Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.
He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".
After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".
Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.
He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?
Boyfriend sounds like he was nervous, instructor sounds like an arse. Are you sure your compatible? Or give him another chance to overcome his nervousness
its the instructor who sounds like an absolute bell end here! How unprofessional of him!
You arent coming across very well... you told him he was overweight so he wanted to come to your fitness class.... then were cross with him when the instructor basically humiliated him??!
Just leave him and let him find someone who actually likes him to date him
I do martial arts, and our instructors are professional, noway like your instructor, I think that the instructors' behaviour was making him feel even more nervous. There are ways to get somebody to participate in class, without calling them a girl, or being mean to them.
Your karate instructor sounds absolutely horrible. Your DP was obviously nervous and felt awkward and then he got picked on for it. A decent instructor would a) not have been a sexist prick by calling him a little girl and b) would have been more encouraging and less of an aggressive twat.
You don't sound very compatible - break up and let your DP find someone he gets on with better!
