then you call me names.
4:45 just wake him up. I’ve been up half the night so if you want to leave on time take baby for an hour.

and do that every night, he’s a lazy selfish fucker happy to watch you struggle and then to have a go at you for it.

Nope I'd be telling him to get the bus from now on. Or learn to drive himself!

Time for your 'D'H to get some driving lessons....

Wtf have I just read. Tell him to get a bike.

He sounds lazy, ungrateful and mean. Not great characteristics in a husband or a father.

Then he needs to get his arse in gear and learn to drive, doesn’t he?

Either that on tell him he’s on all the night wakings…

Simple solution. He can take himself to work like a big boy. And let him do some night feeds.