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Dating thread 159 - Should I Stay or Should I Go Now

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DaffoDeffo Wed 15-May-19 19:52:47

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps

lifegoes Wed 15-May-19 19:56:05

Place marking

StealthNinjaMum Wed 15-May-19 19:56:59

Thank you for starting Daffo. Your comment about anal on the last thread cracked me up.

kermitrulesok Wed 15-May-19 19:59:56

Hi everyone, blimey these threads fill quickly! So have a new iron Mr Medic, setting my age things on Bumble has been ace!

SuperHairyArsedMan Wed 15-May-19 20:00:16

Thanks Daffo

'What are your wishes in life?''

Placemarking on this question in a dating context. I think I could only answer facetiously 'my life is 5/8ths done (if I'm lucky) it's a bit late asking now!'

lifegoes Wed 15-May-19 20:01:31

@vwman I'm really confused. What is getting blocked your messages? Or are they blocking you?

I've had worse said than that on POF and it wasn't blocked.

vwman Wed 15-May-19 20:03:02

What she meant is what is on your bucket list I think

lifegoes Wed 15-May-19 20:04:12

When they say "wishes in life" do they mean as in what do you want from life? IE travel etc

Cos for me a wish would be to win the lottery, for my child to have a healthy life. What I want and aim for are very different.

Or I'd wish for them to fuck off with rubbish messages like that. 😂

StealthNinjaMum Wed 15-May-19 20:05:38

lifegoes grin

vwman Wed 15-May-19 20:06:00

@lifegoes I send the message and it isn't shown on the system as if I had not sent a message. I send a message without a certain word in it and it goes through.

A couple of nights ago I said goonight to some I was having a conversation with and she must have thought I was being really rude by just stopping messaging mid conversation

Crustaceans Wed 15-May-19 20:07:55

At least I’d know how to answer the ‘do you do anal?’ question. 😂

ccgirr Wed 15-May-19 20:10:33

Daffodeffo I’m with you- I get the anal questions 🤣 maybe I prefer to the deep ones. Not sure I would get away with anal and deep if I was you vwman. Maybe you should say your account was hacked and restart?!?

WarIsPeace Wed 15-May-19 20:11:11

Blatant place marking

SuperHairyArsedMan Wed 15-May-19 20:12:59

Yes it would have to be a bucket list for me. Except I don't have a bucket list. I'm also rubbish at annual appraisals and SMART objectives.

I am conversing with an as yet unnamed lady and finding it quite difficult to keep cool about it, though we have yet to meet. I am therefore a bag of nerves which I will have to fix before we meet. Any tips ?

vwman Wed 15-May-19 20:13:05

I am beginning to think my account has been hacked, I have arranged a date recently and a couple of days later she messaged to say she had changed her mind and would not tell me the reason.

lifegoes Wed 15-May-19 20:13:19

That's bizarre @vwman I've never had that.

And funny enough all my anal questions have come from POF

vwman Wed 15-May-19 20:17:15

@lifegoes if someone was asking that question for me on a hookup site I might get a few offers

shitwithsugaron Wed 15-May-19 20:19:39


Eesha Wed 15-May-19 20:20:19

placemarking too

@vwman I believe POF only block men with those words in their messages. I think do a new profile then just be more careful with your wording!

lifegoes Wed 15-May-19 20:21:04

@vwman if your account was hacked, I'm sure they would be sending messages and would get messages back.

I'm wondering if you have been reported and they are blocking words on your messages for that

StealthNinjaMum Wed 15-May-19 20:22:49

Maybe vwman could message some women on this thread to see what happens?

vwman Wed 15-May-19 20:27:45

so I have deleted POF account now anyway, hopefully it will not happen again if I decide to set it up again. At the moment I am totally off the apps.

May try bumble, I had an account but really didn't put effort into the profile it was a bit of a trial, this time I will do it properly. The only issue is if I get no matches, its only a few minutes each day as I cant really browse to see what sweeties are there

SimonJT Wed 15-May-19 20:34:07

I haven’t watched this weeks GoT yet, I facetimed MrNoName earlier and he ruined it for me, that should be an actual crime.

shitwithsugaron Wed 15-May-19 20:37:02

@SimonJT get rid! GoT is a sacred topic, spoilers not welcome. Just you wait grin

DaffoDeffo Wed 15-May-19 20:40:53

vwman I can never really tell if you're being serious or not with your posts. But assuming you are, sometimes the way you talk about women is derogatory and I imagine that plus your potential sex talk is why you're getting reported. I've never reported anyone but I assume some people do it fairly quickly

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